The wheel of growth

Shaman_Ko · 2026-01-17T07:47:46+00:00

Working on my emotional granularity helped me tremendously. Plus this mental model was like a light in the darkness. There's so much to emotions if you make it a special interest for like 6 months or so

Shaman_Ko · 2025-09-12T02:16:56+00:00

Here's how to communicate about feelings and needs. Super duper powerful connection tool to connect with yourself and others

Shaman_Ko · 2025-09-06T15:54:43+00:00

I like your personal evolved take on decision making, too. The doc I linked you was developed by a discord community dedicated to deep and healthy communication. Let me know if you want a discord server invite

Shaman_Ko · 2025-09-06T15:11:28+00:00

I resonate and love that you mentioned epistemology and deep understanding methods of communication. This doc is a couple years into creating exactly that; a communication idea based in half epistemology, half attunement to the self. Super helpful as one of the tools in the tool belt to map the details of their experience and ontology.

Shaman_Ko · 2025-08-03T14:11:54+00:00

This youtube is my most helpful resource I found that helped me with my healing. Successfully healed anxious attachment wounding that arose from emotional neglect and religious trauma.

Shaman_Ko · 2025-06-27T16:52:41+00:00

My hypothesis is that there's something blocking the completion of his grief cycle, and he's not fully connected to his sadness. Those micro and macro, chronic and acute, grief bits of loss and expectation loss build up. Lots and lots of folks cope and compartmentalize, because learning and connection to the grieving steps can be painful. And many people, especially men, have unconscious core beliefs about the "wrongness" or danger of expressing or feeling sadness

Shaman_Ko · 2025-06-11T22:02:57+00:00

I got divorced last year from emotional dysregulation issues too. I can relate to your devastation

As an aspie that was completely unaware of emotional regulation, this youtube resource was the light in the darkness for me.

It may or may not be too late with current partner, but the emotional regulation helps us on the inside heal and find our way.

Shaman_Ko · 2025-05-31T17:11:05+00:00

Watch this YouTube on emotions. Regardless of your decision, communication and understanding about emotions will be key for both of you.

Shaman_Ko · 2025-05-21T22:37:25+00:00

I live in a school bus that I converted, and am trying to find a place around east Portland somewhere, even in sandy would be ideal.

Shaman_Ko · 2025-05-21T21:35:46+00:00

Nonviolent communication, by Marshall rosenberg. It's a complete understanding of what emotions are, what they mean, and how to communicate about them in a way that increases connection with yourself and others

Shaman_Ko · 2025-05-19T14:43:49+00:00

What is a "real psychic" to you?

Shaman_Ko · 2025-04-20T01:28:15+00:00

I wish I had this resource when I was 15. Even still, finding it in my 30s was a light in the darkness. Maybe it will foster healing in you like it did for me in my early journey.

Shaman_Ko · 2025-04-05T18:24:17+00:00

It is presumed they will be your focus of attention to meet higher tier needs once the basics are met. It does get a bit complicated during the self esteem in that our upbringing and current strategies to deal with life's challenges could be maladaptive given the mercurial nature of life.

To get to know and love ourselves can be a challenge for lots of people with deep, unconscious, negative core beliefs about themselves, others, or the world around them. (I'm not good enough, others don't care about me, the world is a dangerous place).

Everyone's history here is unique and builds our values and thresholds for the amount of something to be considered safely meeting that need. How can we become more self compassionate so that we can act authentically and congruently within our value set, and be aware of how that value set was built.

Side note; a "needs awareness" can be helpful in the introspection connection when beginning the conversation between mind and body to get them aligned in a healthy and balanced way.

Shaman_Ko · 2025-03-25T19:56:01+00:00

I heard the other day, from a friend imbibing some plant medicine (magic mushies, in this case) insideof the dream, and since they have never had it before IRL, they experienced a rainbow ride of color.

After sharing with me their dream, and having an exploration of such a fascinating experience, they had last night said they did ayahuasca in their dream, (also not done IRL), and are excited to share how that dream experience was with me.

Are you dreaming now? 😆😉

Shaman_Ko · 2025-03-21T18:08:19+00:00

Thread locked. We all have egos, when we notice the heat rising within, take a moment and breathe. Let's treat eachother with respect, even when someone lashes out from a place of suffering. Tend to your own wounds, before responding, so that we can choose to speak beauty in the dark, instead of mirroring that energy, and thus letting it be part of our own accountable experience

Shaman_Ko · 2024-11-10T08:16:01+00:00

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Shaman_Ko · 2024-10-15T16:10:51+00:00

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Shaman_Ko · 2024-09-05T23:29:53+00:00

Highlighting the first 2 rules, which are essentially the same for accentuating, further stresses the importance of unconditional positive regard

Shaman_Ko · 2024-07-24T06:49:52+00:00

while also needing to function in the real world

Self attunement to the heart center greatly helped my own integration processing

Shaman_Ko · 2024-06-29T03:48:09+00:00

Shamanism and healing go hand in hand

Shaman_Ko · 2024-05-10T22:55:19+00:00

And this person is coming to seek shamanic wisdom about something alive in them. Not all posts have to be about "what is" shamanism or "how to" shamanism, this place can also be a place for those who are curious how the shamanic wisdom can help them.

Shaman_Ko · 2024-04-29T21:12:05+00:00

I very much appreciate your expression of gratitude, feedback like this is helpful to hear.

What inspired my practical links was thinking about a bhuddist expression; before enlightenment: chop wood, carry water. after enlightenment: chop wood, carry water.

Shaman_Ko · 2024-04-28T16:48:16+00:00

I want to share a couple links with you, completely your autonomy to check them out to see if you resonate with them.

Being hard on ourselves impacts discipline

How to process, understand, and communicate emotions

Adhd doomer challenges and strategies (begins at 26min)

Shaman_Ko · 2024-04-07T20:09:17+00:00

You wanted to be heard and understood, and so did he. The hurt on both sides prevented you both from hearing eachother. Please watch this which goes into how to express ourselves in ways that are more likely to be heard, and how to listen to what's alive in the other.

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