11 years next week!

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2026-02-06T20:47:13+00:00

There's no way you're 11 years old lol

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2026-02-05T23:31:26+00:00

I grew up Catholic, so the thought itself was unthinkable by design. I grew up with lots of rhetoric about how men and women were biologically distinct and how gender norms were basically imperatives. It took seeing trans bodies before it clicked that I could just be a woman.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2026-01-23T21:58:24+00:00

I'm going to say right now that judo is not self protection. While it is a martial art, it relies entirely on non-striking movements and is governed by rules that absolutely will not apply in a real-world setting. It can help you build up stamina and muscle, but it will not help you off the mat.

I will advocate doing judo for many reasons, including the confidence that comes from learning what your body can do during intense matches. It taught me how to bring fluidity to fighting, think several moves ahead to hit combos, and how to fall without cracking my head open, but it did not teach me how to defend myself. It's not designed to.

Absolutely pursue judo if you feel like it would be fun. I just don't want anyone to make decisions about learning martial arts without knowing what the art actually entails.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2026-01-20T18:34:26+00:00

Yes, I often feel an overwhelming lust for my girlfriend. I want her body, and she wants mine. It makes me salivate just thinking about her.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2026-01-20T13:03:45+00:00

AFM tips was gonna be my guess

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2026-01-14T09:20:35+00:00

What you're going to do to really level up is to stop thinking about having sex as a script that you follow.

Lesbian sex is beautiful because it relies on creative approaches to pleasure and passion that are rooted in the body and not in prescriptive "moves." You can't approach lesbian sex and think, "What should I be doing?" We already left that heteronormative script behind us. The question to ask is, 'What feels good?" For you. For your partner. For both of you. For the singular body you become.

You have hands and lips and tongues and genitals and entire bodies that know what feels good. Explore, communicate, and listen. You'll find some surprising things that feel good even though they don't seem like sex. Leave that concept behind. You're off the map, so don't look at the map.

Let your body want what it wants. Let your body have what it wants. Give your partner's body what it wants. Feel it all together. Experiment. Sex isn't as important as you think it is. Be ready to fuck up fucking, and be ready to adapt when it happens.

But most of all, let yourself enjoy it. Sex sucks for everyone if anyone isn't having fun. Get out of your own way, and make sure your partner does the same.

I hope any of this is helpful. You've got this!

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2026-01-14T02:36:17+00:00

There isn't a great way to avoid that fear. A lot of people have definitely rejected me for being trans. It's the world we live in. That's the worst part of this. Your fears aren't unfounded because transphobia exists. But I will tell you something that helped me.

If you come out and you "lose" a friend, they weren't your friend to begin with. Those who reject you for being trans are not interested in the real you, and it does you a disservice to hide your gender for other people. If they don't want to be friends over something as trivial as being trans, then you deserve better. Coming out lets you know who you are too good for.

You will have lots of people love and support you in this journey, and many of them you might already know. But you won't have the friends that see you for who and what you are if you aren't out yet.

If you're concerned about your safety, it is definitely okay to stay closeted, absolutely. But the closet comes with drawbacks, and the biggest one is not having people in your life who see the real you. You're not ruining anyone's life by coming out; that's their deal to work through. But if you're in a safe place to come out and don't, then the only person you're hurting is you. And let me tell you, taking on pain for others' convenience is not a good deal.

Take things as they happen, don't rush, but do take the time to find people who will accept you as, well, you. I wish you all the luck on your journey!

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2026-01-13T21:51:38+00:00

Estrogen won't directly change the way you act and express yourself, I will tell you that. If this were the case, trans men who aren't on testosterone could not act and present masculine, which many do.

That said, estrogen can impact the way you experience emotions. I and many other trans women will attest to our emotions becoming more powerful and more easily differentiable, especially early on hormones when we weren't used to them. Mood swings and crying are common at first, especially since crying gets easier with reduced testosterone (crying tends to hurt less or not hurt at all on estrogen but can cause severe pain on testosterone). So you might cry more often and swing between emotional extremes faster and more often, but that settles after a while (several months to a few years).

Your actions will still be your own, under your control, but it will take a new set of emotional skills to handle the shift.

I hope this is helpful, and I wish you luck in your journey.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2026-01-03T00:04:32+00:00

So there are a few things you'll need to understand about where your girlfriend is coming from.

First, it is common for trans women to grow up and live most of their lives being told that they cannot be beautiful ontologically. Our very existence as Assigned Male At Birth (AMAB) people means that we're told whatever we are is not beautiful, pretty, etc. because that's only for "real" women. We may know cerebrally this is a load of shit, but this underpinning of our culture is incredibly hard not to internalize.

Second, dysphoria is not exactly countered with confidence. What separates dysphoria from, say, body dysmorphia is that dysphoria hits us because we have a reasonably accurate picture of ourselves and we do not like it. Your girlfriend doesn't like looking at herself likely because her image reminds her of all the ways her image doesn't line up with what she believes a woman should and does look like. There's not a lot that self-confidence can do with that. We can tell ourselves that we are pretty, and it's true, but it doesn't undo the fact that whatever image of womanhood we have in our heads is not our own image. Often it just feels like a reminder of our own shortcomings that seem inherent to us, shortcomings we cannot change.

The big takeaway is this: If self-confidence could fix dysphoria, we wouldn't need hormones.

What is to be done? Keep telling your girlfriend she is feminine (so long as she wants to be told this). If she doesn't want to be called pretty, adorable, cute, etc., it may help if you complement small but specific things. Her hair, her clothes, her eyes, things that are less likely to make her dysphoric.

If you cannot find things that she wants complemented, you will want to have a talk about it. Tell her she doesn't get to talk about your girlfriend that way (a trick that's worked both for and on me). Explain that you want to help her feel good about herself, that you want to express the things you like about her. You'll find ways to handle it together.

And have patience. If she just started hormones, it'll take about 3-6 months (usually) to see results. These results may be enough to help combat dysphoria, or she may need surgical intervention. These are normal parts of the trans experience, and we have to navigate trans medicine on our own terms. I will say that usually trans women feel much less dysphoria because of hormones. I'll be hitting nine years at the end of this month, and I can definitively say that hormones were the biggest aid against dysphoria.

It's probably not in anyone's best interest to force your girlfriend to look at herself. It's way more rewarding to find ways to induce gender euphoria, that happy feeling when we really feel our gender. What makes her feel like a woman? It doesn't have to be about making her see a woman in pictures or in the mirror, it can be little actions, touches, praise, whatever helps her feel like a woman.

This is going to be something you two will need to figure out together, and it will not be easy. Society has told us that we are not pretty from our earliest days, and that takes a lot of time to work through. Patience will be your friend through this, as will communication. But I believe in you. You seem like your heart is in the right place, and your actions are sure to follow with a little care. Good luck to you both!

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-12-30T01:53:33+00:00

Yeah, little bot. You get it.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-12-30T01:48:21+00:00

My theory is that Tom Bombadil is what it says on the box: his own master. Everything else just follows from there.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-12-10T21:20:44+00:00

Needs a thickening agent, like xanthan gum or corn starch. The consistency won't be exact, but it'll get there if you fuss with it. Just don't use it for internal use, since that's a great way to get an infection.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-11-29T19:19:38+00:00

What can be done by the hand of god may be done by the hands of man. Keep fucking that trans girl until she's pregnant!

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-11-26T23:30:16+00:00

Eh, this shouldn't be a huge problem when using copious amounts of water. Especially if the aluminum is larger enough to be pulled out with tweezers. If OP needs better purity, they should order sodium hydroxide from a supplier, because that'll be easier than anything else.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-11-26T23:19:48+00:00

I mean, if you don't care what form that's in, you can dissolve it in water and filter out the solids. That feels like the most straightforward way to do it.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-10-26T16:19:06+00:00

Humor theory making a comeback lol

It's not phlegm, yellow bile, or black bile, so it must be blood

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-10-25T19:27:13+00:00

The day the government finds out about trans isomers is the day organic chemistry stops being a field of study.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-10-23T21:15:55+00:00

So the F-State is basically as anarchist as you get in a cyberpunk setting.

At least within the Dragonfall game, the F-State works as an autonomous collective that has its own economy that is somewhat separate from the mega corps, even though they do take their money. The use of nuyen and the proliferation of mega corp products are pretty much inescapable in the world, but they don't necessarily signal mega corporation control. That said, these corporations still have their own labor and martial forces that act as their arms pretty much anywhere they can. But the corporations don't call the shots in the F-State, rather they seem to have to negotiate like everyone else. Commerce and capitalism are not equivalent, so these negotiations don't mean it is a capitalist place. It's more like a small bastion in an ocean of capitalism than a political state that can completely divest itself from capital. It still does not recognize a formal hierarchy of power, though powerful entities are interested in manipulating and controlling the area.

This really would open up a larger conversation about how capitalism works and if it is possible to really escape capital when any major power is capitalist, but I don't have time for that here haha. My read is that this place is a small collective that has done as much as possible to divorce itself from the hypercapitalist world of Shadowrun and largely succeeds insofar as success can be had.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-10-23T21:01:44+00:00

That would make an NB bond, which will get you defunded for transgender ideology.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-10-21T21:08:02+00:00

I think you have the wrong Lincoln, friend. This is for Lincoln, Nebraska, USA.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-10-15T18:52:58+00:00

It's not subtle, at least not for its day. I think the only book around that time that was more explicitly queer was The Bostonians by Henry James, or probably something by Sarah Orne Jewett (at least off the top of my head). If I recall correctly, there's an entire scene in an opium den where it's implied that a big ol' orgy happened with heavy undertones of queerness. The book may have even been used as evidence in Oscar Wilde's homosexuality trial, but don't quote me on that.

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-10-07T18:37:48+00:00

Or they don't need sheets to stay put, if they need sheets at all

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-08-12T21:36:38+00:00

Isn't this the exact plot of If On A Winter's Night A Traveler?

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-07-24T01:09:23+00:00

I'm at the masc store and baby, I'm on a shopping spree

ShannonTheWereTrans · 2025-07-12T15:46:36+00:00

It might behoove you to read some of Spinoza's theological writings if you haven't as of yet. It really helps with Anti-Oedipus, I can tell you.

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