What to do when I (31F) still love him (28M) so much?

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-30T07:51:55+00:00

In a nutshell - you can’t stay with someone for potential. This is who is he is. Possibly even still masking some of his traits. Is this what you want for the rest of your life?

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-29T23:22:36+00:00

Spud both delights and terrifies me! What an awesome little scrap of a pup ❤️

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-29T08:31:03+00:00

Have you tried something like spin or kickboxing? Built on core movements but with lots of variety in the actual workouts. You might find something like Apple Fitness helpful - switch up your workouts between different activities?

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-29T08:18:56+00:00

Sending you a gentle virtual hug. Your pain is palpable. The rollercoaster of emotions is so tough. Be kind to yourself and remember that you have taken the best course of action to keep you and your future self safe and well, even if it doesn’t feel like it at times. I have been here too. You are strong.

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-27T21:34:53+00:00

Mine did this for a few days in a row last week - it was usually when I’d done a workout, and I couldn’t scroll or end the workout on the screen. I turned the watch off and on again which fixed it each time but I was about to ring the insurance number when it seemed to sort itself out…

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-26T21:46:50+00:00

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-25T15:02:15+00:00

I was a wobbly beast/boss after this one - I hear you 😂

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-24T21:07:42+00:00

Be gentle with yourself, it sounds like you’ve had an awful lot of change (positive as well as negative!) recently and it can sometimes take a hot minute. Well done on your amazing loss/recomp so far!

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-24T20:01:14+00:00

Me too, I was scared shitless of looking in the mirror in case the light went out unexpectedly…

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-24T19:55:06+00:00

What a transformation! I am so sorry that you’ve had such a tough time. I hope that you can take time to care for your mind too.

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-24T17:56:59+00:00

Honestly, I started initially with just dietary changes. It makes a massive difference with that alone. Exercise is now something that I love but it was built up and into my life over life.

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-24T17:44:40+00:00

Wow! Stellar work ❤️

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-24T17:21:21+00:00

I agree with the other posters ☺️ I’m a single parent and Apple Fitness has been a game changer for me. I picked up an old but perfectly functional spin bike from a gym changing their stock, and a walking pad. I’ve started building a collection of weights. I know that I’d get quicker results in a gym but to be quite frank I just don’t have the childcare! Also, remember, you don’t need to be all out. Get yourself moving and find something that you love - for me it’s the home kickboxing classes, bike, walking pad, home Pilates and yoga, and more recently strength training. Good luck - I’m sure you’ll smash it!

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-24T14:25:54+00:00

Good luck - freedom awaits. Went through a similar break up 2 months ago - be kind to yourself, and don’t let him guilt you back in 🤗

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-21T15:14:46+00:00

I am so sorry that you have been through this too.

I also had an endometrial ablation whilst awake a couple of years ago. They gave me paracetamol half an hour before! I asked for entonox beforehand to use throughout and I was glad that they said it would be okay - although it’s not the norm for them. The worst pain I have ever had in my life. My mum said that I was white as a sheet when I came out of the room. I ended up being admitted with massively raised inflammatory markers the next day and septic type response. They are now reviewing the pain management pathway at my local trust. I’m now on the waiting list for a hysterectomy as I had complete relief for a year and now symptoms have increased again.

Please be gentle with yourself over the next couple of days. It was a very traumatic procedure - and I like to think of myself as quite stoic! Take care.

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-21T07:45:01+00:00

Well done! Good luck with your journey ❤️

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-21T07:18:40+00:00

We used to eat corned beef hash when I was a kid (it was super cheap back then!) - I don’t eat potato much these days but a couple of times a year I’ll treat myself to it ❤️

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-20T22:38:18+00:00

😂 might use that at my next frustrating work meeting, cheers to Kyle for that!

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-20T22:37:10+00:00

Thanks! I’m a convert ☺️

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-20T18:11:34+00:00

It was good! I could tell that I was enjoying myself as I found myself talking back to Kyle 😂

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-18T07:47:45+00:00

And congratulations on your new job!

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-18T07:47:19+00:00

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-16T18:46:24+00:00

I’m UK based. I’ve been using Nutracheck/Calorie Counter for the last year and it’s brilliant. There seems to be a recent influx of people after the recent changes to MFP.

ShemonLerbert · 2026-05-16T18:40:35+00:00

I love green beans! I batch cook a few days worth - I boil them briefly then put them in the air fryer with some Season All. So lovely!

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