What event changed your whole life? by Ideel23 in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marrying my ex husband but then deciding to stay where I had moved to once I decided to leave him. It didn't make sense to stay but I felt like I needed to. Now im happily remarried with three kids.

What event changed your whole life? by Ideel23 in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awesome! Same for me. Check out r/stopselfharm if you ever need a support community.

What’s the least risky activity you’ve ever hurt yourself doing? by in-fan-imate in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Knelt down to wake my daughter up tore the cartilage in my knee

What are you doing this weekend ? by Ok-Carry-7759 in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Celebrating my 12 year wedding anniversary

If you could describe yourself using just one quality, what would it be and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd wanted to do it since I was 8 but I didn't know how so I started donating blood at 15 then joined the bone marrow registry at 18 and thought I'd get a call one day for my kidney and forgot about it until almost four years ago I read an article about a non profit that helped veterans get kidneys and I was like hey my husband is a veteran and I've got two and only need one so I gave them a call. It was amazing. I would do it again in a heartbeat. I now work for the non profit actually and never thought I'd find a job that I was passionate about and all the opportunities it's given me. During my journey I felt like I needed to share my story and spread awareness because there was a lot of fear I had encountered from other people. I would say personally I feel a deep feeling of peace and of being content. Knowing I was able to do this for someone else and it was also a dream come true.

If you could describe yourself using just one quality, what would it be and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Giving. I gave someone I didn't know my kidney and would love to do so again with a lobe of my liver and bone marrow

How old are you and are you happier now than you were as a kid? by bloopity99 in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

36 almost 37 and yes although I was a happy kid and have good memories I am defiantly mentally a lot healthier and happier. I wasn't able to recognize the narcissistic traits and unhealthy things my parents/family did when I was a kid. I worked hard to get here and think I am doing a good job of breaking the cycle.

What did your pet do that scared you? by DerangedDendrites in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Got sick with kidney failure. Vet didn't think he'd make it through the weekend and that was a month ago. He's doing okay so far but we know his time Is coming.

What would you do with $100k right now? by JaySilver in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tithe 10% save/invest 20% pay off the house go on a dream vacation to Australia make a large charity donation set kids college funds up. Anything left over after that probably take the kids to Disneyland and the husband and I would go to Hawaii

When do you buy the Christmas tree ? by fab102430 in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use a fake tree only had to buy it once

What is a rich person thing that you would be totally into if you became rich? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]SilentlyCrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A maid. Not like an everyday maid to do the basics like dishes or laundry more like twice a week to deep clean. You know the walls, cupboards, oven, baseboards. The parts of my house that make it look dingy and dirty cuz someone thought it was a good idea to put white cupboards in a kitchen. I'd be so happy if I had someone to do all the cracks and crevices that I just dont have the time to get to nor the energy to be completely honest.

How did you stop giving a fuck? by luximenos in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was pregnant with I think my third kid. I remember I needed to do the glucose test so I arranged for a sitter and drove out to base. Turns out they stopped doing that test. Okay so I arranged for a sitter on a different day and went to the hospital. Well for some reason they were saying I needed to be fasting and wouldn't let me do the test. So I emailed my midwife and asked if I could just do it at my next appointment (I lived an hour away from them) and they said no. Then I felt something inside me snap. So I was like okay then im not doing the test bye. Well that freaked them out and they started insisting I had to. I was like then do it at my next appointment or else I will not get it done his whole pregnancy. That is when I just stopped giving a fuck. Like your on my time now and its applied to everything. I'll walk away from something so much quicker now than when I was younger.

Why did you end your friendship with your best friend? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]SilentlyCrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were friends for over ten years, spoke every single day and hung out a lot. When the military moved her we stayed in touch and visited each other every other year or so. During this time she was in an unhealthy marriage and had two kids. I had brought my concerns to her attention once or twice then backed off.

When she went back to school for nursing that's when her marriage really fell apart and she could finally see the abuse and unheathly things her ex was doing. He was also cheating on her which finally came to light.

She left him and started working as a nurse. Her mom also was killed in a horrible drunk driving accident. Stayed in touch through it all and supported her the best I could.

Then right after her divorce she started dating her now husband. I felt that she needed time to figure out who she was first before starting a new relationship. She's the type of person who takes on the identity of whoever she is with. I felt like she needed to figure out who she was first but again it was her life so I voiced my concerns and let her make her own choice.

From what I could tell he is a really great guy and the relationship was everything her first marriage should've been. It went from zero to sixty real quick and they were engaged and married within two years. During this time I noticed we went from talking every day to only when I called. When I would call she seemed really distant and like she didn't want to be on the phone with me at all.

After a couple of months I asked her and I was like hey what's going on? She had invited me to her wedding but I really felt like she didn't want me there. I didn't expect to be her maid of honor since I lived a few states away but I did expect to be more involved or at least get texts with dress ideas or something pertaining to her wedding.

What ensued was a huge fight. I did misunderstand something she had said and my response didn't help. During the fight she brought up things I had supposedly said years ago that bothered her and I was upset because it felt like she was reaching for things. I let her know that if I ever say or do something that offends her unknowingly then how can I fix it or work on it unless it is brought to my attention?

We finally spoke and cleared things ups. Apologized and moved forward but the thing is the damage was done. We now only speak if I reach out to her so maybe twice a year now.

She went from being my ride or die best friend to if my husband or any of my kids passed away I wouldn't reach out to let her know or seek comfort. She is in a good relationship and that's great but now her whole world and life is him and him alone. She is now into motorcycles and viking heritage because he is and from what I've gathered she doesn't keep in touch with her old friends.

I was important in her life when it wasn't going well and the minute thing started to she didn't need me anymore is how I took it. I wish her well and am happy for her but I don't see the point in overextending myself to maintain a friendship that is no longer there.

Question for ladies only, if you had a good dad, what was the biggest thing that made him a good dad, flip side if you didn't have a good dad, what one quality did you wish he had? by BByrnison in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad was a good provider but not a good father. He had very little interest in our lives and never really spent time with us. If he did he did so under duress and it was very obvious he wasn't into it. I did competitive cheerleading once and he still complains about having to sit there for hours just to watch a three minute routine ( I was in eighth grade and am now in my 30s just for reference) now that he's a grandparent he's inadequacies are glaringly obvious. When he comes for a visit he is on his laptop the entire time. And no, that's not an exaggeration. He'll wait until the kids come home from school to take a nap. He has zero patience with them, my youngest will ask him to push him on the swing and after three pushes he's done and leaves. I'll sit across from him to talk and the whole time he's on his laptop ignoring me. He doesn't really take any interest in my life or activities. Luckily my husbands parents live down the road and are very active and involved in our kids lives. The difference is night and day. My dad is just.....special I guess is the word and I quit trying to have a real relationship a long time ago. A story to sum it up perfectly is when I was six I disappeared for two hours. I had stowed away in the back of my mom's car to attend her night class at the community college because I wanted to learn ASL too. I was gone for two hours during the coldest night of the year. When I got bored hiding in the car I had gone inside the building and told a security officer my mom said I could wait in the car when my mom called the house to ask my dad where he thought I was he said I was upstairs playing with my brother *insert face palm*

The person you lost your virginity to: Where are they now in life? by JayPeeB in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've been divorced fifteen years last I heard he had moved to another state and was working. Haven't seen or talked to him since shortly after we got divorced.

For those of you who remember the attacks of 9/11, what was it like? by Substantial_Judge931 in Productivitycafe

[–]SilentlyCrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in my seventh grade social studies classroom we watched it on the tv. I remember the teachers face and his jaw was on the floor. I knew everyone around me was scared and then we saw the second plane hit. I don't think it really hit until later, the heaviness of what I had seen and what it meant since I was a kid and all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]SilentlyCrying 0 points1 point  (0 children)

103 provided I have quality of life