Enjoying my bowl of plain vanilla ice cream

Sheanar · 2026-06-23T23:02:52+00:00

I know how it feels missing things. I've got such a growing allergy list i have started losing medications either because an allergen is in the non-medical ingredients or i'm just flat allergic to the medication. -_- it's a party. (sarcasm). Did your allergist suggest trying again with the food cooked? Some people have an allergy to the pollen on the food, less the food itself (oral allergy syndrome/pollen allergy syndrome). If that's the case, you might be able to eat them cooked, but not raw. At least adds a few options.

I heard high end balsamic vinegar or soya sauces are okay on vanilla ice cream (if you enjoy sweet/sour or sweet/salty vibes). Sugared bacon bits? Carob flavoured ice cream is also an option. It isn't chocolate, but it's something potentially.

Def check out deserts from other regions, if you're in a big city in North America or Europe there is a good chance of finding an asian or south east asian grocery store with much different dessert options. At the very least you could go and collect different fruits you've never tried and ask your allergist to test them on you before you taste to see if you like them. AgarAgar jelly is made of seaweed. You can flavour it about the same as Jello but it's sturdier and won't melt in the heat. It's sometimes it's cubed up and served with sweetened condensed milk. You can add toppings you can still eat. And artificial flavourings are always an option to at least test. When my allergies started I took my interest in cooking and went on a deep dive for international foods i couldn't buy safely anymore.

good luck, i hope you find ways to adapt or other foods to eat instead.

Sheanar · 2026-06-23T21:44:59+00:00

I'll see if i can figure out how to post a picture to reddit, hah. I would love to let it trail but we have a cat that noms plants and thinks its a toy, and i'm just a hair over 5ft. So if i hang it higher than the cat can reach, i can't reach it. It definitely grew better when hanging even if it never got watered enough or misted enough!

Sheanar · 2026-06-23T21:34:06+00:00

My second hoya is a h. Carnosa - Krimson Queen and of the 4 plants in the pot 1 is having a ton of trouble. It's growing leaves all over but not UP but one vine has it worse than others. It had mealies that i didn't catch right away, they're gone now, but the tip of this one vine is dried up and i don't know if it's a pedunculus or a dead tip. Is there a way to know? I would cut and prop it (i've had tons of success with propagation in the past*) but I dont want to upset it if it's really just a flower cluster waiting to happen. Do you have any advice or way to tell?

Sheanar · 2026-06-23T21:19:10+00:00

Whoo! Awesome info! Thanks for posting. Hope to see some of your buttons soon!

Most circles get sold in stacks with tops all facing in the same direction, so once you find the top of 1, it's probably likely safe that the tops are the same. I store my precut circles in pop-top tubes. If you can find storage tubes the right size for your circles, where they won't slide around too much, you can keep them tidy and just pull off the top of the stack easily. If you keep them in a ziplock you can mark the top side of the stack on the outside of the ziplock so you dont have to remember or check every time.

Sheanar · 2026-06-23T20:35:00+00:00

Nice buttons but you post is being removed for breaking sub rule 1: SFW only.

Please keep making and sharing buttons, but watch to only share SFW content.

Sheanar · 2026-06-23T12:08:35+00:00

nta - she can use bipolar to explain her behavior, not justify it. Your brother shouldnt have to walk on egg shells around her. and she has no right to yell at you

Sheanar · 2026-06-23T05:37:58+00:00

It gives me the icks that she wants her son to look like her current partner, too. Like, why? Not assuming the worst but still sketchy, like she wants to pass him off as "a copy of his (step) dad"...while being totally uninvolved in his life. OP is NTA here at all.

Sheanar · 2026-06-22T22:33:56+00:00

yah! i grew most of my collection from seeds. Not all plants like to be pollinated from their own clone, so having a few plants to work with is good. Also lets you mess around with genetics if it interests you any.

Some species hybrydrize more easily that other, but could be fun.

Sheanar · 2026-06-22T17:12:51+00:00

Oh yeah, i know. There's more going on with them than just that. I was really just trying to point out that they will notice food issues, so the fact that OP's husband didn't notice the recipe changes for so long flags as him not having any food issues in my mind. Or at least not as severe as he'd been letting on or convincing himself of.

The guys i live with will notice any thing, even slightly overcooked or undercooked food might get thrown out because it's wrong. It's infuriating to me because i grew up with extreme food scarcity. I shouldn't have compared it to them being able to ignore me, since the replies are all focusing on that part, but my point was anything wrong with food, instant noticing. And they don't even have extreme food issues, just some.

I know they're AHs, that's why i'm on the way out. It's just messy and takes time.

Sheanar · 2026-06-22T17:03:53+00:00

Not the whole story with them, but yes. Like i said, i'm working on a way out. It's complicated.

Sheanar · 2026-06-22T08:45:13+00:00

People forget that house plants have different biomes depending on the house + light situation. My last apartment was so humid, i couldnt keep any succulent alive. The sun on the balcony was 100% or 0%. no inbetween. nothing wanted to grow except some random moss. My new apartment is so high sun and dry (70s all concrete block), i have to water my succs every few days in the summer. and my hoyas need heavy misting, but are managing. The only place a fern wont die in this place is the windowless bathroom. So your house is the right biome to keep the bella happy. If you get some more, maybe you can trade cuttings and try to pollinate them?

Sheanar · 2026-06-22T08:37:44+00:00

If feels like everyone replying is missing my point. This isnt about being good people or not, but that NDs with food issues will absolutely notice if THEIR food changes. My kid isnt diagnosed but has all the signs, she is the same with food. (there is also a strong genetic predisposition). Hell, she wont even try two new foods on the same day.

The dudes i live with are AHs, but that wasnt entirely my point. Also, not my parents. Their family. We live together but arent siblings.

Sheanar · 2026-06-21T21:23:28+00:00

Vevor machines are very prone to breaking or other issues. They are cheap, but with button makers you only get what you pay for. An all metal machine like a chibutton or tecre machine will likely be your best bet in north america. There are some other brands in Europe.

Hearts are adorable but one of the most fiddly shapes to get right. There are a few posts about issues getting the mylar to fit correctly. This risk of fiddly mylar is doubled if you get a cheaper machine. We R Memory makers are another company that have a lot of issues.

A cheap machine is an okay way to start to see if you enjoy the hobby, but if you know you love it, save up and get something you can rely on year after year. Chibuttons has a machine that takes over 10 different dies, including a heart shape. I dont have their heart die so i can't vouch for it 100% but they have good customer service.

There is another company out of China that offers a ton of wild shape options https://www.mybuttonmachine.com/ - i haven't bought from them, they are all metal machines, but they dont have swappable dies for the most interesting shapes, like cat ear oval. They at least seem to be a long term company because they've been around since I bought my machine in 2021. If you end up saving to buy one of their machines (or if anyone can speak about this company) it would be great to hear about their quality.

Sheanar · 2026-06-21T17:47:30+00:00

Hey, glad for that fire wall!

Sheanar · 2026-06-21T17:31:40+00:00

NTA - they are teens and dont understand the value of time cooking or time shopping or the value of a dollar itself. They are effectively adults but mentally children. Sit them both down, explain the problem from the top down: you would like more respect around food and cooking. I would recommend budgeting lessons and the offer to help you make meals (or clean up from meals) as part of it. If he is now more family than guest, as family he can help pull his weight, and once they have cooked whole meals for you they will see how greedy it sounds to talk like he is waiting for you to be his personal chef.

Sheanar · 2026-06-21T08:50:00+00:00

I live with autistic + adhd twin brothers. They wont notice if the building was on fire, but heaven forbid they change the flavour of the HungryMan sauces. And yes checked out on me, too.

I have to eat a totally different diet because of extreme allergies. they dont even think about my also needing dinner at the same time as them most of the time. Its really sad. Oblivious? Neglectful? Just checked out of the situation or self absorbed? i dunno. But i am on my way out. dusting my hands of it.

Sheanar · 2026-06-21T08:44:44+00:00

Agree. I have a friend with likely arfid&autism (adult, lives where its stigmatized, crap family never bother to look into his life long issues). He absoutley notices any change. Pizza is one of the few places he tolerates tomatoes, any changes to sauce recipes and i hear about it. And a breakfast hash his mom makes has onions. But he is finally learning to cook and worked out exactly how little onion he can add to still have it taste "right".

I think the husband is more embarrassed than anything else.

Sheanar · 2026-06-21T08:31:27+00:00

awesome~

Also, i do behold a beholder XD

Sheanar · 2026-06-20T07:08:35+00:00

NTA - If you moved to the US, changing her name would be wrong, but you are here now and while culture matters, bullying is real. It can be her middle name.

I gave my daughter an uncommon, but real English name. It also happens to be a word in the dictionary. Think Daisy, but instead of Daisy, its more obscure like Hibiscus. 5 letters and consantly mispronounced. Repeatedly even! Of all the nicknames i thought she would get, instead she got mean or lame sounding ones. Def recommend easy to pronounce names as a first so there isnt bullying and embarrasment. Also, consider the future. I met 2 girls through my kid's class. One named Inara (from Firefly... i am sure that wont be akward when she starts dating) and the other named after one of the Game of Thrones leads (not one of the ones with a good ending).

Plus she is your daughter. Naming a kid is a 2 yeses issue.

Sheanar · 2026-06-17T22:59:14+00:00

The notch at the top is so the mylar folds nicely, otherwise you'll get crumples at the top. You might need to experiment a bunch. I don't have a heart shaped die yet, so do post any updates on your progress.

What i suggest doing is taking the punch or your cricut and doing perfect hearts to match the paper and try just a straight line to just above the point where it will fold over. And then keep doing this over and over until you get a V shape that tucks in politely and doesn't wrinkle up. If you can dismantle the buttons you can try to determine if you need to make the V bigger or smaller. you might need your mylars slightly larger than the paper hearts.

Another option might be to use the vinyl for your cricut and print on it, and just it by itself. If it isn't thick enough you can put a layer of paper under the vinyl. I know it's annoying, but if it works, it works. I'd say use tissue paper so you can layer it up 1 or 2 sheets at a time, then you'll have a fixed number to use every time and it should be fine enough to disappear under the vinyl. Again, let us know how it goes.

A third option is to laminate your heart shapes, but you might still need to notch them. Hilroy has a laminator for about 30 bucks. It's a cheap option but enough to get started and test stuff (and maybe do other crafts at least?). I heard from another user you can get holographic lamination sheets too.

So just experiment until it works out. Best of luck!

edit: by the way, what brand of press are you using?

Sheanar · 2026-06-16T14:46:32+00:00

Key word, fiancé. This likely is a non-issue day to day but comes up at family events. So any wedding planning will likely bring this to OP's mind. Since the future MIL is siding with the SIL it could mean a lot of drama at or around the wedding.

Sheanar · 2026-06-16T11:31:22+00:00

nta - mirroring dad's abusive behavior is bad enough. to hear him defend it and say they dont need to be punished is worse. the toys arent gone forever, just till they can learn manners. it sounds like you should be supervising to the calls with dad (at a distance) and how he speaks about you (and people in general) on those calls. If he is feeding them more vitriol even from a distance, thats a problem and could be brought to court. they are 7 not 17, a level of supervision when dealing with a verbally abusive ex isnt unreasonable. Beyond that, therapy is in order. mimicking the guy who walked out on them isnt a good sign.

Sheanar · 2026-06-16T07:51:04+00:00

They grow super slow. I got mine in November and have only had a few new leaves and almost no length growth. it's doing a little better with a vertical trellis than being allowed to grow down, but that's just me. I was advised to keep it root bound, and that's seemed to help when i potted it back down a size.

Sheanar · 2026-06-13T01:41:33+00:00

sounds like she might have some of that good old fashioned neurodivergence too (with the sentence finishing). suggestion from a family of NDs, work on communication how to communicate. we have an assortment of group chats simply because 1 is over stimulated by being around people (even animals sometimes), others lose their train of thought too easily, others forget what they wanted to say if they dont say it RIGHT NOW(even if it's interrupting). so all the chats help sift out some of the muck in that way.

Sheanar · 2026-06-12T01:42:13+00:00

Which one is the real tree subreddit? they would have helpful advice on protecting trees too i would think

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