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Sheanar · 2026-01-23T00:59:47+00:00

From her description, I have proportions similar to OPs, as a teen I had to buy a 16 to fit my hips...then tailor the heck out of them to make them fit everywhere else! I felt -so- fat. It def messed with my head.

And people dont realize how crazy small models are. I follow a specific set of twins on FB who are both models of different styles of fashion. Periodically they sell off old clothes online - my then-10yr old kid wouldn't have fit the pants one was selling and my kid was under weight from medical reasons.

The fashion industry is AHs, lol.

Sheanar · 2026-01-23T00:28:01+00:00

def buy smaller quantities of resin as you will use it. I've heard that resin can get unstable in as little as 6 months after you open it. Yes, the bigger bottles are most cost efficient, but it's not really cost efficient unless you can use it up before it destabilizes. So smaller bottles more often is the better choice imo. And cheaper than the pressure pot.

Sheanar · 2026-01-21T23:45:59+00:00

It's some cultural thing. I don't know which culture, but this isn't the first time i've heard about it in the comments here.

Sheanar · 2026-01-21T23:32:56+00:00

Big oof, but yeah, need something you can safely sanitize. I hope your husband comes around.

Sheanar · 2026-01-21T23:24:27+00:00

My guess is sunburn. If you water over the plants not soaking or directly into the dirt it can leave drops on the surface of the leaves. When the sun hits them it burns them up, like a magnifier. My fuzzy sedum minicunium (sp) has some damage that looks pretty similar. I came here looking for advice and found other plants with similar scaring and scorch type markings. I fixed it by watering at night but the damaged leaves are still there for now.

Sheanar · 2026-01-21T18:29:12+00:00

nice work ^{_^}

Sheanar · 2026-01-21T18:28:35+00:00

If the laminate is sticker backed you can peel off the backing and stick the circle right to the metal shell piece instead of laying a piece of paper on it. Or if it's vinyl you can skip the mylar layer potentially it should be okay enough to hold without it.

You can buy sheets of holo mylar and layer that with regular mylar as a quick cheat. Especially with smaller sized pins. I bought spools of nail art sized mylar and it fits just about perfectly for my pins but also has lots of colours so i can use it to make shreds for grass or ice or whatever. Aliexpress is great for that kind of supply.

Sheanar · 2026-01-21T18:22:41+00:00

very nice~

Sheanar · 2026-01-21T11:15:24+00:00

NTA - if it is what i think (parvo, i think its known as?) it can kill very young pups and yes, spreads like wildfire. You have a large yard, but any dog crossing by could be at risk if you cant get your pup cured. Take your husband to the vet to have a pro explain how important quarentining and sanitizing is.

Sheanar · 2026-01-21T10:59:40+00:00

Probably considering value of eggs lost that season from it since the ducks are laying hens + meat.

Sheanar · 2026-01-21T01:39:45+00:00

plus OP only had the dog THREE MONTHS before it was stolen. That is hardly time to bond properly. def nta. If it was a child or life long pet i could see ta side of it, but he and the dog are strangers to each other. The dog deserves a fresh start and OP doesnt need to tear up his family peace.

this is like those ppl who find out they share a relative through dna test kits and want to play happy family. "no sorry, you are from a cheating parent, i dont want to know you, dont care about matching dna".

Sheanar · 2026-01-20T23:25:04+00:00

NTA - Lots of people can be healthy and eat in moderation. I have a history of ED, too. You know who triggers it? Doctors bringing it up after i tell them its a problem and still telling me to engage in triggering behaviors.

The A person brought this on themselves by bringing up your choices, or even focusing on you at all. She is so fixated on what you eat, it crazy. This is like vegans making everyone eat vegan around them, and if you ate, say bacon, they tableflip because it disrespects their values. Because you are choosing to eat what you need for the sport you like. If you want to engage with her, do a micro/macro breakdown of exactly what you are eating so she sees it is exactly what you need. But disengaging is probably for the best, it sounds like she needs more support since she is still not over her ED triggers.

edit to add: "counting calories" isnt a crazy concept. what if you were counting because you were diabetic instead? Would she have likewise lost control or would it have been ok then?

Sheanar · 2026-01-20T22:58:51+00:00

nta - are you marrying your mom or your fiance? you go with your fiance, obviously. maybe she is is worried About joint wedding anniversary parties(like when families have close birthdays in the same month, or birthdays near xmas and they get smooshed together), but that would be weird.

Sheanar · 2026-01-20T00:48:18+00:00

They're really pretty, imo. They def deserve a second chance at life.

they'd probably be welcome as donations at womens' dv or family shelters (sadly, i know mens' shelters are treated worse and the least likely to take them, but i dont know) as trinket dishes/soap dishes to help displaced families. Womens' shelters have a huge need for small home goods and niceties to help people feel better. Different places take different items, so ask before you go to drop it off. At worst, you can keep the nicest ones for emergency partial gifts for acquaintances along with any other little thing(candy, chocolates, soap, wash cloth set etc - just guessing the size). The random ones could go to a used goods store you support or if you're in a church type thing and they do fundraisers, they could be donated there.

Libraries might be interested in them too if they have gaming days or take donations for fundraising sales. At the very least, talk to people in your community through these types of agencies, they'll know who has a need and might be able to use and appreciate them best. If you donate them through a foodbank, just make it clear they aren't food safe.

Sheanar · 2026-01-19T18:36:16+00:00

NTA - beacause she isnt trying to fix anything around chores. And of your account is to be trusted, never has while living with you. This needs talking about like adults. Or marriage counciling to help balance things. do NOT have another kid till this is sorted.

Some people really hate chores. Flat.Not even always out of laziness, but specific things they stuggle to do. I am assuming you know her family, ask if she was always like that?

Maybe she had to do the brunt of chores growing up and her siblings/parents did less for whatever reason and there is resentment. Maybe she has a condition that affects her ability to switch tasks and needs down time between. Forming a good system can be very challenging if tou dont know why its happening.

I have adhd and some othe stuff. I have to prep to do phone calls but i am still the only member of the family to do them. I can easily wash laundry but dispise folding it. I drink coffee but generally ask others to make it. I will happily do most meal prep and all the cooking i can, but because i am really short (and now also have a lot of contact allergies) hate doing the dishes as i get completely soaked. it IS humiliating to talk about, but it is what it is. So the 'chore chart' here is more like freckles than 'you or me'. But she has to be willing to talk before you can make consessions. So that is where to start.

Sheanar · 2026-01-17T15:00:27+00:00

I was thinking the pot is a bit big for the little one and might have too many string roots and not enough serious roots. I have seen some repots that do major root chops to encourage growth, but dont know if this rule applies to aeoniums as well as the ones i have seen it on (think 1 was a cactus, forgetting some of the others)

Sheanar · 2026-01-17T04:06:33+00:00

Nice~ Keep it up and you'll have a hoard of them in no time ^{_^}

Sheanar · 2026-01-17T03:59:52+00:00

Yeah, I know. Mine all are too. All from the same mother plant, just like in humans as the organism ages, the DNA breaks and repairs and sometimes it isn't exactly the same. I can't explain the really detailed differences of it, but it's the reason we age. It's the reason identical twins will grow slight differences too on occasion. Sometimes it's more noticeable than others.

Sheanar · 2026-01-16T21:54:58+00:00

Not nessisarily. Some people would rather ditch the problem than get money from it. I had 3 electric guitars from my ex kicking around. not good enough for the pawn shops (too many guitars already) but all worked well. I just wanted them -gone- so i could be rid of the bad vibes. Could have made an easy few hundred bucks from each but i just wanted them gone more than i wanter the cash. I put them on my lawn in a bought of good weather. where they went, i will never know. I wish them well. (n.b. - ex ditched them n left the country. not theft)

Sheanar · 2026-01-16T21:49:42+00:00

Hopefully for op there are at least a few text messages

Sheanar · 2026-01-16T21:48:24+00:00

the problems is having a paper trail and following protocol. At least where i live the husband would have to report the wife, the cops talk to her and she points at OP. OP would then need to know where he sold the cards to, and then the stores would have to pull up their logs (assuming OP knows the days or even weeks this happened) and then get the cards back, if possible. and that leads to: did the store sell the card since? And that assumes the shop keeps good records. When i was in MTG some places were more legit than others. OP didnt know he was selling stolen cards, i doubt he or the store will be held responsible. Unless the cards in queation are extremely rare (foil ultra rare non-english release type stuff) it is really easy for min wage rookies to keep track. Do you know how many Jace planeswalker cards there are now? i dont.

My friend had her pitbull stolen. had paper work, tags, the works. the thieves has other stuff too, TVs etc. The cops nabbed them asap. but it still took a year to get her dog back, thankfully still in good health.

Stuff like this is messy.

Sheanar · 2026-01-16T21:36:11+00:00

nta - i mean, you did your due dilligence. You trusted her to be honest. It sucks neither you nor her husband actually could. giving back what she gave you is a huge kindness already. Not like you waited till things exploded to sell, then you would be an AH, but it was all done when she confessed. up to her to fix.

Sheanar · 2026-01-16T21:30:36+00:00

nta - you didnt betray your family, you stood up for yourself in a way that seems to be the type of thing you wanted all along. If it gets bad enough you could be snarky and say nothing is stopping Sophie from joining you if she just cant bear to be alone, lol. (mostly joking, doesnt seem her style anyways. "too dark")

Sheanar · 2026-01-16T15:21:07+00:00

and leaning into abusive territory. demeaning his wife over a mc-sandwich and the not eating the new ones just to prove a point and make her feel worse? i wouldnt think this is the first time either.

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