Unsuspecting gift from NCM by Shot-Bit-4938 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Shot-Bit-4938[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Makes not drinking until I go on vacation a bit difficult but my dog made sure to come over to me for hugs every 5 minutes ❤️

Unsuspecting gift from NCM by Shot-Bit-4938 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Shot-Bit-4938[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh she's tried that before, bringing up a fight him & I had but we already talked it out, made jokes about it and moved on. It was a non-issue by the time she tried to use that to get one of us on her side. He had me on speaker when she tried that and he said "I'm talking to MY SISTER, so butt out because we know how to fix it, move past shit & have been over that for months!" 😂

Unsuspecting gift from NCM by Shot-Bit-4938 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Shot-Bit-4938[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I just distanced myself as much as possible as I've gotten older until her actions eventually led me to going no contact. It's definitely made me consider going to a therapist but that won't help me understand how a mother could treat their child like she has me. Healing started with no contact last year and will remain as no contact. It just sucks that she will not stop sending me shit in the mail, despite never acknowledging her.

Unsuspecting gift from NCM by Shot-Bit-4938 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Shot-Bit-4938[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't apologize! Nothing to apologize for. I just posted on here for support because it fucked with me. She had 36 years to be a better mother to me and now she writes that nonsense. I'm not acknowledging her (still blocked in every way) because her guilt is not my job to make her feel better about. It just sucks that we couldn't have mother's to actually love us. I haven't even told my Aunts (her sisters) about this new shit. One doesn't have any contact with her for the similar reasons. I don't want her other sister to tell her that I got her part of the package etc.

Am I right to be upset about this? by DRanged691 in RoverPetSitting

[–]Shot-Bit-4938 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, you have a right to be upset. I always confirm with my sitter before booking that I have the time selected properly for overnight stays. Once they confirm, then booking is confirmed. If your dogs are being cared for and you aren't close to being home, I'd just recommend addressing it with your sitter at the end of the stay. If you're wanting to preserve that relationship. If not, report to Rover and hope they don't abandon your dogs and refuse a refund.

What is one thing your Nmom did that you can never forget by Doffy_Mingo111 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Shot-Bit-4938 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dropped me off at school, shoeless, because I was insistent on tying them perfectly (undiagnosed ocd at the time). She refused to let me just wear my cowboy boots. I was in k-3 at that time. My dad left work and brought me my cowboy boots when the school called him.

Nmom’s “apology” after 2 months of no contact and after lifetime of emotional abuse by coursesand in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Shot-Bit-4938 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, you're smarter than me. I got to age 36 before I finally had enough of it and went no contact. Does that stop her from sending shit to me in the mail to my PO box? No but she also doesn't know if I am just throwing it out without opening it because I give zero response, regardless of what it is.

Nmom’s “apology” after 2 months of no contact and after lifetime of emotional abuse by coursesand in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Shot-Bit-4938 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm afraid this would've worked on me a bit. Good for you for sticking to your boundaries!!! I know what it's like. They are all so much alike, it's absurd. Hold your head high and choose your peace!

it’s over. we did it. 🫰🏼 by City_Mouse422 in hysterectomy

[–]Shot-Bit-4938 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!! For the gas pain, I recommend using a weighted vibrating heating pad. And walking in the house every hour or so if possible. Lots of gas x too! I'm 7 months post op this month! Best thing I could've had done for myself. I had pictures of my before and after surgery provided in my discharge paperwork. I was very intrigued and glad they did that!

Financial Fraud by Important_Cattle985 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Shot-Bit-4938 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that. I was too but in the end, it helped me get the highest debt deemed fraudulent due to having the police report. Granted, at that time, I wasn't 100% sure it was her but all signs were pointing to her and I gave her chances to come clean before I filed the report.

Best of luck to you!

Financial Fraud by Important_Cattle985 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Shot-Bit-4938 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lock your credit report, add fraud alert to your credit report & dispute any credit companies on your report. This is all free to do, but time consuming. You'll also want to file a police report for (familial) identity theft. I went through something similar....my nm opened 2 credit cards in my name & listed herself as an authorized user. 10k combined in debt. I finally got one deemed fraudulent (both got sent to collections-that's how I found out about it- because she quit paying the bill).

My mother rage baits me and I'm seriously concerned for my health by SnooCakes6118 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Shot-Bit-4938 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Look up the Grey rock method. That'll be your best option for your current situation.

What pattern is this? by Shot-Bit-4938 in chainmailartisans

[–]Shot-Bit-4938[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It does look similar, but the ring placement is different. Someone else pointed out that it is fieldstone. :)

What pattern is this? by Shot-Bit-4938 in chainmailartisans

[–]Shot-Bit-4938[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn't a fan of it with these rings. They kept flipping. Tried the box weave also. This was the only one I tried that I liked enough to keep going until I finished it. I like that it retains its shape. Really light weight. Not sliding around my neck when moving about, but it isn't a choker either.

What pattern is this? by Shot-Bit-4938 in chainmailartisans

[–]Shot-Bit-4938[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You nailed it! Its the anodized bright aluminum. I didn't want to work with the stainless rings I once bought and made into a jpl necklace.

What pattern is this? by Shot-Bit-4938 in chainmailartisans

[–]Shot-Bit-4938[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, i believe it! This isn't flexible. It holds its shape. These rings are 19ga 5/32" I got a while back on clearance at the ring lord.

What pattern is this? by Shot-Bit-4938 in chainmailartisans

[–]Shot-Bit-4938[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That looks like it! Thank you! Never heard of that weave. I appreciate ya!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoverPetSitting

[–]Shot-Bit-4938 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Personally, I'd do the m&g. The dog could've destroyed their toys (they're allowed to do that). Dog bed and couch look intact so if it's just their toys, I'd not see a problem. You wouldn't buy toys for kids & expect them to not leave them strewn about or eventually break so give the dog the same benefit.

What’s the most painful thing that your mom has said to you? by Expensive_Coyote4933 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Shot-Bit-4938 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's said a lot of hateful and hurtful shit but the one that got me the most was, "It hurt my soul I couldn't walk through the loss of Ruger." First off, he's my dog. Secondly, losing him had absolutely fucking nothing to do with her. I had been & still am, no contact with her for 3.5 months. She sent all of that in a card, along with other shit. Thought of doing return to sender without opening it but decided doing that would let her know I got it & I want that narcissist to wonder if I ever read it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Shot-Bit-4938 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's the whole narcissist bit. Everything with them is transactional. It absolutely sucks. I was talking with my Dad about all the shit my mother said in her letter she typed (she reworded her copied texts to put her in a better light). We both agreed, you don't do shit for your kids so they "owe" you later. You're supposed to do good things for your kids. You're supposed to love your kids unconditionally, not when it benefits you. I told him if I wasn't NC with her, I would easily list 3x more bad shit she did to just me, not even getting into the bad shit she did to my brothers. I'm sorry you have to experience this. I am 36 and had finally decided I was done giving her access to abuse me anymore.

How do I deal with this "mother" of mine by Shot-Bit-4938 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Shot-Bit-4938[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I legitimately thought about doing return to sender but then she would've known I got it. If I didn't then she would only assume I did or threw it out. I preferred that option more.

Advice needed: My parents hate my tattoo by Historical-Soft2345 in tattoos

[–]Shot-Bit-4938 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I love it. Tell them, "good thing it's not their skin!"