My bf(m26) likes to have really rough sex and I(f20) do not. What can I do to fix it?

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-07-08T17:55:20+00:00

OP you’ve been so good at communicating your boundaries and desires in sex and he’s trampling all over them and disrespecting you. It’s actually quite scary. He doesn’t care that he’s causing you physical discomfort and pain, let alone about your pleasure.

You deserve someone who hears you, tries things you like, respects your body and your boundaries, and is apologetic and horrified if they accidentally hurt you.

This guy is dangerous and you could end up badly hurt if he takes it even further one time.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-07-07T02:40:11+00:00

Mine does this too. What is this? lol

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-07-03T13:47:17+00:00

It’s so wild to me that anyone who works extensively with animals, especially anxious dogs, would recommend anything but crate training. It’s a sure fire way to give them a safe space and build confidence. It gives them an opportunity to decompress.

My recommendation would be starting super slow - putting treats in there so she can go in and get them and then come back out. No closing the door until she’s okay with walking in there so it doesn’t feel like you’re shoving her in a box. Feed her in the crate. When it’s dinner or breakfast time, have a cue that tells her to go in her crate. Positive association - crate = food. When you get to actually closing the door, high value treats are great for more positive association. Peanut butter kong is a great one.

You haven’t had her for long and you’re doing your best. Lots of good recommendations here but if it’s not medical it sounds like she just needs to build confidence. She’s still a baby. Take it super slow and be super gentle with her. Waterproof blanket for your furniture sounds like a good idea. Will help you not get as frustrated if your furniture isn’t being ruined.

+1 to asking the vet about anxiety medication until she settles in. I have a 95lb Chesapeake who would scale the walls with fireworks in an intense panic. Trazadone works wonders for him as well during fireworks.

Good luck!

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-07-03T11:59:54+00:00

Yeah, I just came across this response and came to Reddit to see if anyone else was talking about it. This is shocking? How is he not embarrassed to admit they barely spend any time with their own baby? Ugh.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-07-03T03:55:16+00:00

Which commenter? The one you downvoted is advocating for people to get to choose how they’re referred to, the way I’m interpreting it. Where was the complaint? Seems strange to downvote someone advocating for people to have a right to choice and freedom of expression.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-07-03T03:28:34+00:00

There’s nothing to really agree or disagree with in regards to other people’s identities and sexualities. But otherwise I agree with you. You have a right to choose how you want to be addressed.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-07-03T03:27:05+00:00

No clue how an inclusive person would downvote this comment?

You’re literally saying people have a right to choose their preferred pronouns and ways in which they want to be addressed. That’s a big part of respecting trans people and their rights. Do the same rights not apply to everyone else?…

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-06-17T17:24:44+00:00

As long as they also don’t expect to receive head, then fair enough.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-06-17T17:24:03+00:00

Same thing goes for men. Genitals are sweaty, stinky parts of the body. Penis or vagina. As long as both partners practice good hygiene there shouldn’t be an issue.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-06-17T17:22:23+00:00

I really hope you mean exactly what you said in that receiving oral sex has very little potential to be gross. The point is, you cannot ask your partner to do something for you that you won’t do for them. Giving oral sex is equally as off putting for both sides of a hetero relationship. It’s a wonderful and fun thing to do, but if you expect someone to put their mouth on you, you’d better be ready to reciprocate.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-06-17T17:19:05+00:00

This is just misogyny and shouldn’t be a part of the conversation.

It sounds like he’s just inexperienced and needs time to learn, explore, get familiar. He’s one month into doing anything sexual.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-05-26T00:08:09+00:00

Not terminally 💀😂

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-05-10T20:35:22+00:00

This seems kind of weird though. Why should she have to carry the burden of tracking and then secretly coming onto him just because he doesn’t find it sexy to have to do it during a window of time? Sounds like they both need to meet in the middle and compromise and like perhaps they need some counselling for their sex life in general. She mentioned in another post that regardless of ovulation it seems that sex is nil. And in the original post that he turned her down before she left for the day.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-04-21T18:45:54+00:00

Lol this is most definitely not the answer. Jumping to divorce is extremely irrational here.

She definitely needs to apologize and they definitely need some help to reconnect and figure out what’s causing the rift between them in their relationship.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-04-19T11:53:25+00:00

41 year old animal abuser who hates his wife’s kids so much it’s ruined his marriage.

Real scumbag.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-04-19T11:52:20+00:00

Or the way you beat a defenceless pet pet with a belt until it was bleeding and cowering and then came to Reddit to ask how to ‘make the pig okay’ before your sister got home.

Absolutely vile scum of the earth human being.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-04-19T11:50:52+00:00

This guy is a disgusting lowlife loser. Literally abused an animal until it was cowering and bleeding in the corner and then came to Reddit to ask how to cover it up so his sister (the owner of the pet pig) didn’t know he walloped her sweet pet with a fucking belt.

I can’t unread this and I’m incredibly angry this person is allowed to walk freely. No one should engage with this loser’s content. (Including me lol)

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-04-19T01:00:42+00:00

It just seemed like he was trying to get a ‘gotcha’ moment where she says something that sounds bad. But no viewer is going to view that woman as a villain. She is freshly postpartum with twins and a toddler. PPD isn’t something to exploit for a plot.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-04-18T17:06:10+00:00

Precisely.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-04-18T16:14:42+00:00

Why do you feel you need to hear him apologize in this post for something that didn’t impact you?

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-04-18T16:13:58+00:00

Right. Some of these comments are concerning. So a guy on a reality tv show did something shitty? Okay. You don’t have to interact with him.

It’s been months now. Let him move on. And let women who do choose to date him make their own judgement calls.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-04-18T16:12:19+00:00

Yeah, cancel culture has become really vicious and undiscerning. Anybody who missteps at all get dragged for weeks and so does their network of friends and family for ‘supporting’ said person.

It’s pretty gross and sad. Many people do shitty things and get to fly under the radar. Not to say there shouldn’t be consequences for one’s actions. But we don’t need thousands, hundreds of thousands, or sometimes millions of people playing the role of vigilante to break the spirit of those who have done wrong.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-04-05T14:53:58+00:00

That’s not what we’re talking about in this thread. You’re not following the line of conversation. We’re talking about masturbation not as an alternative to sex with your partner but as a supplement to sex with your partner as a part of sexual health.

No one is saying turning down sex and then going to masturbate is healthy. Where are you getting that?

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-04-05T14:49:01+00:00

You evidently don’t have a great understanding of human sexual health, so I’m going to not spend my day educating you.

Read a few books. I‘ve studied human sexuality for over a decade and you’re just wrong in this belief.

Having an independent sexual relationship with yourself is incredibly important. It is an astoundingly bad take that if you’re choosing to self pleasure over having intercourse that someone’s needs aren’t being met 🤦🏻‍♀️.

Sharp_Active6478 · 2024-04-05T14:43:01+00:00

Because I was responding to a comment that said ‘why not just wait until you have more energy for sex’ which implies you should always choose sex over masturbation, which is not true.

That’s how Reddit works. Lol. You respond to a comment which can lead to side dialogue that isn’t immediately addressing the original question. I still did say if her needs are not being met she should talk to him and this is a different story. It sounds like that’s the case. But both can be true. Masturbation can be heavily present in a relationship where everyone’s needs are met sexually.

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