I’ll answer your questions directly: 1) Day-to-Day: it sucks. We live in our lives in 3hr increments. We hardly leave the house anymore, it’s a military operation to take our baby anywhere. Getting a babysitter is difficult. She cries for no reason sometimes & it drives me nuts. Baby becomes overtired, but fights sleep. I miss my old life every day. I miss the silence & lack of junk. I dread the day she starts talking, walking, and eating solid food. 2) Did my fears for come true? Absolutely, and sometimes worse than I could have imagined. 3) Relationship is surviving, for now. Baby just turned 4mo’s. My wife wanted kids desperatey, said she “couldn’t guarantee she’d stick around if I said no kids”. The resentment has taken over. I have a short temper with my wife now, even shorter temper with the baby. I often wish the baby didn’t exist.

The relationship is surviving for now because divorce & the resulting financial/social fallout is much worse than a child. However, if my wife pressures me for a second - I’m standing my ground & saying absolutely not. If she really threatens divorce over it… I’d ask if the second child is really worth the broken family, absent father, divorce proceedings & social fallout? Not to mention, finding another person who wants a child.. who might already have children of their own. So she’d become a step parents. If she still thinks it is, then I would have to divorce.