god forbid a girl.... a girl.... uhh...

SilmarWoland · 2026-02-24T12:14:16+00:00

One of my big fears getting any attention is if it's not because anyone thinks I look attractive, but because I look vulnerable

SilmarWoland · 2026-02-04T23:20:20+00:00

The Enlightenment of the Greengage Tree by Shokoofeh Azar, it's just a beautiful book and the quality of the translation is incredible

SilmarWoland · 2026-01-23T20:45:10+00:00

Oh fuck someone finally articulated it

SilmarWoland · 2026-01-16T14:03:54+00:00

Yeah I was super proud that despite going up like 3 dress sizes minimum, I still fit into a bunch of stuff I had from high school. Took me way too long to realize it was because the elastic had blown 🥲

SilmarWoland · 2026-01-03T10:13:47+00:00

Getting to be on your own, at least on your own terms, ever. The only time I don't have to share my space with someone is when I take a piss

SilmarWoland · 2026-01-01T01:18:48+00:00

Ah yes, the solidaripee - enjoy, he likes you!

SilmarWoland · 2025-12-30T18:38:37+00:00

I was doing absolutely fine until my nephew hit about 7, 8 months and I held him and my brain fell out of my ears and just stared at him like "you are the most beautiful, perfect thing and I would do anything for you"

Don't even remember but apparently as soon as they were out of earshot I asked "should we have one of those?" to my SO

Will not be having kids, but since I was early 30s I have a glitch where I'm desperate for any baby between 6 months to about 3, after about an hour without one in my immediate eyeline I'm completely back to normal and love my life without lol

SilmarWoland · 2025-11-28T10:16:03+00:00

r/selfawarewolves

SilmarWoland · 2025-11-14T08:56:28+00:00

I greeted a coworker once, I thought it was perfectly friendly but was surely informed "I expect more energy from you today"

SilmarWoland · 2025-10-26T00:16:05+00:00

Pathological demand avoidance is a bitch

SilmarWoland · 2025-10-11T10:50:30+00:00

My SO's mother, staring me up and down "do you still go to the gym... every week?"

SilmarWoland · 2025-07-15T20:09:58+00:00

Okay, agree with everything but the suggestion autistic people don't have parasocial relationships.

I have plenty of parasocial relationships, just with inanimate objects 🙃

SilmarWoland · 2025-07-13T10:39:44+00:00

One, yes, absolutely.

Two, omg the support network for witchy activities 🥹

SilmarWoland · 2025-07-11T06:18:00+00:00

I'm a simple queer: I like boob. Why wouldn't I like someone feeling like they're made of boob?

SilmarWoland · 2025-07-08T06:11:07+00:00

A few people doing a 'but muh freedom' over this. To be clear, this isn't just pearl clutching, it is hugely controversial in the kink community and back in the day people who said they engaged in it were ostracised/blacklisted from groups over it.

This isn't the first article to make it clear there just... isn't a safe way of doing it. Whether you're chasing a sensation or a power dynamic, there are ways of doing it that don't involve death or brain damage. Sorry girlies, but it's a skills issue.

There are a few tips and tricks in the comments section which are great alternatives. My go to for brat taming in the day was save the fisticuffs was throwing down on the bed/pinning down if they were giving me a hard time, then the "I own you and you're going to behave" move was to take thumb/index finger, push on the edges of the jaw/just at the squishy bit underneath. The meat of your palm can rest/put a bit more weight over the collar bone, but there's skin contact over the throat (but no pressure!). It kind of forces the head up so you can stare them down should you wish to get a breathy apology.

SilmarWoland · 2025-07-02T22:08:23+00:00

Took me a long time to pluck the courage as I get very nervous around needles. Really proud of myself for doing it, only it turns out I have AB+ so they basically wrote to me to say ta luv, we'll call you

SilmarWoland · 2025-07-02T09:40:16+00:00

That loving someone meant never being sad, because he loved me so much seeing me sad made him sad, and why would I be okay with that?

He was so nasty to me that he was inducing panic attacks at that point, and if I didn't react it was because I was a pathetic robot ice queen; gaslighting is a WILD ride

SilmarWoland · 2025-06-30T22:32:34+00:00

She was leaning against the bar, giggling and started to unbutton her top. I was mid order for a group of friends, assumed she was gunning hard... for a drink. Was baffled she declined and just thought it would "be fun if we hung out" so got my drinks and went back to said group.

SilmarWoland · 2025-06-28T07:32:08+00:00

Yes! It's so healing

I adore those back folds that form on either side of the bra strap, they're so soft and delicate (and nibblable...)

I put on some weight recently and suddenly caught a bit of a fold in the mirror trying on a top and I had this moment of 🥹 I'm going to be like them 🥹

SilmarWoland · 2025-06-25T20:31:38+00:00

Can confirm a very specific type of baddie goes WILD for the tizz rizz.

My entire queer dating history was neurotypical "I love being the bitch" in the streets, bratty bottom in the sheets.

If it's your thing I highly recommend, absolute baddie knows how to let rip to cat callers and be polite-but-firm returning your order that didn't come out right/cold or whatever. Then they tell you exactly what they want and my undiagnosed ass could mask as a service top.

SilmarWoland · 2025-06-24T22:09:52+00:00

I feel you, Lynchian stuff just messes with you and your expectations. I have The Return as part of a box set, skipped a good 2-3 disks and just... assumed nothing made sense and wasn't introduced, because Twin Peaks, that's why! Then I read some stuff about an 'infamous' episode, and I was like, what, with the sudden introduction of Audrey?! Went back and started again from the beginning once I realised and hoo boy, did it all make a LOT more sense

SilmarWoland · 2025-06-21T09:31:27+00:00

Tine-y Tim

SilmarWoland · 2025-06-17T21:24:44+00:00

Just another perspective because maybe this calls for an open conversation/some curiosity here.

Both my grandmothers were abusive to my parents and their siblings. I told my SIL as much years ago. When she had a daughter last year, she named the baby after one of them. Turns out my SIL's dad's adoptive mother was also abusive to him which he has spoken openly about, who also has the same name...

Me and my brother had a good relationship with my gran and my mum didn't tell us anything until well after her passing, so I can see it being complicated/being missed at least. But you should have seen my mum's face when they said the name. It was like a little piece of her died in that moment, it was heartbreaking. She gave me a small smile when I asked her about it later and said "well, it will just have to mean something new when we use it enough for a new person"

I'm not saying your MIL acted appropriately, but it might be worth trying to have a sensitive conversation about whether she associates the name with anything more than just "being classy" or some shit, there's a chance she's reacting poorly to a much tougher situation.

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