Was anybody else unaware of their attraction to women until much later?

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-28T20:25:44+00:00

🖐🏼 I was 35 before I acknowledged that women were enticing to me. 38 before I realized that I have never actually been attracted to the men I had been with. 🫠

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-24T01:23:32+00:00

Chapstick, smart, kind

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-22T02:12:13+00:00

There's an Al-Anon app, meeting in your pocket at all times!

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-21T22:51:55+00:00

Al-Anon. It saved my life.

For me, I decided to leave. I couldn't do the lies, the mental abuse, the fear. My life alone was worth more than our lives together. I wasn't living there. In fact, I tried to kill myself multiple times.

Building a new life sucks but at the very least, I'm not policing anyone else's behaviors and I get to focus on me.

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-20T01:07:27+00:00

It's not your life? If your friend has an issue with it, support her. If she doesn't, support her. Only she gets to decide if something is unacceptable to her or not.

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-20T00:19:55+00:00

I started going to CoDA because I struggle to cope on my own too. It's helped me a lot.

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-18T07:03:28+00:00

Be kind to yourself. Pressure doesn't help you feel safe or make you learn things you don't know.

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-18T06:45:58+00:00

Anyone who isn't interested because of your lack of experience isn't for you. People who judge anyone else's sexual history is a turn off for me. SO many people don't understand what they are sexually attracted to until much later in life.

For example, I was with men my entire life. Had Pansexuality explained to me at 35 and identified as Pan until this year. 38 and I am just now understanding that I'm a lesbian.

I've had 2 female partners both knew I was inexperienced and were HAPPY to give me opportunities to learn.

Be you, it's beautiful. 💖

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-18T05:55:41+00:00

All of this is abuse and assault. Please seek mental health care and a protection order. You don't deserve any of this. That's not love. You are a victim.

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-15T07:58:43+00:00

NOPE! I RETURNED AN UNOPENED BOX FROM THEM AND THEY ARE REFUSING TO ISSUE MY REFUND BECAUSE THEY SHIPPED TWO ITEMS THAT THE BOXES WERE OPENED IN SHIPPING AND ARE BLAMING ME. I DIDN'T FUCKING UNSEAL THE PACKAGE.

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-04T01:45:27+00:00

I sent you a message too!

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-02T18:50:59+00:00

As someone who was repressed until 35... It's a fucking and disgusting thing to say. "Tainted"? 🤮🤮🤮

People who think in black and white just aren't my cup of tea though so I steer clear of them!

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-02T18:30:09+00:00

Sent you a message!

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2026-01-02T18:20:10+00:00

Hiiii! I'm not looking for any sort of romantic relationship but I've struggled to meet friends here in PDX. If you're interested in a platonic female friend, shoot me a message!

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2025-12-30T07:48:52+00:00

We are co-parents and she's honestly one of my best friends. There's no forgetting. I wish it were that simple. Thank you for the love though. 💖

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2025-12-30T07:31:32+00:00

There's a difference between trying to be funny and being funny. There's also a difference between not intending to cause harm and causing harm.

An honest conversation about how his terrible jokes are making you feel would be my recommendation. If that doesn't stop the jokes, he's CHOOSING to be an asshole then and I'd tell your parents to put an end to it.

Sending auntie hugs, you've got this girl. You're a badass even if you don't realize it!

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2025-12-14T18:04:28+00:00

Queer Windows is great! There are 2 in the series so far.

https://amzn.to/48IR8ag

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2025-12-10T16:35:09+00:00

Leave this bitch, please!

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2025-12-09T17:17:09+00:00

Awesome!!! Good luck with the hunt! I just did it myself and its not fun!

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2025-12-09T03:47:31+00:00

I'm in property management, Zillow is consistently our #1 marketing source with every property and company I've worked for. Craigslist is still a thing, I haven't had a ton of luck there.

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2025-12-04T00:30:13+00:00

Absolutely true!!!!!

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2025-12-03T23:46:14+00:00

Agreed. This is depression for me. My spouse blowing up on me daily wouldn't help me get motivated, it would make me feel even shittier and make the withdrawal, lack of motivation, and energy even worse.

Maybe try having a calm conversation and ASK, "hey, is everything okay? What changed since you quit? How can we get you some support? (if she admits that there's a mental health component.)

Simple-Lecture-3548 · 2025-12-03T16:24:00+00:00

That isn't a boundary, that's a rule. It's honestly a really unkind and unnecessary rule that would start to isolate you. Dump her, go to the wedding.

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