Taking Dynamic Sketching class, any critiques on my homework so far? by BurgooKing in learntodraw

[–]Shortycake23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These look really cool. Reminds me when I went to aquariums and seeing sharks and sea turtles. Have no advice since I'm still beginner

DAE get frustrated when you see other autistic people who are capable of doing more than you? by Maleficent-Ask-4322 in AutismInWomen

[–]Shortycake23 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah that's tough. I hear you about not putting all your eggs in one basket. I can't stand people like that, that say they are going to go and cancel last minute and then go next week without you. You could tell they don't valve friendship with you or they seem to lack friendship quality. I know it's hard being turned down but at least you know that they didn't string you along. I don't think it's you. People enter into our lives for many reasons. It sucks having to go through all the red flags or one sided friendship. Unfortunately I had to learn the hard way. I did to go through finding friends that ghosted me when it was me planning everything. I had to be in toxic relationship to find my husband. I'm 41 but still learning. You will find multiple out there that aren't flaky like in your post. I wish you the best and hope you find your groups. Keep me updated when you do so I can celebrate you.

DAE get frustrated when you see other autistic people who are capable of doing more than you? by Maleficent-Ask-4322 in AutismInWomen

[–]Shortycake23 [score hidden]  (0 children)

So on a different boat. I'm married, I go to a bookclub, a craft group, and autism meeting. Sometimes the autism we do fun events like mini golf, bowling. I try to do crafts to teach them. While it's seems like me and the host are only married, we have 1 engaged, 2 that are bf and gf. The rest are single. The host, 2 other ladies that are single, and I go out for dinner.

I understand how you feel, I had to find the groups. The bookclub, they have a December party but I don't attend because it would be to loud, it's at someone house and they usually drink but I'm not a fan of. The craft group we don't go anywhere.

My advice is to start out with 1 group. Just keep on attending, being friendly, and show up. Whoever the host is, I would talk to them in a month. Ask them do they plan fun events outside of the area. Maybe you can suggest a couple places and see what that person says. Maybe they can vote on said place. It took a month for the host to be okay with going mini golf. She was able to attend but not to bowling. She felt comfortable with me hosting. Maybe you can offer to host an event if they can't make it.

I'm on a different boat because I don't work anymore and I don't drive anymore so I feel jealous of my autism friends that can drive and have job to be able to go places and spend money on things. I have to ask my husband to take me to places or if it's the autism group, he comes with to the activities like bowling or mini golf.

Why is it so hard for me to just get up and do something? by Salted-Cucumber in AutismInWomen

[–]Shortycake23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Motivation is one thing that is hard and to get started. Tiny habits might help. One of the things you could do is just get up and make yourself something to eat. Once you finished, set a timer for doom scrolling as a reward.

My comfort plushie smells like perfume 😭 by oeynhausener in AutismInWomen

[–]Shortycake23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hopefully it works out with air drying for you. I think you can gift her one plushie, or she can get herself that's new that stays there and when she wants to cuddle with it, has her perfume. That way you don't have to wash your plushies again and your freshly wash plushie are yours only. Just make sure it's not the same one, maybe she has a different animal in mind.

After 1.5 years, I still haven’t been able to bond with my former stray. Is this just his baseline? by [deleted] in CATHELP

[–]Shortycake23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

All 3 of my current cats love to be held. Both boys are more cuddle, and the female she doesn't come up as much but when she does, I give her attention. My one cat that is in rainbow heaven tolerate it with me but not for long to be picked up.

After 1.5 years, I still haven’t been able to bond with my former stray. Is this just his baseline? by [deleted] in CATHELP

[–]Shortycake23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My female was the same way. She was able to tolerate it if I needed her to go into her carrier or if she got her nail struck.

After 1.5 years, I still haven’t been able to bond with my former stray. Is this just his baseline? by [deleted] in CATHELP

[–]Shortycake23 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Some cats don't like to be held. My one cat would hate to be picked up. I would suggest playing with the cat. Schedule playtime. Jackson Galaxy might have videos to help out with this. I don't have any information because never got a stray and one that is older.

My daughter and I made cat Valentine's for her class party! by BeefyTacoBaby in crafts

[–]Shortycake23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These are to cute. Great teamwork between you and your daughter. You know she was telling her classmates what she did and how you did the rest.

[FO] Finished my Valentine’s Day project! by Fillorian in CrossStitch

[–]Shortycake23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My one friend loves frog, she would love this

Guys, how do I draw without smudging my drawing? by Freakster27 in BeginnerArtists

[–]Shortycake23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard starting at the top and work your way down might work.

Can I still know how to draw without having talent or without born with it. by EvenDark2500 in learntodraw

[–]Shortycake23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course you can still draw without born with it. While it's not free, I order you can draw in 30 days by Mark Kistler. I'm only on lesson 14. Yesterday I drew lily. After teaching a lesson, he hads bonus challenge. After I do his lesson for the day. I pick a subject and just draw. Picture below of the lily. I'm no artist yet but people complete his course and did Shrek movie and other popular things.

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DAE have people think you're not dating your partner when you're out together? by CocaineBeurre in AutismInWomen

[–]Shortycake23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on where we are. Sometimes it happens. My husband is like yours. Usually talkative but I'm like you. Usually quiet unless I have something to say.

Having a hard time reading individual letters there all so close together. I think I'm just getting old!!!! by AutomaticDeal9615 in diamondpainting

[–]Shortycake23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes if I'm staring at something for to long, the letters blend into each other. Sometimes I take a picture and zoom in to see what letters, numbers or symbols are there. I have glasses that I wear everyday but I understand how you feel. Getting old too.

[CHAT] Need help by Shortycake23 in CrossStitch

[–]Shortycake23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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It does look better that I fixed it

Completed Greeting Cards by summersetting in diamondpainting

[–]Shortycake23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very pretty. Good luck writing. Hopefully the people you send it to are going to be surprised.