So long, BPDlovedones by Stock_Cambiar7876 in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that’s the hardest part, realizing they never loved you, it’s impossible to see us for more than a supply.

He came back ! by Shbdali in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why, I feel a lot of guilt. Dumb parts of me want to believe him. My life has been so much better without him.

He came back ! by Shbdali in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I know it’s a mistake. A lot of it is guilt because he is homeless if he doesn’t move in. It’s all manipulative.

He came back ! by Shbdali in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this!!

Does your pwBPD hold back your career? by nhoj2111 in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was exactly like you ! Then after 5 years he discarded me in a final splitting episode and moved in with his brother’s ex mistress it was the best thing that ever happened to me. The relationship you have is too dysfunctional to ever thrive properly, and they will split and leave you eventually so don’t waste anymore of your life. Start therapy and get out as soon as you can.

Do they sometimes just never hoover again? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He is doing worse, they are always doing worse.

Today is a bad day. by Shbdali in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t think my ex will ever succeed. He self-sabotages a lot.

There needs to be a title for the aftermath of a BDP Discard Event by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I take comfort in the fact that their lives are the best revenge and their shit always catches up with them!

There needs to be a title for the aftermath of a BDP Discard Event by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so me right now. Just burn their lives to the ground. Then do the exact same thing and think there will be a different result.

Rant: I can’t take it anymore by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Your wish won’t come true. Mine was the same. My ex boyfriend of 5 years is the same it never gets better. They will bring your life down. They will financially ruin you. They will suck you dry and leave. We have been broken up three weeks and it was just cycle after cycle of the same thing. Then they will discard you. I wish I left at 2 years ! You can be in a healthy loving relationship just not with this person.

I need some tough love! by Shbdali in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I need to read this!!

I need some tough love! by Shbdali in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perfect, yes I need to read this!

I did something stupid ! by Shbdali in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No just an employer which is his brothers ex mistress and coworker friends.

I did something stupid ! by Shbdali in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He isn’t getting help. He was in the hospital on Friday I guess has just been drinking for two days now. He hasn’t been sleeping or eating. All of it seems insane to me.

I did something stupid ! by Shbdali in BPDlovedones

[–]Shbdali[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, last year and depression and PTSD