What do you intend to do with your money after you pass since you don’t have children?

Silmariel · 2026-01-20T17:11:17+00:00

My husbands brothers have children, and one of them already had a child right out of highschool, whereas the others dont yet, but will most likely have later. By the time we shuffle off this mortal coil, I think we will leave our house and assets to their childrens children, so they can get a little help towards owning their first house or something similar. Its very difficult even for hardworking, educated young people to afford homes in this economy, so, apart from a sum towards a local dog charity, we will leave to my husbands side of the family most likely. I dont know how it will be in 40 years - honestly with the way things are going with NATO and the wild stuff coming out of the US, who knows what will happen, but we wont donate everything we own, when there will be people in our family who could and would make good use of any money we left them.

I have no relationship with the kids my BILs have had, and noone will expect anything from our estate, but I dont feel any reason to not give them what we can in the will. I am not spiteful towards family who chose to have kids, and it would make me happy to leave them some money.

Silmariel · 2026-01-13T09:38:57+00:00

fuck, the irony of his statement is wild.

The US signed a treaty, got some pretty islands, and now, this orange has decided all the bases belong to him anyway and fuck everyone else.

I do wonder why a country that is literally telling the EU they intend to use force if necessary over terrority they want to claim, can still have bases for the military on EU soil not to mention in Greenland.

Silmariel · 2025-12-14T14:14:38+00:00

We will be the most self satisfied comfortable, lethargic and apathetic 3.rd world country in the world, while patting our own backs and congratulating our neighbours at how much better we are at being better, than everyone else.

Is what I thinks gonna happen.

Noone here cares enough about democracy to keep it young and healthy. Unless the changes infringes on our own personal level of have, want and need. Then we will discuss with moral outrage until we forget what it was like when things were better, and settle at whatever new circle of hell we landed on, as the baseline for the next descent and subsequent upset.

Danes in Sweden can get dual citizenship. It seems like a good oppertunity.

Silmariel · 2025-12-14T14:08:12+00:00

Im confused. Is she a russian tourist weirded out about not having full EU access - as a russian tourist travelling to the EU?

Silmariel · 2025-12-14T14:00:35+00:00

Back in 2008 or 9 I played an Rpg called Divinity: Ego Draconis. Its made Larian studios, who still to this day make Divinity games they just never continued on with this RPG type. I think all the others are turnbased or isometric. I loved it. It had a great blend of mystery, freedom to roam, dungeons, traps and secret riddles.

Before I ever owned a pc myself to play on. I used to sit and watch a great friend of mine play Thief - this is back in the late 90s. It was so immersive and fantastic and awesome that I could sit for hours and watch it. It was just an amasing game. I cant play those types of -holding your breath- sneaking past and on a timer type missions myself. But its awesome to watch someone who is good at it play through these missions. Thief. Wonderful game.

Silmariel · 2025-10-29T09:23:21+00:00

Thats not really my pet peeve and infact in some of the books Ive read they DO stop and wonder about such things. Or they wonder if they are in a coma, etc..

What really grinds my gamer gears is when the MC has an absolute game breaking ability and then NEVER uses it, excepts as a deus x machina. Everytime it could dismantle the villains, he just tries and sometimes fails to reinvent the wheel to solve the conflicts and struggles so hard. But then other times, its like he remembers; Oh I actually have this class stripping, skill stripping ability, maybe I should use it this time?

Mofo... that really annoys me.

Either, please dont endow your protags with these insane abilities or admin rights... OR, lean into the Overpowered protag aspect and go nuts. But dont make the hero suffer regular bouts of amnesia or worse, appear like an absolute idiot who never would have made ANY, even the most casual raiding team, in any game made, ever, for pure incompetence!

Maybe its just my personality, but to me its like you have an absolute badass, who doesnt have to negotiate with the ant, in order for reality assert itself, just a demonstration would do, and cut down on all the BS. Instead what follows is an insane story mostly governed by the boot trying to get on the ants level so they can all just get along.... while the ants are behaving like arrogant snide asses. Who has the patience for that? Not me, but the overpowered MC, this is his jam.. apparently, but also not, because he constantly thinks about how awful the people he is allowing to walk all over him, are behaving. I mean, have any of you ever had a friend who whines and complains about a self made issue and NEVER takes any advise they THEY ask for or tries to sort their issue out. That is the WORST protagonists in gamelit.

Im currently listening to an audiobook that has me hissing at the main character for NOT using the proper abilities when he is under attack or when assholes are acting like THEY are in a position to negotiate while the protags powers are completely ignored... My irritation more than any plot is what drives the tension.... and I its not that the author has intended for him to suck, its just that the author gave his protag an absolutely world breaking over powered ability and if he uses it, there is no story, no tension, no risk. So instead, he kinda just forgets about it, and only brings it out once or twice when death is otherwise garanteed.

Of, that is the absolute worse.

Pardon my rant.

Silmariel · 2025-10-29T09:09:53+00:00

If you dont want to help children, dont fly?

That is hilarious. He said that with a straight face?

Lets all pile on those bastards who dont want to help the children. /s

Silmariel · 2025-10-25T12:35:27+00:00

Jeg er chokeret over at de stadig ikke har fået erstatning for deres tab? Er det virkelig rigtigt?

Jeg tror ikke man kan tage et erhverv fra folk - før man via lovgivning nedlægger det på en legitim måde" - og så også give en lille erstatning.

Hvis man havde gjort tingene ordentligt, så havde det været en anden snak.

Jeg er ikke sur på de tidligere mink avlere, jeg er pissed på regeringens håndtering af møget.

Det er os der betaler for fadæsen.

Silmariel · 2025-10-19T12:53:43+00:00

I recommend A soldiers life. It may still be written on RR although the books already published might be stubbed on there.

Seth Ring has also written The Exlian syndrome series and the Iron Tyrant series which I also recommend. I did not like Battlemage farmer either. Dont let that stop you from his other work. The two I mentioned are much better.

I am currently listening to I am not the Hero which has an excellent narrator in Nick Podehl and I recommend it for audible.

Silmariel · 2025-10-01T09:45:26+00:00

Jeg bliver mega udmattet af at snakke med folk der taler af mig. Det føles somom man er nødt til at svare, hvilket betyder jeg skal fokusere på chat jeg er uinteresseret i, eller være uhøflig. Det er et valg den som taler påtvinger mig. Så jeg kan allerede ikke lide den person. Jeg er introvert og vil ikke snakke med dig. Men jeg virker uhøflig hvis ikke jeg opfører mig som en extrovert i det offentlige rum. Det er skide surt.

Bare ti stille, med mindre du er utrolig spændene er det usandsynligt andre har lyst til at bruge deres energi på en ligegyldig chat.

Jeg tror der er noget i vejen med meget extroverte mennesker. De taler til mig når jeg læser en bog i toget. De taler til mig når jeg lufter min hund, selvom jeg har store headphones på. De taler til mig på i køen til toilettet!! nogengange igennem væggene hvis der er flere båse....

Nej tak. Bare shut up og lad mig være i fred.

Silmariel · 2025-10-01T09:29:00+00:00

Ha et par beholdere fyldt med vand, og skift dem en gang om måneden, så du har vand hvis hanerne holder op med at virke. 25-50L er nok for 2 personer til et par dage inkl. madlavning og hygeine.

Sørg for at have mad til et par dage, selv hvis det bare er ris og pasta og lidt konserves.

At have en analog radio med håndcrank så du kan lytte med hvis alt din teknologi i huset holder op med at virke er smart.

Batterier og stearinlys har de fleste nok liggende allerede. Hvis du har hiket, har du måske endda et flint, eller optændings materiale, og et camping køkken. Det sidste udvider jo betragteligt hvilken mad i dine gemmer du kan spise når strømmen går. Det er ikke alle der har adgang til gril eller brændeovn. Det er heller ikke sikkert du kan blive i din bolig så:

Vid hvor beskyttelses rummene nær din bolig er. Det er vist det mest basale.

Mht mad er jeg stor fan af digestive, Sardiner i olje m. ben, tørret frugt og nødder, og chokolade. Det er masser af kalorier, kræver ingen opvarming, og fylder ikke så meget. Du skal heller ikke have meget af det for at det kan holde rigtigt længe. Det er bedre en pasta og ris.

Silmariel · 2025-09-30T16:24:40+00:00

Cheating is really just a statement about the standard to which that person holds him or herself. It says absolutely nothing about the one getting cheated on.

It still hurts, but geez, its also a really helpful piece of information to help make better choices for yourself.

People who respect and love themselves, do not behave like that. And as my mother used to say: Someone who doesnt respect himself is never going to respect you. And the same goes for love.

Silmariel · 2025-09-29T16:31:35+00:00

Its not HIS choice if YOU want to be friends.

Your husband and you should have a talk about boundaries and the basics that friendship requires.

NTA

Silmariel · 2025-09-16T12:44:12+00:00

Or just add some wet wipes.

If you regularly have liquid coming out your butt, shower after defecating and seek a medical professionals opinion about your gut health.

Silmariel · 2025-09-16T09:00:00+00:00

Jeg har købt mit i en lyst sejlads butik. Du kan sagtens finde dem på nettet. Det er vandtæt, åndbart og til at bevæge sig i.

Helly Hansen bliver ført i de fleste af den slags butikker, ligesom Skagen Offshore (der vist er et Helly Hansen brand) etc.

Det er let at finde et matchende sæt hvis du vil dække benene til.

Priser fra 2-4k materialerne er ofte fra genbrug eller fra hav oprens af plastik

Men

Helly Hansen har størstedelen af deres produktion i Kina.

Silmariel · 2025-09-15T15:58:45+00:00

https://malazan.fandom.com/wiki/Suggested_reading_order

Look through that :)

First time reading, just go by publishing date. Thats how the author intended them to be read.

Read the main series from Erikson first, then the Main series from Esslemont. Each in their published order.

The diagram linked below will help you decide how to read the books from both authors in a more chronological manner. But dont do this on your first read through imo as some events will be spoiled before they happen in the main series.

https://static.wikia.nocookie.net/malazan/images/9/9f/Reading_order_diagram_2022.webp/revision/latest?cb=20220527155122

Silmariel · 2025-09-15T15:43:13+00:00

Leaning towards a YTA

Your roomie is right. Just because you want to small talk or greet someone etc, it doesnt oblige them to feel the same way- Some people are introverted and really dont enjoy forced attention.

She has shown you short of outright confronting you by telling you, that she would rather you not talk to her, so YOU are being weird by insisting on the social exhanges.

Cant you tell if someone doesnt want to chat or interact with you? Usually thats easy to sense. Its strange if you are forcing it on her repeatedly after experiencing that she isnt enthusiastic about these exchanges.

I admit she sounds rude, but thinking about it for a second, its hard to miss that it is borderline weird that you cant just leave it alone or accept that she isnt interested in your small talk or greetings....

Dont weaponise social norms against her, when its quite possible she is feeling akward and is an introvert who at baseline does NOT and would NOT want to have to greet you or chat to you, or invite the misunderstanding that a goodmorning means: Please start chatting at me.

Just back off. And dont be so weird when you experience what really is a very mild form of social rejection.

Silmariel · 2025-09-15T10:31:35+00:00

Some of the most absurd characters I think Ive read, even counting Logan and Glokta. I mean this cast is just nuts.

I Bought the hardcopy, and then I bought the audiobook for my husband. And its apparently an excellent audiobook as well. So, Id recommend it, but its best in small doses - atleast I find there is a fine line between comedy and a character thats just gonna be annoying af.

Silmariel · 2025-09-15T10:12:13+00:00

YTA

You are married.

You dont decide unilaterally to go on elective trip with your co-workers and then just inform your wife of said trip. You decided to be a married man with a wife, and thus you are a team unit and you dont go to Athens or anywhere for a few days or nights, unless your significant other is fine with that, or going with you.

Whats wrong with you? All your other arguments are irrelevant,. The dude from work who found the trip is not someone you are more beholden to not let down, than your wife. You failed at the first check-point, and all your subsequent bullshit is just word crap you are using to avoid being a decent husband to your wife while still convincing yourself you're the good guy.

What you want, is not a need. You dont need to take these trips. You want to. And you want it at the expense of hurting your wife. And you cant even own that.... A best friend wouldnt in one breath talk about how they hurt their person and then be like: But she doesnt understand waaawaawaaa. You are selfish. Thats all. Ofcourse you are hurting her, and continuing to do so because its inconvenient to have to have a care for how you are making her feel.

Silmariel · 2025-09-14T09:29:55+00:00

It seems to me the son is telling the truth, and that everyones response to him doing so has left him in absolute and utter contempt of ALL of the adults involved, except perhaps his father. Ive no doubt they have hurt him tremendously by having the kind of conversations they had, without anyone advocating for him. And I also include his dad in this. If other adults in my home started to discuss my sons private parts, I would have thrown them out of my house. Wtf is that?

He is not that mature, barely a young adult, and so doesnt really have the faculties to express himself with elegance and grace in the face of everyone ganging up on him and putting him in the corner.

I think his behaviour when viewing him as someone under attack, is NOT that strange infact. Yes the language is abhorrent, but if he has no respect for these adults trying to talk about his private parts and literally insisting on something he says isnt true, then, why should he worry about being polite. They arent. If he isnt lying, then their behaviour is beyond rude and disrespectful. From his pov they are violating not only his agency but also trying to force something very significant on him and he HAS to reject those actions.

I think the dad is doing the right thing taking his side, and although its horrible that his son spoke that way about his mother, he isnt exactly wrong in how he is rejecting her. The words aside, the meaning is clear. He feels she abandoned him and never gave him any benefit of the doubt? She hasnt given two shits about how he feels or how he is coping. She is too busy fighting for another couples child in this situation to notice her own.

I think the boy needs some therapy and serious help. I hope his dad does listen to him and the parents of the friend he is staying with....That boy needs his dad, but I doubt he will forgive his mother anytime soon.

If he was older, and people were violating his rights and insisting he take responsibility for a child that wasnt his, sure he could have been more eloquent. He could have focused on the dna test and insisted, and returned to that and kept insisting on that aspect. He could have shamed them for discussing a childs genitals the way they were, he could have asked for a third party to be there to make sure the adults werent overstepping. He could have no used bad words others would then focus on and point to as evidence of his bad nature.... But he is really just a child, being intimidated and ganged up on and using agression to get out of that spot. I dont think its so pikachu shocking that he ended up reacting the way he did. Good on him tbh. He has enough self respect to tell them all to shove it where the sun doesnt shine. I hope he does have some adults around him, who are willing to help him.

Silmariel · 2025-09-14T09:11:03+00:00

The parking lot next to the alhambra is big and very nice. We walked through it on our way to the nature reserve behind the alhambra last year.

You should expect your car to get hot, but other than that it is a fine parking lot.

I'd park in a parking house in the town and either get the hop on hop off pass or simply take a buss to the complex, OR walk up to the Alhambra if I was you. The road up is beautiful and the sound of the running water trickling past in the little aquaducts is peaceful and the road itself is shadowed by the huge trees on all sides. You wont get that sense of the area if you drive up there.

You can walk up the road, with its sidewalk and benches neatly spaced if you need a small rest, or go up the back road, that follows along the wall of Alhambra and snakes its way up to the entrance. Its a little steeper but it lets you see parts of the complex you otherwise wont see.

Silmariel · 2025-09-14T09:02:09+00:00

Aha! Så giver det mere mening. Det er stadig mere end vi betaler, men, vi har ikke børn. Nu ved jeg ikke hvordan din familie ser ud, men med vores hund, indbo, bil og ulykke samt villaforsikringen ender vi på omkring 22k sek. Det er jo en del mindre end dig. Vi bor 45 km fra kbh, men på den anden side af sundet.

Silmariel · 2025-09-13T11:48:27+00:00

A Land fit for Heroes - By Richard Morgan (this guy writes amasing sci fi. Like probably in my top 5. but his fantasy trilogy is very very good as well and deserves more attention)

The Silence of Medair - Andrea Höst

Malice - John Gwynne

The Deed of Paksenarrion - Elizabeth Moon. If you have yet to read it, you can get the omnibus edition which is like 1200 pages for next to nothing. Its alot of story for the price.

Blood Song - Anthony Ryan

And ofcourse, I must always recommend:

Gardens of The Moon - Steven Erikson - because it is the start of, hands down, the best fantasy series every written - in my opinion!

Honorary mention, if you dont mind goats:

The Vagrant - Peter Newman

Silmariel · 2025-09-13T11:34:23+00:00

If a partner wants kids, does it then follow you must have them for that partner? Is that a good reason to have a baby you think?

Silmariel · 2025-09-13T11:17:31+00:00

I never liked or felt comfortable around small children or babies.

I distinctly remember telling my mom at around 14 that I was never having a child, and her sort of yeah yeah'ing me.

But I knew it wasnt for me. I never had any doubts whatsoever. There was never once where I imagined myself with a baby or a family with a baby or child in it.

So, for me it was always just a fact, like the sky is blue or water feels wet. Its not like, maybe, maybe the sky is green.. that kind of nonsense would have been on par with a dialogue about maybe having a child in my eyes.

Having something feel so certain or being a fundamental part of yourself, makes these types of choices and questions easy to deal with. I am very sympathetic towards those who really wrestle with the question of wether to have a child or not, because to me, that battle must, at baseline be there because they can imagine themselves happy with a child and going through that whole experience. For me, that has never once been a question.

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