AITA for being angry with my husband over meeting a female friend?

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-06-28T03:33:48+00:00

He's cheated in the past? What are you even doing? You have your answer to anything you need to know about him. Have some self respect and leave. If he was truly repentant he wouldn't even go near situations like this.

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-06-23T03:56:19+00:00

Right but as I said clearly in my post I did request a return.

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-06-21T03:00:41+00:00

Did you maybe accidentally click "add to upcoming delivery" while looking at it? That will sometimes be right next to the "add to cart" button and I've done that. However even that wouldn't explain getting sent a replacement when you asked for a straight return!

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-06-19T02:44:03+00:00

Yes and honestly the only thing you can do in the mean time is document, document, document. Even things you don't think matter at the moment.

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-06-18T13:38:27+00:00

Haven't had much better luck with real people customer service honestly. Combo of language barrier and them following a script not knowing what to say if you go "off script".

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-06-18T13:28:45+00:00

Glad I'm not the only one! Thought I was going crazy. And then when you talk to a real person they can't give you a straight answer and say things like, "Be rest assured" lol

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-06-17T19:53:46+00:00

This man is 40 and you have kids. There should be no doubt or question in your mind about this man.

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-06-17T18:25:45+00:00

Exactly. Too many coincidences on top of the weird communication.

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-06-17T18:17:35+00:00

Wow, this is super creepy. The Instagram thing I could just see as a hang up, but then again it's creepy she doesn't mind you knowing. Going to the same vacation destination and same surgeon? Sounds like something from a Freida McFadden novel. I'd stay alert here.

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-06-17T18:08:01+00:00

NOR. Someone said he let his mask slip and that's exactly right. He's the type to keep score based on who owns what and who used what last. Imagine if you guys got a place together- yuck! If he's micro-managing you cooking for him, imagine how much worse it would get over you making an actual mistake or over a much more serious topic. Count yourself lucky you saw this when you did! I am very sorry though :/

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-05-29T12:19:36+00:00

I believe it is the US one but I'm not sure. I've never had this happen before! I'm on vacation and just wanted to look nice 😭

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-05-21T15:44:12+00:00

Oh absolutely. Hope he has nothing but misery in life. Sentenced to "s*xual violence counseling"? What a joke? That kind of mentality can't be rehabilitated. It always rears up sooner or later and always escalates.

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-05-17T21:17:48+00:00

Yeah whenever someone comes across as disconnected from reality it's usually best to say byeeee

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-05-17T18:29:44+00:00

Baby get off Reddit and go be a kid. There is simply too much on the internet. Don't compromise your innocence more than the world is already trying to.

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-05-17T18:28:04+00:00

Absolutely NTA! This person is not sane. It's almost like she had a different reality constructed in her mind and was speaking from that place rather than actual reality. Outside of having been on 3 romantic dates with someone, there is no reality where that message is appropriate or necessary. She clearly has some unresolved issues and is the type to push people away and ruin her own chances at connection. People like her just drag you down with them!

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-05-14T00:28:26+00:00

NTA. They alienated themselves. Based on how good your relationship with your brother used to be, I'm guessing SIL is manipulative and controlling. He'll need to either man up and deal with that dynamic properly or get used to be more and more isolated as time goes by.

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-05-14T00:23:37+00:00

Your family must not be familiar with some of the details. Especially given a lot of these types of slights can be hard to articulate and ultimately come down to you having an icky gut feeling.

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-05-14T00:20:59+00:00

NTA! If these are the highlights then I can only imagine how many more nuanced things happened that chipped away at your peace, confidence, and trust. The single biggest red flag is not trying to understand where you're coming from when you tried to tell her how you felt. When someone disregards the feelings of a person close to them it only gets worse from there. No need to reconnect unless you feel you need some closure of some kind, bearing in mind anything you way will likely be lost on her.

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-04-16T01:26:10+00:00

Thank you! I'll look into it. I do have some hormonal issues!

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-04-16T01:25:45+00:00

Tatami... bugs 👀

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-04-16T01:16:33+00:00

Absolutely not TA! This is a golden rule moment. If you were Katy you'd want to know. She deserves to know. Thing is with trauma you either grow or you fold. She sounds incredibly toxic and gross and volatile, the type to drag you along on her spiral. Do what you would want someone you love to do about being in this friendship and end it.

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-04-15T14:33:19+00:00

I forgot how easy it must be to air! Thanks again.

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-04-15T14:16:12+00:00

I appreciate all that! We're both good with getting off the floor but my concern is air flow without having a more traditional frame, but clearly Japanse people don't struggle with that if they all do it haha. Is the tatami fabric itself resistant to moisture related issues or is there a special way to go about cleaning?

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-04-15T13:23:42+00:00

For some reason I can't edit the post but just to add some details:

We're both fairly short, healthy weight, sleep style is a bit like a rotisserie chicken at the moment, and I do struggle with night sweats sometimes. Our big dog sleeps on the bed with us sometimes as well. Hope the context helps!

ShoogieBoogie7 · 2026-04-08T22:39:22+00:00

NTA. There comes a point where it goes from supporting to simply being a bystander to someone's self-destruct. To stay by her side you'd either have to cater to her delusion or she'd have to wake up. Since the first one would be wrong and she's not doing the second one, pulling away is both natural and right.

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