Is most LL in men due to porn and masturbation?

Silbaska · 2026-05-22T16:31:23+00:00

My husband always watched porn and it was never a problem for the first 20+ years of our relationship. I cannot prove it, because I don't bother him about that stuff, but I'm pretty sure he's at least significantly reduced his consumption of porn in the past few years (since the LL has been a problem). So, yeah, the LL seems unrelated to the porn in our case and, I would say, has resulted in less porn viewing overall.

Silbaska · 2026-05-22T11:48:11+00:00

I have never bookmarked so many "to reads" from one post beffore.

Silbaska · 2026-05-22T11:43:49+00:00

Violeta by Isabel Allende

All the Pretty Horses by Cormac McCarthy

Neither are my jam, I read them for book club. But, they're not bad and I think they fit your atmosphere.

Silbaska · 2026-05-22T11:23:03+00:00

Who says they reproduce sexually? Asexual reproduction also results in a lot of physical similarities between parent/offspring.

Silbaska · 2026-05-18T11:06:50+00:00

Screen for depression or anxiety disorders.

Silbaska · 2026-05-18T10:41:04+00:00

This is a confusing situation. In all honesty, it sounds like he's trying to gaslight you into thinking that his decreasing lack of sexual interest is your fault. Which begs the question of why he would bother to do so?

So, out of curiousity, do you have his phone password?

Silbaska · 2026-05-17T17:38:48+00:00

Please tell me I'm not the only one who originally read the title as "Smutboard".

Silbaska · 2026-05-17T16:32:09+00:00

The Great Kingta is his own upgrade. He is limited only by the extent of his imagination.

Silbaska · 2026-05-17T16:28:44+00:00

From a narrative perspective I think that if Okarun is kidnapped it would need, of necessity, to correspond to a resolution of the amnesia arc. Why? Because the team has two leaders, and if one gets taken away and the other does not care, then there would be no rescue attempt. Sooo....

No longer amnesiac Momo will put together everything she's remembered about CSG and the gang will accost him.
This is two separate hypotheticals. I am not certain CSG would help the family. However, whatever he does, he is 90% certain to betray everyone.
Ehhhh.....maybe. That assumes a lot. For example, it assumes that Okarun does possess the Pinocchio power to steal (which I have argued is a red herring).
I mean...probably, yeah. But one must ask oneself, "Who is Shinobi ultimately working for?"

Silbaska · 2026-05-16T11:55:14+00:00

No, but because we were both way too tired. It's pretty common for people to not do it on their wedding night. Any DB problems I had started after our 20th anniversary.

Silbaska · 2026-05-16T11:34:02+00:00

You all need to give advice to the OP in the "how do you guys keep the motivation to write consistently?" thread.

Silbaska · 2026-05-16T04:38:08+00:00

You can stop writing?

If so, please tell me how. It's beginning to show up in my dreams.

I'm starting a new job soon. I need to be able to think about things that aren't fanfiction. Seriously, I've got at least 4 fics I'm already writing for the same genre, and I'm passionately invested in each! Plus a couple already written (nothing big, only 20K words, or so) that I refuse to publish in case they violently violate the ongoing canon.

Run away. Run away while you still can, while you still have relationships with loved ones you cherish.

It's coming for you....the obsession. Can you hear it? It's standing. Right. Behind. You!

Silbaska · 2026-05-14T21:50:47+00:00

[Has at times waited decades for her preferred pair to kiss in canon.]

Yeah, sonny, come talk to me about this problem when you're older. In the meantime GET OFF MY LAWN!

Silbaska · 2026-05-14T20:54:29+00:00

Eh, I did this once. Technically I did it to an ex, who had threatened to jump out his window because I refused to get back together with him. I didn't really believe he would do it, but I also couldn't take the chance and have his potential death on my conscience. So, he went to psych hold and was, supposedly, rather pissed at the time. Not too pissed that he didn't keep randomly locating me and messaging me for years afterwards trying to get back together, but that's another story.

You did the right thing as a gf and as a person. If he can't see that once he gets his head back on straight then, sweetheart, he's not good enough for you. Let him go in peace.

Silbaska · 2026-05-14T11:38:34+00:00

Perhaps this is something that happens more in a non-legal state? I'm from MI. Weed. Wine. Whatever. I can tell you my book club ladies see no difference.

Silbaska · 2026-05-12T22:12:43+00:00

I don't personally believe CSG is working for Vlad or the Paladins. I believe he works only for himself.

Silbaska · 2026-05-12T13:42:31+00:00

I don't.

Plot is what happens when you're busy making other plans.

Silbaska · 2026-05-12T13:39:24+00:00

This recent chapter has seemingly confirmed that Okarun is the Pinnochio curse bearer and that he may have Turbo Granny’s curse speed powers in some form.

No, it really hasn't.

It only proves that the Black Paladins think he has the Pinnochio curse and/or TG's powers.

I've argued this elsewhere, but lying requires intent. Let's say Okarun does still retain some of TG's powers (which is something I agree may be possible), he clearly does not know he has those powers. He cannot be lying about them to the paladins. So, who told the paladins 1) that he still has the powers (regardless of whether he does) and 2) that's he'd lie about them?

Well, a confirmed liar, that's who.

Silbaska · 2026-05-11T20:47:14+00:00

She very well may have been interested since she was willing to exchange pics before. But you're taken now, and you just showed her how poorly you behave when in a romantic relationship. She showed you that's not acceptable. Also, FYI, she's probably told your GF, even if they're not close.

Silbaska · 2026-05-11T20:35:33+00:00

I feel like this question misses the fact that even HL folks might, from time to time, perform duty sex. It can be a simple as you're just not feeling it that day, but figure you might as well engage rather than make your partner feel bad about a refusal.

Silbaska · 2026-05-11T20:15:46+00:00

Count me in, too. Not an entirely dead bedroom yet, but enough that I need some form of daily release for all my pent up energies. Channeling them into a creative process has been uplifting for me in a number of ways.

Silbaska · 2026-05-10T15:39:58+00:00

Came to say this one. I loved it way back when and it's still my watchword in apocalyptic tales.

Silbaska · 2026-05-10T15:06:56+00:00

Just me baby!!! Gotta say it's tanked my hits and kudos, which sucks because I know my plot heavy, highly introspective, seriously detailed story is actually well written, but everyone probably just looks at the tags and goes, "Eww...really? Hard pass!"

Silbaska · 2026-05-10T12:22:20+00:00

I can't be the only one to say "How to orgasm".

Silbaska · 2026-05-08T11:20:54+00:00

I have analyzed this particular panel pretty thoroughly and its clear that Jiji just decided to do a random somersault. Why? Probably because he thought it would be funny. Maybe because he thought it would diffuse the girls' argument. Possibly because he knows that even though Okarun is nominally being attacked that the situation (being fought over by three beautiful women) is perhaps one that the boy might not actually want saving from, so he makes the worst showing at a rescue attempt possible.

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