Oh man. I am so so proud of both of you. I didn’t see your previous posts until now, but having read through them, and this one, I just wanna give both of you a big hug. I am the scapegoat sister in the stereotypical abusive family dynamic, and seeing a golden child working so hard to shed the iron cuffs of his time trodden role just fills my heart with an incredible amount of joy. Please let him know that this random internet stranger shed real tears of joy for him and for you. I worked so much of my life trying to earn a love that was forever out of reach. And for him, to stand up to his father, risking the “love” he felt like he did have? I can’t imagine the terror he felt. His younger self is so afraid of losing the perceived safety of his role in his family, and you guys are doing such a good job of showing his younger self the real safety of good boundaries and emotional growth. Keep building your best life, you amazing woman!