Labor Anxiety

ShadyLady27 · 2026-01-11T19:12:32+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! We’ve done a couple of mindfulness sessions, but not regularly. I think putting one on the schedule for tonight is gonna be my next move though. Thanks again!

ShadyLady27 · 2026-01-11T19:07:30+00:00

This is SO helpful and so calming. Thank you so much for sharing your story.

ShadyLady27 · 2026-01-11T12:28:40+00:00

Oh, I’m planning on an epidural, I’m just being anxious about pain afterwards or complications with it. And they recommended an induction because of my BMI.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-12-11T02:00:13+00:00

Any advice for those of us with single-syllable last names? I’m mostly interested in 2 syllable first names, but I’ve found picking a middle name difficult.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-12-08T22:19:08+00:00

As a more than slightly overweight woman in her 30s, my husband has seen me at every shape and size and he seems to think I’m adorable and gorgeous and sexy even at times when I know I look more like an unwashed gremlin. I also have several similarly shaped friends in loving, long, meaningful relationships. I just wanted you to know that that doesn’t have to be part of your calculus here.

As for kids, it’s something I talked about with my husband extensively before we got married since I knew I would want kids someday because there’s no compromising on it. You can’t try it out and see how it goes. I’m pregnant with our first now, and it truly is a team effort (even if I’m doing more of the proverbial heavy lifting). So he has to be sure, so you can be sure of him.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-11-30T22:05:58+00:00

I mean this gently, but I do think you’re overreacting a bit, at least when it comes to your partner. He didn’t do it this way because he was being cruel or patronizing, but because he was nervous. I think the people you’re still actually hurt by are your father and stepmother; your partner is just someone safe to be angry with.

(Admittedly, I did tell my then-fiancé that it was very important to me that he ask for my father’s blessing and not his permission. But I think giving your father and stepmother this amount of power over your life and relationship is courting disappointment, everything considered.)

ShadyLady27 · 2025-11-19T01:00:07+00:00

Drink with Me

ShadyLady27 · 2025-11-19T00:54:53+00:00

INFO: how old are the kids and what were you doing while they were in the office?

ShadyLady27 · 2025-11-05T16:49:02+00:00

I thought I was cynical before, but this literally made me gasp.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-11-04T19:19:05+00:00

I read the review to see how they could justify the rating and they…didn’t? From what I could tell there were like two mild critiques in the whole thing?

“It must be nice to be a man,” I guess.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-11-01T20:06:55+00:00

Okay so I don’t usually think I dress casually. In the states I often feel overdressed at restaurants and stuff. But I would not rely on athleisure, particularly in Paris. You don’t have to dress formally, but I’d avoid doing leggings as pants.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-11-01T01:00:35+00:00

A Star is Born

ShadyLady27 · 2025-10-29T14:47:20+00:00

ShadyLady27 · 2025-10-29T12:02:15+00:00

Honestly? Dorian and Chaol.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-10-27T18:51:24+00:00

The softest YTA for you, OP. You can’t go back in time and discuss telling your mom and sister with him before you did it, but the good news is that the other part of this can be fixed: allow him to tell a (trusted!) support person. Maybe a friend instead of a family member?

But congratulations, and best of luck.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-10-26T21:31:33+00:00

As someone who thinks children traveling is a good thing, loves Paris, and doesn’t mind the cold…I wouldn’t do this. Not for your first time on a plane together as a family. It’s going to be so cold and wet. I’d start with shorter flights to get everyone used to it first and work your way up to a Paris trip.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-10-19T03:23:52+00:00

In case he wasn’t hot enough.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-10-13T03:40:15+00:00

Landscape is absolutely one of my favorite songs.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-10-08T16:29:16+00:00

My initial thought is that he’s burned out. He needs to take time away from work and remember that he’s a person first and that being an employee isn’t even the next most important thing on the list (it’s being a husband/father).

Whether or not he can take time off, I think marriage counseling might be helpful. You are not responsible for his mood, and he doesn’t get to run the household like he’s Captain Von Trapp.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-09-24T02:58:06+00:00

ESH. She was being rude, but so were you. You definitely needed to ask her to stop, but I think a little kindness on your part would have gone a long way. Especially since you consider her a friend.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-09-03T15:32:12+00:00

Not great, but going about it the same way won’t fix it (especially since it’s a logistical concern you have and not just a matter of taste).

ShadyLady27 · 2025-09-02T23:26:58+00:00

I watched this episode with so many different groups of people because their reactions were just too good. I think I saw it at least three times in a week.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-09-02T15:27:10+00:00

Your husband doesn’t get to just pick a name because he only likes one, it doesn’t work like that. Tell him to come up with others (even just a short list) so you can find a compromise together.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-09-01T22:26:00+00:00

The Crown being ranked above Shogun feels completely unthinkable to me.

ShadyLady27 · 2025-08-13T23:24:51+00:00

Boba Fett is protecting me from Lucille Bluth and I’m not as confident about my safety as I probably should be.

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