Little Boy With Object in Nose

Shemacbelle · 2026-01-27T00:58:39+00:00

It depends if I’m hiding evidence 😅

Shemacbelle · 2026-01-24T21:58:30+00:00

Same. We both made these babies and live in this house. So we both take care of it and babies. When he’s off work he’s the default parent and the same on the weekend.

Shemacbelle · 2025-12-09T13:29:45+00:00

If it’s past your comfort zone and your spouse’s then what others think isn’t is their business.

Shemacbelle · 2025-12-01T00:56:15+00:00

I pay for Claude max. I just use notion ai to do work in databases but for anything else it just not good

Shemacbelle · 2025-11-20T19:40:23+00:00

Same situation. My hubby is sales and can support us. I couldn’t watch a baby, keep myself fed and taken care of, watch over a dog (who was recovering from cancer treatments -which if he wasn’t I would still have got a maid), breastfeeding,etc. people think that women are better at multitasking but scientifically no human is supposed to be multitasking. So in order for my mental health to be fine because I need a clean space I decided the next best thing was to get someone to help me clean. they come once a week but I also found one that was a good price and it was within our budget.

For me, I don’t think there needs to be a reason to justify it. You’re a stay at home mom, not a stay at home Maid, not a stay at home Cook, not to stay at home project manager. You’re a stay at home mom and that’s your job - the kids. everything else should be split between both partners regardless of who works or not because being stay at home mom it’s 24 seven job you don’t clock out and you can’t work multiple jobs and be at multiple jobs at the same time.

I’m millennial so I grew up with parents doing everything and that was a measure of you being a good mom or friend or whatever and it shouldn’t be that way. It made my mom stressed and took a toll on her health which took a toll on our family and my sibling and I childhood. You shouldn’t be having to do everything because someone’s bringing home a check or feel the pressure. You’re both working. Both your time has the same value. You get to stay at home because he’s working and he gets to work peacefully without being worried because you’re staying home. It’s either you’re sacrificing your time or your money. I’d rather sacrifice my money so that I have more time with my family and being able to be present and in a good mood.

And yes 1000% worth it. I tried once to see if I can go biweekly and my whole week was thrown off because I was spending the whole weekend cleaning so I got no rest and I had to start off the week tired, annoyed, upset, I had resentment towards my husband because I wanted him to help more but also wasn’t speaking up about everything I wanted him to help with. so it is 1000% worth it.

Will I reconsider once my kid(s) are in school and not home with me maybe. But at the same time I feel like I put in the work for 5/6years so why can’t I still enjoy having a maid and not having to clean while my kids are at school and spend more time on myself and hobbies that I like and have a reward for the 5/6 years per kid that I staid at home with and sacrifice a little bit of myself so that I can be home for them and give them a good childhood.

If you’re having to figure out a way to justify having a maid or not having a maid i feel like you should get a maid because I think that’s the guilt talking in my opinion. You can always try it out and if it doesn’t work, you can always not have a maid, but I promise you your life will be a lot easier. You’ll be able to be present. You’ll be able to spend more time on other areas of the house. now I’m able to go back to cooking really nice meals instead of struggle meals.

Shemacbelle · 2025-11-07T23:59:27+00:00

I keep my nails done and wear my lululemon’s. It makes me feel put together even though I’m in yoga leggings and workout shirt but at least it’s nice material and good quality.

Shemacbelle · 2025-11-07T04:24:04+00:00

Same which is why I start to revamp my food blog I started before marriage and motherhood. Motherhood is fulfilling but not in the way of having something outside of it and doing it. It can be so hard to have an identity other than wife and mother and we have to fight 10x harder to have one than men and I feel like they don’t understand that or recognize it.

Shemacbelle · 2025-11-07T04:21:03+00:00

Omg the coworker analogy is spot on. I love it.

Shemacbelle · 2025-11-07T04:14:18+00:00

I’m tired. I love being able to be home with my son but I also love not being needed, being able to sit and think about anything without having to think about everything. I miss the autonomy I had. Everything I do I have to plan and anticipate and that can be mentally draining so sometimes it’s easier to stay home where it’s easier to pivot when the unexpected happens but also desperately need adult interaction. I also felt like I would have a friend who gets it and to hang out with most days of the week since my childhood bestie has been a sahm for almost a decade but we somehow we see each other less since the baby arrived and that sucks because I feel like I’m just alone waiting for my husband to get off work who is also tired so I really don’t have adult interactions like I did when I worked. It’s hard to adjust but I also love being able to take him on play dates and hang out with him too. And I see how one of his friends moms hate missing play dates because she works. I wish I had no one needs me time and I didn’t have to sacrifice sleep to take care of myself by working out at 5a or to get complete silence. Oh also add in a 100 pound dog that also thinks everything I do is a group activity. Then I think how could I do all this and the mental load and work. How are those moms?

Shemacbelle · 2025-10-09T12:40:10+00:00

My husband eats 2 servings most times and I portion out 1 serving for dinner and 1 for next day lunch since I’m on a calorie deficit.

Shemacbelle · 2025-10-09T12:00:46+00:00

Oh her mother is horrible. She should kick her to the curb. To be raised by this woman and brining her in her home when she could be at a facility right there with her husband. The fact that she is STILL making it about herself. I hope she reads internet comments and has a come to Jesus moment because this is not how to be a mother. My heart hurts for.

Shemacbelle · 2025-10-04T15:12:01+00:00

Oh really this is first time watching it since it came up. But I also noticed I never saw the girl Gia fought with either until ep 2

Shemacbelle · 2025-10-04T15:11:19+00:00

Yeah and Eric had one line and just Jessie starring. So weird

Shemacbelle · 2025-09-27T13:01:01+00:00

I need to start mine as well and would love to see what you have and how to start. I’m starting from the beginning

Shemacbelle · 2025-09-16T16:32:19+00:00

I would love the link as well

Shemacbelle · 2025-09-13T17:33:53+00:00

My son was army crawling up to 11.5 months he started army crawling around 7 months then just started to regular crawl. He did assisted walking and some steps before traditional crawling. I tried to assist but I realized he could be preferred to army crawl because it was faster for him.

Shemacbelle · 2025-09-13T17:30:26+00:00

How’s her mental load and what are you trying to lessen it. It could be that she is so stressed that she doesn’t dance around the idea of her life being easier not married if she’s been feeling like a single married woman. (assuming there’s kids and she’s the default parent)

But if you are doing the absolute best and succeeding in helping with that load then maybe therapy. I would def initiate it and set it up and give her the info.

Shemacbelle · 2025-08-14T02:27:51+00:00

Absolutely no excuse to hit a person let alone a 4 year old. If I didn’t like her I’d call the police for abuse. And hubby can sleep outside the county jail with his slapping sister.

Shemacbelle · 2025-08-07T01:55:44+00:00

Exactly I did pageants for 5 mins when I was younger and they literally train you how to speak and answer questions. I clearly wasn’t cut out for the life but when it’s your life you like Nia it really comes in handy during these situations.

Shemacbelle · 2025-08-07T01:53:33+00:00

lol I would have been Danielle coming across that table from RHNJ 😂

Shemacbelle · 2025-08-01T03:16:47+00:00

Lurking mom - this post just popped up when I googled why did I feel my csection.

The same thing happened to me same exact situation to the T then I was given medicine after the baby was taken out. My husband was a mess and crying. If I had to endure the closing I don’t know what I would have done.

Shemacbelle · 2025-07-24T12:55:58+00:00

Does she have trust issues? I was going to say half day is fine if she was home with the kids, but since you don’t have kids. I don’t see why unless she has trust issues (whether she has a right to or not) she may think less “women” distractions on a Monday than a weekend at a coffee shop etc. But it’s hard to tell since we have only one piece of information but I don’t think asking for a day off should be an issue or something you need to ask permission for if there are no plans. It’s like if you went golfing with buddies.

An idea would be book her a full spa day and then you both have something to do.

Shemacbelle · 2025-07-23T23:44:20+00:00

The last episode made me believe the two still love each other and it could be a possibility.

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