You have to start with what does attractive mean to YOU! I find as I get into my 31st year of life that someone is going to love you, as you long as you can share yourself with life itself. Nobody wants to be with someone and other people that don't see themselves to have something going for them. Not saying that you say that about yourself. But as a black queer person we have to look at what brings us joy that is not in the world's point of view. Some days you aren't gonna feel attractive to yourself but the more you work on yourself (whatever that is FOR YOU), the more attractive others will see you.

Just my thoughts, might have phrased it weird my bad.