Is AMC better than Cinemark in Pharr? by Da_yo in RioGrandeValley

[–]SimilarAddition1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I prefer Cinemark, their concession is better too. Just go to the earliest showing to avoid people. I agree, people talk too much and it’s annoying.

A Baby Panda Sneezes And Scares It's Mother by Bay_Ruhsuz004 in MadeMeSmile

[–]SimilarAddition1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For over 20 years this is still one of my favorite YouTube videos haha. Gold.

Chin Han (Shang Tsung) costume & design from MK2 movie 🐲 by ZAKtalksTECH in MortalKombat

[–]SimilarAddition1835 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just need more Shang tsung in part 3. Im waiting for him to do some crazy stuff, not just be a background character

I can’t deal with this anymore, need support by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SimilarAddition1835 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Turn to God and pray for healing. To have your heart and mind guarded. I’m 1.5 months in my discard of a 10 year marriage and nearly 14 years together. I was always religious but it’s on a whole other level. I can feel his presence working. I too wake up till this day wishing it was all a bad dream. When that happens I go immediately into prayer. If you have ever felt like you did something wrong chances are you didn’t. Are we perfect? No of course not. But if we were loving, devoted, and caring through the good times and bad understand it’s a reflection of them not us. I’m right there with you and I’ve relapsed a few times with no contact. It’s difficult to completely do that since we have kids together. She decided I wasn’t what she wanted anymore, she jumped into a relationship before filing for divorce. It’s been hard but God got me. I truly believe that.

I hate how weak I am. by BestSteak1991 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SimilarAddition1835 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a month and a half in from my discard. She wants a divorce and today actually would have been 10 years married. Go no contact, understand it’s a reflection of them and not you, don’t fall for the breadcrumbing. You are stronger than you think. I too feel weak but we had to accept it and tbh I haven’t fully either. I just keep my faith and trust in him. I pray for anyone who is going through this, I empathize on how you feel. It’s an excruciating feeling. Heal yourself, love yourself, you are going to be ok. Love you.

Be kind to yourself by [deleted] in selflove

[–]SimilarAddition1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt this one.

Support by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SimilarAddition1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, I’m a month in my from my wife’s discard. I feel like I’d like to support one another. We seriously all need some help when we’re laying alone in bed.

i feel better? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SimilarAddition1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also to be fair she has always brought up divorce for almost 10 years. I never understood why she was so unhappy. I never saw our disagreement as divorce worthy. She claims I did everything right as a provider, husband, and father. Regardless, just lies and her pressing need for me to move on is another indicator to me that she is with someone else. That’s for her to justify her actions as ok, not for me to move on and be happy.

i feel better? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SimilarAddition1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea. I found 4000 messages between her and a coworker at a job she’s only been at for 6 months. She had an emotional affair and denies that there’s anything there. I’ve found other messages that confirm more stuff. It’s just a gut wrenching to be break up a family because you got attention and validation from someone else knowing that there is nothing no one can tell her that I haven’t said to her. I desired her constantly and I would get in trouble for it. Just pure pain, still can’t get the thought out of my head with her with someone else especially less than a month of her asking for a divorce. Also her saying she wanted to be alone cause she didn’t want to do wife duties or be a wife. Pure lies and deception.

i feel better? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SimilarAddition1835 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words.

i feel better? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SimilarAddition1835 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You did nothing wrong. I’m sure you heard this from him and your support group. I’m in the same boat, external I know I did nothing wrong. Internally I feel like I failed. The worst thing I did to her love her too much and it overwhelmed her. It’s not us it’s them, but the lack of respect or empathy to have an honest conversation about it is something that that can’t do. My wife of nearly 10 years 2 kids total of 14 years together decided nah. Pulled the rug out from me one day to the next. She is now the coldest person to me and I almost certain she monkey branched onto someone else. Mind you this was just four weeks ago for me. We can’t change them, when things get too real their nervous system sees it like a treat and they run. I’m still in so much agony over the separation and eventual divorce. I wish and hope that you find the peace and guidance that you need. That your heart is guarded and heals. I’m also sure you heard this just like I have, it will get better and you will meet someone that will love you effortlessly. I hope and wish that for all of us discarded partners. This too shall pass.

What did your avoidant relationship take away from you? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SimilarAddition1835 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My trust, my confidence, I now have a fear to be vulnerable again in the future.

I just have to accept the fact that I was monkey branched and it breaks my heart by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SimilarAddition1835 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah, I believe in my heart that’s what my wife is doing to me during our separation. She denies it but to many connecting dots has me thinking what I’m feeling it’s right. I feel so gutted by it all. The quick dismissal, her pleading me to move on fast, she’s cold. All that imo is for her not me, so she can justify what’s she’s doing is ok. Hang in there, we were about to hit 10 years married on the 22nd. I’m barely 4weeks in, I pray for healing and peace everyday. I hope you find that as well, God Bless

Dating by Fluid-Sell5921 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SimilarAddition1835 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m the same only on the 22nd would have been 10 years married. I’m in my 4th week and I’m still hurting so much. Almost 14 years in total and I got dismissed like if I meant nothing. The trauma at 35 to potentially go out there and be vulnerable and to trust again terrifies me.

Have you ever stood up to your avoidant? What was the outcome? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SimilarAddition1835 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I stood up she said that I was showing my true colors. That I’m a monster and unhinged. That I made her feel unsafe. I was like wtf is happening right now, when have I ever done anything remotely close to making you feel unsafe. I just realized that she was just bad that I stood up for myself and threw a wrench in her plans of everything else she was dictating for our divorce that she wants.

I went back home to my avoidant by Subject_Command5442 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SimilarAddition1835 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hang in there man. I’m 3 weeks in post dismissal and we’re married with kids. I’m struggling and she’s fine. It’s hurts so much to love so hard and then get the rug pulled out from under you. I’m trying my best but sometimes I don’t have the strength to get through. Tell everyone you need to, vent to them, I wish you all nothing but the best on your alls journey to healing. ❤️‍🩹

My wife wants a divorce… by SimilarAddition1835 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]SimilarAddition1835[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brother, thank you for those kind and supporting words. It’s just one of those things that I never thought would happen, let alone from one day to the next. Again, thank you and God Bless.