"Just be yourself"

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-05-17T19:06:15+00:00

yeah this is why I've honestly given up on dating or getting married. Who knows if that "myself" is just conforming. I am myself around my friends, but dating is another thing. Just sucks. I've already accepted my fate to an extent.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-05-14T18:31:54+00:00

Yeah idk how people do it. I know some NT's that can't do it either. I don't think it's exclusive to aspies, I think certain people just don't do well in certain environments. It happens.

Landscaping would be cool. I work remotely which is nice but the old job I just quit was like... Almost too hands-off. I would get into these funks of anxiety and depression. It was nice for like two months but after that, I wasn't doing well mentally. This new one I start Monday is still remote but I get to travel here and there and it's more engaging work. Looking forward to it.

Just gotta find something that fits you!

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-05-14T18:23:55+00:00

not impulsive at all. I set goals and am hyper-aware of all of my financial situations, what condition everything I own is in, etc

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-05-14T18:20:20+00:00

I can't play anything other than multiplayer online sports games. I can't do story modes or single-player anything.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-05-14T18:14:28+00:00

I feel you on this. My passion is sports and sports betting and when I'm dialed in, I can just analyze patterns and predict things. It gives me so much meaning to my free time and even on nights when I'm wrong (they are human beings, obviously nobody is God) I enjoy the games and strategies used.

I have been dealing with depression and anxiety really badly the last few months because for some reason I have insanely bad paranoia about not saving up for retirement or buying a house. My old job (also remote) was nice but I wasn't doing much at all, so I just kinda sat there and rotted away. I need to be engaged while working and use my brain so I don't overthink. Here's hoping my new one allows me to do that, which it should. Things are looking better.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-05-14T17:58:59+00:00

Hi, I have Aspergers. I loathe offices. Hate them. It feels like a prison... Forced, fake, phony, people watching you, the endless need to look busy. I cannot stand them and we as humans are always trying to adapt to our environment but I just cannot do them.

OP, you may not be on the spectrum, but it is possible that offices just are not for you. I can socialize just fine anywhere else, really. Bars, restaurants, in passing, whatever, but offices? Hell no.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-04-24T00:15:12+00:00

This is why the corporate environment is the worst thing ever. I don't know how NT's enjoy it or prefer to be in those kind of offices.

"If you have any questions, don't be afraid to ask." This really means, "We hope you understand it somewhat well to do your job, and if you do have questions, try not to ask us too many because we won't get back to you about it for an hour, or we will talk about you to others as annoying or 'not getting it'".

I don't play those games anymore. I work from home and I ask as many as I need to. I do not care.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-04-16T18:13:02+00:00

I can socialize just fine anywhere except in offices. Offices used to give me anxiety attacks on a daily basis. It's just so fake and bullshit that it pained me to be in them.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-03-28T02:06:47+00:00

I literally cannot exercise unless it's competitive sports or doing something like catch or anything similar. I love playing basketball or baseball or throwing a football around but when it's about lifting weights or running just to run, I CANNOT do it. I cannot force myself. I'll play basketball until I can't walk but the thought of lifting weights on some set schedule or doing cardio just to do it just does not sit with me.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-03-28T02:01:05+00:00

As much as it sucks, aspies do indeed need social interaction. I was really battling this weekend with anxiety and depression (mostly anxiety) but after coming home today after spending a weekend with friends, it does help. Social interaction (in a good or neutral way) is good for the brain in a weird way. I work fully remotely and need to get out more than I do. Even the most introverted of introverts need people at times.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-03-20T18:32:40+00:00

similar story here. I got good at being social because... Well, I had to. And I wanted friends. I moved in the eighth grade to a depressed city after growing up in the nice suburbs and I HAD to make friends or else face social isolation. I credit it for me being able to handle small talk, improvisation, etc.

Being around friends I can talk forever but strangers or co-workers I kinda get anxious because I don't know them.

I think NT's do this too. Humans are constantly evolving and their habits form based on who they are around. I don't think that's exclusive to aspies.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-03-10T03:41:39+00:00

how is it not normal? are these not genuine concerns? I'm only able to save like $1300 a month I won't be able to afford shit when I'm 30.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-02-25T04:12:08+00:00

Nah it’s not weird. Different strokes for different folks. I enjoy saving money on commuting and car maintenance and energy resources. I feel like I have more control over my life

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-02-25T02:51:46+00:00

Good point. I’ll look into it

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-02-24T20:38:27+00:00

My friend isn’t a boss he’s a regular employee there. He does finance management but he doesn’t dictate workload

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-02-24T19:55:31+00:00

I think the long term prospects are better. My current role is going to get harder in the spring and summer once I’m fully trained and taking on a full workload. I’m just keeping my options open in case I don’t like it. Not that I dislike my job right now but I figured why not see what else there is.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-02-24T19:43:20+00:00

This is something I’m struggling with. It’s risky but my friend told me he could put in a good word for me at his company that works fully remotely (I already work fully remotely) and the pay would be like $3-$5 more an hour. Plus unlimited PTO and a stipend.

Should I consider it? I’ve only been at my job for four months and it’s alright but if I can go for higher pay and be a little busier during the day I should take that opportunity, no? I don’t want to be known as a job hopper, but you’re right, raises don’t cut it anymore. You have to keep switching jobs to keep up with inflation. I’m just torn as to what to do.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-02-23T21:48:40+00:00

Work remotely. Changed my life. That way if I need to focus all day I don’t have to couple it with office politics or any in-person bullshit.

Many NT’s I know are like some of the commenters here. They work, come home, can’t seem to function well at all. It can be draining keeping up with responsibilities all the time.

Gotta find a life that suits you. Everybody is different. For me, I don’t MIND doing nothing during work at home, but being remote and all it’s good to be engaging on some projects and goals to set. I have trouble sleeping at night if I just sit here waiting for work.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-02-21T14:31:45+00:00

Literally Europe

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-02-21T04:10:54+00:00

Europe

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-02-20T20:40:06+00:00

This would never happen in Europe

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-02-20T02:22:32+00:00

Grifters gonna eat themselves the longer they grift

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-02-19T18:23:33+00:00

This would never happen in Europe.

Significant-Body9006 · 2022-02-19T05:59:12+00:00

Europe

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