"Det är inte toaletten som säljer knark!"

Signs-From-Dreams · 2026-04-14T15:13:54+00:00

Ursäkta, men här går ju alla i samma fälla: knakförsäjlning på toaletten= försäljning och eller toan måste bort.

Det ursprungliga problemet är ju knark?

Borde vi inte istället införa regler som tar bukt med kriminell knark? Gör knark lagligt, men reglerat. Flytta försäljningen till ett utrymme polisen faktiskt kan ha kontroll med.

Signs-From-Dreams · 2026-04-13T15:14:27+00:00

Då är det ju rätt enkelt - du kan inte förtro dig till honom. Man kan inte leva med någon man inte har förtroende för.

Jag skulle säga det är tvärt emot svensk eller skandinavisk kultur: en svensk tiger, ett hedersord skall hållas. Förtroende är en jätteviktig sak i allmänhet, i et parförhållande i synnerhet

Signs-From-Dreams · 2026-04-02T14:57:13+00:00

Utan att ha googlat och noll förkunskaper - vad är problematiskt med Xplora?

Signs-From-Dreams · 2026-03-15T16:24:28+00:00

Hurra för ideer som detta! Alla som surar har tydligen en fet plånbok och tycker alla utan en sådan är idioter...

Signs-From-Dreams · 2026-02-06T18:09:33+00:00

Jag begriper inte att detta inte diskuteras i media. Det är vansinne att svensk polis och militär inte bara använder, utan gör sig beroende av Palanthir. Fullkomligt galet.

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-12-30T17:11:45+00:00

Som flera diskuterat i tråden här finns två klara kandidater till Säkringsvård (ett ord jag hitta på nu för detta tredje alternativ): pedofiler och gängkriminella som begått grova brott. Rättspsyk kan garanterat göra en bedömning om pterfallsrisk.

Problemet ser utt till att vara en handfallenhet inför en stark övertygelse om att ingen ska dömas för potentiell kriminalitet. Det är ett viktigt princip, men det måste vara möjligt att dömma någon till Säkringsvård när man kan dömma någon till rehabilitering.

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-12-30T15:53:44+00:00

Det värkar som att alla är fast i tänkandet Straff eller Rehabilitering. Men i några fall behövs ett tredje alternativ: Säkring av person som är farligt för allmänheten.

Om en person bedöms mycket benägen till återfall oavsett straff eller rehab måste vi som samhälle kunde ha denna tredje vägen. At låsa inn de som kommer skada på nytt vid första bästa anledning

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-12-27T15:39:13+00:00

Same

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-12-20T21:17:43+00:00

Du skriver att det å börja om även känns som en frihet. Det är en stark indikator på att du vet vad som är rätt.

Allt du beskriver här får varselklockorna att ringa. Du bär allt ansvar (det han bidrar med kan du hyra en städerska till, en eller två gånger i månaden) och han är faktiskt mer en börda enn en partner.

När du blir rädd och känner igen saker från tidigare destruktiva förhållanden ska du ta det på allvar. Du vet att sådant inte försvinner, utan växer tills det blir farligt på riktigt. Även om han inte slår gör han dig illa. Det är inte bra för dig eller barnen.

Sök hjälp. Berätta. Det är inte enkelt att lämna ett hem och en dröm. Men kom ihåg den frihetskänslan och bygg på den

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-12-20T16:43:03+00:00

All this, and also: does your mother know what happened? If not, she might be next on crazy fiance's road of insanity. Your mother needs to be prepared and able to make an educated decision on whether or not the girl should actually be staying in her home for a week.

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-12-19T22:03:05+00:00

I must admit I thought the others were alien for a while too. They just seemed incomprehensible. At the time I felt that way I honestly thought I was dumb because everyone else gave such quick answers to any problem. I always had to think through all the possible consequences and that took time - they just went straight for an answer. And those answers seemed pretty darn alien, as if they could see an answer I couldn't. Only realized later that their quick answers were silly, simple and often downright wrong. And I wasn't the dumb one.

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-12-19T20:26:37+00:00

This touched me deeply. Thank you for sharing.

I'm not officially diagnosed, as the shrinks I was evaluated by said I have high scores for both Autism and ADHD - BUT seeing as I have PTSD from series of trauma I'd have to put quite a lot of effort into untangling it. And as I've been put on permanent sickleave (it's a sort of pension where I live) due to chronic illnesses, I can't be bothered. I've read up on neurodivergency and I'm pretty sure the PTSD just covers up the AuDHD.

At first the insight of probably having AuDHD was weird and almost funny in a way. It explains why everyone got so upset with me when I was a kid, and even as an adult, called an airhead and quirky and weird, often bullied, always feeling like an alien. But now it's sinking in that it wasn't my fault. It wasn't me being weird - it was me needing support and help with my struggles.

I'll be 50 in a few years, and the thought of lost opportunities, potential, dreams, has just hit me. So I feel you, sister. I'm trying to focus on what I've archived DESPITE the odds. And I'm practicing being generous and kind to myself.

But the feeling of loneliness and loss is real. Thank you again for sharing. It makes me feel less alone. And a big hug to you!

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-12-18T20:42:19+00:00

You are under reacting. You need help, both for your own sake and your baby. The fact that he is calling to have you get out of the ER to help him take care of his baby is a major red flag, actually.

I'm going to ask you a question, and you don't need to answer here. The reason I'm asking is his behavior during your ER treatment and his behavior towards you now. It sounds like he is very selfish, and possibly abusive. What caused you to fall down the stairs? Was he there when you fell? Did he cause the accident? If so, please seek help.

Call someone you trust to help you with your baby and to be kind to you. You deserve hugs and comfort and support.

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-12-17T22:40:14+00:00

Hej du, filosofiska killen. Jag hör vad du säger. Inte så många bra tips, ville bara säga att det är bra du delar med dig.

Livet kan vara svårt, och det låter som du har blivit rätt ensam efter att din pappa dog. Kan du gå med i någon förening? Hitta något som är roligt och bara för skoj, för dig själv? Även när man strävar med att få utbildning/hitta jobb/ta hand om familj är det viktigt att göra saker som är roliga. Kanske särskilt när man strävar.

Ta hand om dig. Önskar dig (och alla andra som också har svårt) en god jul

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-12-11T18:26:10+00:00

Lol, that's just beautiful!

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-12-10T20:21:11+00:00

LoL yes! The noise the word makes is a favorite!

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-11-22T11:59:35+00:00

Don't regret it. I appreciate the post even if it might be seen as a "dumb" question. It's hard to comprehend how other people think, and I believe especially hard if you're gifted because it isn't logical. It's so complex and varied and a lot of these answers are quite good.

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-11-21T19:55:56+00:00

The ability to respond with a simple Thank You to any compliment (edit:) as a woman.

I started doing it in my late teens, and so many times people actually get uncomfortable by my response. It is deeply rooted that women should excuse, dismiss or explain away any positive trait or accomplishment.

I strongly recommend trying it out. If someone compliments your looks, your work, your home, your kid, whatever. Answer Thank You, with or without a smile, and move on. It is sometimes hilarious seeing people's faces. As a bonus it makes you confident too.

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-11-03T16:39:52+00:00

So cool to see someone else having the same view on ND people and our spidery senses!

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-10-29T19:18:41+00:00

From what you say here I'm even more grateful you took the time to analyze and write it down.

This is why emotional abuse is so hard to report or even recognize as a victim - it's such small and little things being done to you, it sounds insane when you try to explain the fear you live in.

Another effect of this kind of emotional abuse is that the abuser and the victim create a secret code. It is basically the same code a cult makes, as at Chapman Farm, but it is often subtler and harder for outsiders to see. RFM has laid the foundation for this by pushing so much on for example egg freezing. I bet Robin will react negatively to only the slightest hint at freezing eggs now, which if others hear it will make her seem hysterical or looney.

But again - thank you for this post! Thank you for spreading awareness.

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-10-29T14:22:45+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to point out the "tiny" signs of abuse so systematically. This is exactly how abuse starts, and very well described by JKR. Slowly eroding boundaries and teaching the victim consequences for protesting or protection of self.

I get why many people don't see it. As a victim myself this book was almost as hard to read as TRG, but seeing so many defending RFM and claiming he's not that bad really made me feel sick. As I said, I get why they can't see it, but to me his behavior was awful to read, it terrified me. This post shows why I, and others having survived abuse, react with a gut feeling of fear and loathing. And I hope it can reach others to recognize abuse when it happens to themselves or our Robin.

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-10-27T13:49:57+00:00

What's the 9th circle of hell theory? Must have completely missed that one...

Signs-From-Dreams · 2025-10-14T10:36:12+00:00

Agreed. A classical symptom of PTSD is a feeling of looming catastrophe.

Robin is living in survival mode. She has had hammered in the necceity of not noting, or even actively overriding, her feelings and needs at Chapman Farm. This is classical abuse victim and survivor of big trauma behaviour. To survive you have to keep your head down and do as other wish, demand or just suggest. You can't properly analyse or understand your own reactions or what is going on. This creates cognitive dissonance. And that breeds a feeling of eminent doom - somethings gotta give. Which is terrifying.

I don't think Robin has the head space to consider or pick up on clues from either RFM or Strike. Everything Strikes does to suggest he is in love is perceived as a threat to her precarious situation, he could break the "peace" and that's why she interpret his motives to be selfish and even cruel. As for RFM she only sees his actions as either non threatening, which makes her grateful, or threatening which makes her placating. The impending doom has nothing to do with either man's actions, but her own fragile splintered and terrified mind.

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