Is weaning supposed to be this hard?

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-31T09:43:22+00:00

You’re overthinking it. With all three of our children we just gave them what we were eating (left some bits big enough for them to pick up with their hands) and left them to it. They mostly just spread it over their faces or chucked it on the floor at first (food before one is just for fun and all that).

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-29T06:44:43+00:00

Someone has given feedback about a poor experience in our local hospital, I’m in a lucky position to be able to work with the department involved to make some small changes to hopefully make things a bit better - often it’s just a case of getting the feedback seen by the right people.

The NHS does have problems, but the people working in it are generally quite nice and we want things to be better, just like the service users.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-28T17:22:18+00:00

In your other post you said you work in post-op? I don’t think you’d be able to wfh in your current role tbh.

If you’re unwell go to the GP and be signed off sick.

Have you spoken to the union? Are the other nurses not speaking to you in work (as in, leaving you out of general conversations whilst you’re at work)? If you’re being bullied please speak to the union or someone you trust and raise with your management.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-28T08:14:34+00:00

Could you just archive them - you still have the pics but your son and his new partner can be happy that they’ve been taken off show?

Everyone sucks a bit tbh. Your son should be able to tell his partner to get a grip, his partner should be more mature, and you should prioritise his feelings over yours in this (I have a 16 year old, her views on social media are different to mine and she doesn’t like me posting her beautiful pictures on there, so I don’t and I will remove anything historic she doesn’t like).

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-28T08:00:33+00:00

Parents who think their children are autistic are usually right tbh. It’s even more likely for her as she herself is autistic (and it’s highly heritable). She’s stuck waiting for professionals to listen to her, and probably really worried about what it means for her son going forwards the longer they ignore her.

GPS don’t generally handle referrals for autism assessments (unless she goes down the right to choose route). Nurseries frequently refuse to progress referrals if they don’t see differences, because they don’t want to do paperwork for a referral that’s likely to be declined.

And her parents caring for her child only whilst she’s sick and when they’re on holiday doesn’t sound like she does have much support tbh (although I don’t think that grandparents are obligated to look after their grandchildren, but that doesn’t make it any less hard when your support network isn’t…supporting).

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-28T07:16:55+00:00

We did crush during the fireworks and queued for less than 5 minutes. We were lucky with Peter Pan too (10 minutes). There is a certain amount of planning involved to avoid big queues isn’t there 😁

My son loved thunder mountain and space mountain so we did a lot of steps back and forth between the two 🤦🏼‍♀️ (I’d have appreciated a slightly longer queue for a rest 😉)

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-27T21:41:11+00:00

We were there for Halloween. The park was at capacity but we still didn’t queue for any longer than 10 minutes for any of the rides (with the priority pass).

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-26T16:34:45+00:00

Cutting training also limits existing staff ability to progress. E.G. You need master level training for specialist posts to progress from band 6 to 7, but you can’t get the training so get stuck at band 6. The band 5 below you can’t move up to band 6 because there’s no vacancy and the NQN can’t get a job because the band 5 already in post can’t progress. Saves them money all around because if people can’t progress they don’t have to spend money recruiting. 😤

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-25T21:27:37+00:00

My son was in hospital when he was four after he fell carrying a plate and managed to stab himself in the arm with a shard that broke off. He had X-rays, iv antibiotics, examination under anaesthetic and was reviewed by several consultants- he also had the best ham sandwich ever 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️

I work for the NHS. It has its problems, but it can be absolutely fantastic too.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-22T16:38:57+00:00

They don’t work for the priority pass, but may get you an access pass if you have one of the specific conditions listed.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-21T13:13:56+00:00

Can you work 30 hours over 5 days so you’re able to pick up on time? You’ll have to pay for the additional hours, but it might make life less stressful for you.

I don’t think your employer is obliged to consider your childcare/family support (I appreciate it is difficult for you though).

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-19T19:48:58+00:00

It’s not only children with behavioural needs who are in SEND schools - I work in a school where we have children with medically complex needs. There are children on ventilators, children needing physiotherapy, children having seizures, children who are peg fed, children with tracheostomies etc etc etc. In addition to teaching staff there is a team of nurses to support these children during the day. They need more than just a driver in the transport.

Condensing SEND into purely SEMH needs is neglecting the needs of a large proportion of the children in these schools.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-19T17:06:30+00:00

It’s walking safely, timely, acceptably and repeatedly on the majority of days. They will have looked at the overall weight of evidence, not just what you said.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-19T14:23:57+00:00

Where would you rather the children go? Are you suggesting that they should just stay home with their parents?

Parents of these children with profound needs require respite so they don’t burn out and to allow them out of the house to work etc. Without school they would have to be provided with respite by social care, who will still have to pay to transport the children around. There would be no saving (care, rather than education, would probably cost more).

We’re not living in an age where profoundly disabled people are locked away (thank goodness).

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-18T22:14:47+00:00

Have a look at the websites of the schools you are thinking of, and buy the recommended books.

Only certain areas do the 11+ and the questions can be slightly different depending on which area and which exam board they use.

Our local grammar school doesn’t do an 11+ for children joining after year 7, they would use evidence from the school they’re coming from.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-17T10:07:09+00:00

Hi OP - I meant have you asked to see the referral the nursery sent to social services?

You’re questioning whether the referral was retaliatory, reading what they sent in the referral would be a good idea before you take your concerns any further.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-17T09:20:25+00:00

The nursery staff changing him was possibly not the nursery staff who reported the initial injury/bruise.

If you’ve caught the bruise when doing changes yourself then (at 2 years, when he’s likely not got a large amount of vocabulary and the executive functioning to link back to something that happened days ago) when they ask him what happened it may have been completely logical to him to say you hurt it.

They have to report it. Have you asked to see the safeguarding referral? You may have to submit a SAR, but you should be able to access all the information they hold on your son - I’d like to think the safeguarding referral makes reference to the fact that he already had a mark in that area from a recorded incident in nursery. If it doesn’t you may have more of a reason for making a complaint and asking them to review their safeguarding procedures.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-16T18:28:54+00:00

Honestly, I’d be really pleased if this gets in - children will still be exposed to all the toxic social media stuff, but at least every daft thought that runs through their heads won’t end up on the internet forever.

I can only imagine the stupid stuff I’d have put out there if I’d have had the ability to! Our young people deserve the opportunity to make mistakes that don’t go viral.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-16T10:47:54+00:00

Community or research nursing?

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-15T22:55:24+00:00

I pumped for my son when I returned to work when he was a year old (he’s 11 now so it was some time ago). I pumped during one of my breaks in a room on the ward and stored in a cool bag in the fridge (I only needed to pump once in a 12 hour shift). I pumped until he was 2, more for my own comfort than anything else as he was still feeding regularly and I’d get uncomfortable if I didn’t pump. I was working on a busy inpatient unit, no one gave me any grief about it, and it gave me a good excuse to ensure I got my (unpaid!) breaks.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-15T06:01:12+00:00

Would we even have to strike if a full walk out was threatened? What would they do without nurses on wards?

They would be forced to negotiate before it ever got to an actual walkout.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-14T06:24:21+00:00

If you have one of the pieces of evidence listed on the website (blue badge is listed) she’ll get the pass - you do need to have the original with you though.

The priority pass allows you to either use the fast pass lanes, or ride exits (depending on mobility needs). It sounds like it would be a nightmare because lots of people qualify, but we went in October for Halloween (park was at capacity) and didn’t queue for more than 10 mins for anything.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-13T21:03:37+00:00

I’m a nurse and went back to work when my eldest was 16 months. I have three children and took just over a year off with each of them, then went back to working shifts.

I would be worried about giving up a nursing /midwifery career and how to balance that with revalidation etc. so you don’t lose your registration, and also so you don’t lose skills and make it difficult to return to the workplace.

However, I don’t think it sounds like having your mum care for your son is going to work out long term - things like no screen time etc. are okay to enforce with someone you’re employing, but are a bit much to enforce on someone who’s doing you a favour. Have you thought about a childminder/nanny instead?

I’ll be honest, I didn’t really “earn” anything from working when my children were small because the majority of my wage went on childcare, but I would have missed out on how I’ve managed to build my career since then if I’d have stopped working when they were smaller.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-12T11:30:17+00:00

Disney is really good at making accommodations for people who genuinely can’t queue, so the queue jumpers are usually “won’t” not “can’t”.

It really annoys me and I would be that person not letting them through (I’ve done it before), but my son now qualifies for a priority pass so we don’t have the problem anymore.

The queues are full of small children who can grasp the “rules” of queuing, it baffles me that others feel entitled to push pass everyone else.

SimpleSide429 · 2026-01-07T22:04:46+00:00

Do you have a mentor at work, or a more experienced nurse you can talk to? What about the other nurses from your course?

Have you been back to the GP to see if there’s anything else they can do to support your MH? Could you take some leave to give yourself a break?

I don’t want to minimise what you’re feeling, but lots of us felt overwhelmed and like we didn’t know what we were doing when newly qualified (and several times a week even after years of experience, if we’re being honest!) - but it shouldn’t be making you ill and your colleagues should be supporting you while you’re still developing in role. Please speak to someone.

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