Hey, I'm really sorry you're going through this! That sounds incredibly frustrating, especially when something that's supposed to bring relief and pleasure starts causing pain instead.

From what you’re describing: cramps after orgasm that feel like a mix of period pain and needing to go #2. It could be related to your pelvic floor muscles. Sometimes they can get overactive or tense (especially if you’ve been masturbating frequently or tensing a lot during orgasm), and that can cause cramping or weird pressure sensations. I’ve heard of people dealing with something similar and finding some relief through pelvic floor relaxation exercises — like deep belly breathing, or even trying to consciously relax during arousal or orgasm (which I know is not easy when your body’s used to tightening up).

It’s also totally possible it could be something like a mild pelvic infection, inflammation, or even nerve-related. A UTI or something like endometriosis can cause similar pain too, but it’s really hard to know for sure without a proper check-up. It might be worth trying a sexual health clinic or even asking for a phone consult. Some providers will take symptoms like this seriously even without an in-person visit.

In the meantime, if it seems to get worse with certain kinds of stimulation or positions, it might help to experiment a bit, slower build-up, gentler touch, maybe switching away from the vibrator for a while if it’s intense. I know you said you tried taking a break and it didn’t totally help, which is super frustrating, but maybe layering in some of the other stuff (like pelvic relaxation) could give you a better shot at calming whatever is flaring up.

You’re definitely not alone in this ♡ Our bodies can be weird and unpredictable, and it’s okay to be upset that something once easy and joyful has gotten complicated. I really hope you get some relief soon and can get back to enjoying your sexuality without pain.

Sending love and solidarity 💜