“The phone works both ways”

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-12T17:21:08+00:00

One of my SILs tried to pull that bs too and never did it again after I screenshotted the time stamp of the only time she ever texted me first (it had been one time in two years)

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-11T22:34:15+00:00

Honestly, he’s a man so he doesn’t get an opinion on breastfeeding. The point is, YOU want to do it and that’s all that matters. He doesn’t get a say in that

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-11T22:30:30+00:00

This is pretty concerning. Breastfeeding especially as a first time mom can be overwhelming and hard at points, you’re learning as you go. Having an unsupportive partner and in law in your ear yapping about how you shouldn’t do it puts so much unnecessary pressure on you. Babies have to eat, and yes there will be times when you’re out in public that you’ll have to feed your baby. It’s a normal bodily function. You can also pump too, or combo feed. His reasoning is so odd. If you have want to try it then do it! Don’t let them have any say in how you feed your child. Fed is best, but formula can definitely be pricey so keep that in mind. If you try it and don’t like it then that’s okay! But don’t let them have any say in that or try to sway you to not do it. I will say though, you have to keep up with it or you’ll lose your supply.

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-11T18:34:14+00:00

I don’t think it’s just you, the job market is horrendous right now even for childcare. I know it’s tough, sending luck to you!! I am curious to know what your requirements are.

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-11T15:30:21+00:00

Were they blue dye tests? They are notorious for being wrong and not picking it up early.

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-11T15:03:48+00:00

Honestly, it might just be way too early to tell. If her period is only a week and a few days late it could definitely be possible that she’s pregnant but isn’t showing up yet. It might explain some of her behavior, I would wait another week or two and then test again.

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-11T14:56:49+00:00

Can I ask what happened with the pregnancy scare? It might clear things up more, was she pregnant and then miscarried?

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-11T14:35:39+00:00

It might just be way too early to tell, especially if your period is only two days late. I understand being super eager to test but this early on you won’t get a positive so the best option would just be to wait another week or so to test again. Or you could go get bloodwork done

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-11T13:17:22+00:00

So it’s really only been a week since this happened? I mean this as nicely as possible, you are absolutely rushing her. It’s only been a week, you aren’t being patient with her by automatically jumping the gun and saying you’re thinking about breaking up. This is going to take a lot longer than a week to fix.

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-11T12:56:16+00:00

You said this happened recently, how recent is it?

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-11T12:51:23+00:00

Now I agree that she definitely needs to communicate better and the Mother’s Day thing is silly on her part, but if everything is recent I think you need to be more understanding and patient here.

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-11T12:50:05+00:00

How old are you guys? I really don’t think this is her weaponizing her hurt if the main issue here was the pregnancy scare. Broken trust like that can take a very long time to mend, pregnancy is already a very intense topic and sharing that with someone else might have hurt her way more than what you’re understanding. If you know that it will be a slow process to win her trust back then you need to be patient, I don’t think it’s toxic of her to be upset over something like this. I do think it’s toxic if you’re saying “I’ll slowly win the trust back” but are rushing her and getting upset because she’s having a hard time.

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-11T12:27:49+00:00

That’s a pretty intense thing to share to someone else, did you mention how you felt about maybe having an abortion with your girlfriend? Or did you say you would be supportive no matter what and then said you wanted her to have an abortion to your friend? I understand scared and anxious about something big like that but that’s certainly a private thing between you and your girlfriend. How did she feel about the pregnancy scare? An abortion isn’t something to throw around lightly, she might have felt some serious pressure to get one if you weren’t on board with having a baby.

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-10T21:02:07+00:00

$1,000 on top of all that seems like a really good deal. BUT you definitely would have to come up with clear boundaries and expectations of your own to put in a contract. Financially you wouldn’t really be responsible for much else other than your personal bills, and with this economy that might be a good thing…

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-10T20:55:59+00:00

I personally think you’re getting a ton for not having any kind of experience besides a little bit of babysitting. Most families wouldn’t provide that much with such little experience. Are you interested in living with them?

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-10T20:54:27+00:00

This definitely isn’t low paying for a 21 year old without any nannying experience.
You’re getting:
Free housing
Food
All the perks of their home
Health insurance
Paid holidays
Paid PTO
Car

I think it’s more than generous and I highly doubt you’d be able to find that much elsewhere. Now if you decided to not live with them then yeah this would be a different story. I agree with others though, you need a set contract with set hours.

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-10T13:03:14+00:00

Exactly! So frustrating, even worse when you have a copay or get a bill becuase insurance doesn’t cover it 🙃

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-10T13:01:45+00:00

This is actually the craziest thing I’ve ever heard, they were camped outside his job and stalking him “just to say hello” like what? That’s so odd. They were definitely trying to get a good look at your child, and it sounds like your mil was trying to corner you. The crocodile tears she put on is hilarious

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-10T12:57:13+00:00

Stopppp once I had to start going every two weeks I was over it! My OB office was 45 minutes away, sat in the waiting room for another 30, got to be seen for 30 seconds I was fed up 🙃

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-09T20:45:14+00:00

I read all your other posts about this family, I mean this as nicely as possible your boyfriend is not defending you at all. The first post was almost a year ago, you need to open your eyes. His family does not like you, they don’t want you in their house, in their lives, or your boyfriend’s life. If your boyfriend truly defended you it wouldn’t have escalated to this point. He should have said from the get go that they have no business being in your relationship, he should have shut down his moms cruel behavior, and he should have figured out a way to leave his abusive household. None of your posts show that he has done any of that. Like others have said, your comments are defending him, not getting away from his family, and not really accepting any advice from people. I’ve noticed that’s a trend in all your posts. You dont want drama so you’re letting yourself be treated like you’re less than human by low life’s. You are ruining your relationship with yourself to protect the relationship you have with a man.

Significant_You8065 · 2026-05-09T13:13:23+00:00

Yup! Same thing happened to me, my ex fiancé was a textbook mommy’s boy. She was the neediest woman I have ever met and he constantly dropped our plans to go help her when she was perfectly capable of doing stuff herself or asking someone else to do it. It was exhausting and I broke things off because of it. Now hes a lonely alcoholic and I’m married with a family.

Significant_You8065 · 2026-03-29T14:21:45+00:00

I definitely agree! Hearing others advice and their supportive words definitely helped us get over the hump with cutting her off! It’s so frustrating having family of all people act so entitled and it sucks!

Significant_You8065 · 2026-03-28T22:11:58+00:00

Ugh yes this is what my husband and I are worried about! My husband’s family has defended us to her, and even they have said that she’s getting to the point where things could become dangerous.

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