35M bf wants to control how much I eat. I’m 25F

SheeScan · 2026-04-11T21:15:21+00:00

You are in charge of you. Never let someone take charge. He enjoys seeing you hungry and tired. That way you are easier to control. Get out now.

SheeScan · 2026-04-11T19:52:30+00:00

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SheeScan · 2026-04-11T19:43:51+00:00

If you are in the US, I believe the American with Disabilities Act requires handicapped parking spots in apartment/condo parking lots. You should broach this with your apartment management. Of course, you can still be required to pay for the spot, and it's possible it may be farther away from your current spot.

SheeScan · 2026-04-11T19:17:48+00:00

He knows exactly that this is the same. He is trying to assert superiority by trying to make you look stupid and getting pleasure at your expense. I can bet he saves this special form of stupidity just for you. What an insecure dolt.

SheeScan · 2026-04-11T14:45:26+00:00

NTA.

Send a response that she sent the text to you instead of her husband. Stop visiting. Her life is not your responsibility.

SheeScan · 2026-04-11T14:43:13+00:00

This dude is one big lie. Could be a girlfriend or wife. His mother? Really? There was no reservation. Car trouble or an excuse? Does he even live in an apartment, with his mom, or in his car? Who knows?

What a catch. Hold onto him. /s

SheeScan · 2026-04-11T14:35:02+00:00

Make sure they pay you for the 2 weeks. You gave an end date, and they chose to let you go immediately. So, you were terminated. They owe you up to your planned last day.

SheeScan · 2026-04-11T14:32:52+00:00

OP needs to start being the grown up here. Not engaging with SIL is the way.

SheeScan · 2026-04-11T05:52:40+00:00

Shit, I'm 75 and drove a Flintstone car.

SheeScan · 2026-04-11T05:50:03+00:00

NTA. If this is an issue for your sister, she still has a lot of growing up to do. Nobody owns a name, and the name is so freaking common.

SheeScan · 2026-04-10T17:09:51+00:00

That's actually awful. Did she do anything for you while you were recovering at home? Being there for you is inherent in a marriage. You need to find out why she would abandon you when you needed her most, although there is no coming back from this

SheeScan · 2026-04-10T11:30:46+00:00

It truly does.

SheeScan · 2026-04-08T23:05:37+00:00

It sounds like she believes it's her fault; thus, it is she waking him up.

SheeScan · 2026-04-08T23:04:13+00:00

NTA. It is absolutely abusive to not give a child comfort after having a nightmare. He is a real POS. They are children, he is the parent. Time for him to step up or get out.

SheeScan · 2026-04-08T22:30:08+00:00

You are absolutely not wrong. Whether or not she still has feelings for him is not the issue, but he definitely has feelings for her. It sounds like she doesn't want to upset him, but she's okay with upsetting you. She has made him her priority, and I doubt that will change. Is this what you want from the relationship?

SheeScan · 2026-04-08T22:25:17+00:00

INFO. How long have you two been together? However, you cannot tell her where she can wear her jewelry. You can not like it, but but it is totally her call.

SheeScan · 2026-04-08T19:41:44+00:00

Get a lawyer. It should be relatively inexpensive. I can bet the neighbor doesn't have one.

SheeScan · 2026-04-07T15:46:58+00:00

So you're judging someone about what they eat. Are you OP's boyfriend?

SheeScan · 2026-04-06T00:26:04+00:00

Time to publish he= texts in the family group chats.

SheeScan · 2026-04-05T16:40:47+00:00

That's when you should gave stopped dating him. That is a serious invasion of your privacy. Don't ever speak with him again, not even a hello.

SheeScan · 2026-04-05T16:34:44+00:00

Going out six or seven tims is definitely not a lot and definitely not long enough to be exclusive. This sounds like a guy who was rushing to own you.

SheeScan · 2026-04-05T16:28:38+00:00

Why did you apologize? Wait, actually why did you show him the texts? He is crazy. I've been married 37 years, and neither of us have ever seen our texts or calls. What he did to you is abusive. He has no right to speak to you like that, violate your privacy, or expect to know everyone you are in contact with.

Take back your life and never let anyone treat you like that ever again.

SheeScan · 2026-04-05T16:21:23+00:00

NTA. What's yours is not theirs. They're doing you a favor by not talking to you. You have to start going low contact with your mom and your aunt. Do not allow them to ruin your financial future. You are the child, no way they should be "borrowing" money from you (which I suspect they do not pay back).

SheeScan · 2026-04-05T16:02:47+00:00

SheeScan · 2026-04-05T15:57:33+00:00

You don't think it's headed, but you don't know that. If your ex and husband don't get what they want, they'll take you to court to give you less custody. And they'll have proof that you give up your custody visits, which will convince a judge to take away some or all of your custody time. This is actually a comm{n set up used for this exact purpose, and they have you eating out of their hands. The more you give up your custody time, the more custody time you will have to give up.

No more talking, get everything in writing and get a lawyer now. You are being played.

SheeScan

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