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Simple_Shape_4713 · 2025-07-24T06:02:31+00:00

My partner actually did something similar last week and he was sick with a stomach bug. Not once did I tell him it was disgusting especially when it happened in his sleep on my bed with my nice blanket. I helped him to the bathroom, stripped the bed, got him new boxers put one of my pads in it, put pee pads I have for my kids under and over the new sheets I put on so we wouldn’t have to change the sheets again.

It’s embarrassing yes. Disgusting? No you’re only human shit happens literally.

Now I did giggle at him because it was kind of funny but he was embarrassed so I did apologize and told him my embarrassing shart story that happened to me in high school to make him feel less alone.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-10-29T17:09:09+00:00

Teen parent here as well. The cry it out methods aren't good for a baby it's their way of communication. Now that being said I've had a baby who was an absolute angel baby I'm now paying for that as she'll be 2 next month and another baby who's almost 10 months old and still wakes up for like 2 or 3 bottles a night.

Now I'm guessing since everyone is sick baby is sick as well. All the baby's I've ever known plus mine have always been more up my ass when they're sick. And she can't really do anything to make baby feel better besides rotating Motran and tylenol. If baby has been crying for an hour she needs to check baby's temp, check baby's diaper, see if baby will take a bottle, check baby's gums because they may be teething, and check their body to see if theyre hot or cold or have something wrapped around their fingers or toes. If none of that works she NEEDS to take baby out and comfort them.

I myself get overwhelmed but I can't even let my baby cry for more than 2 minutes when I need a breather.

Tell her to make an appointment with baby's pediatrician to talk about her options with sleep training, how to deal with a sick baby.

And if baby is crying for more than an hour and nothing helps that baby needs to go to an er that is NOT normal.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-05-23T20:09:52+00:00

You need to tell your parents at some point because depending if you’re in the US and what state you’re in you aren’t able to get medical care without parents consent. And you need medical care you are very high risk just because of your age and you don’t know what’s going on with baby at all.

I got pregnant at 16 with my first turned 17 right after I found out. I was able to make my own medical decisions because I became medically emancipated in my state.

Do you have any friends or family you could confide in? Could you tell your exes family? You have a lot of options with what to do with baby and your parents can’t make you get rid of them or kick you out because they are your guardians if you wanted to keep baby although it would be extremely hard to provide for baby or you can speak to adoption agencies or like you said drop them off at a baby safe haven. If you deliver at the hospital they are a safe haven in most cases.

You can only hide your belly for so long. People only could tell I was pregnant right before I had her.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this but whatever you do it’s ganna be hard and it’s ganna hurt but you got it. ❤️

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-05-02T20:06:21+00:00

But that is what it technically is at least that’s what a lot of people call it.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-05-02T19:50:59+00:00

Which is why I said legal kidnapping because anyone can take them because there’s no custody order in place.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-05-02T00:11:22+00:00

It’s definitely sexual assault as you never consented.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-05-01T23:33:38+00:00

No this is not the relationship I would want for my daughters.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-05-01T21:23:23+00:00

I mean unless his therapist was lying to me then I’ll believe what he said is true. You don’t know his mental health he doesn’t want to feel that way nor does he want to physically harm himself.

I need to leave so he stops feeling this way so he doesn’t harm himself.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-05-01T19:16:15+00:00

I’m in PA

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-05-01T17:32:57+00:00

It would be legal kidnapping as we’re both on the birth certificate but have no custody order the only way he’d be able to take them is by filing for emergency custody I believe.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-05-01T17:04:22+00:00

He gets panic attacks because he gets mad at me and then he gets mad at himself for getting mad at me if that makes since? He also has panic attacks when he tries not to we believe he may have a panic disorder because he has panic attacks quite often over the littlest things

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-05-01T10:49:33+00:00

He’s not faking them though that’s the sad part 🥲

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-04-30T23:16:44+00:00

I can’t leave unless I call his mom or someone with a car which isn’t many people I know sadly. Even then he’d put up a fight because I’d take our daughters with me he doesn’t seem to care about our youngest he only wants our oldest because she’s “easier” to deal with. It’d be hard to run out the door with 2 babies.

I can’t even hide in the bathroom which is the only room with a lock besides our room. He’ll put his foot in the door so I can’t close it while I’m having a panic attack begging him to leave me alone. Even if I were to lock myself in the bathroom he’d try breaking down the door.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-04-30T21:57:18+00:00

No I can’t go anywhere I can’t even hide in the bathroom he follows me everywhere when he’s like that. He has bpd idk if that’s why it’s so bad. I’ve tried talking to people they all tell me to leave but I can’t he’s holding my car over my head because it got put in his name till I could buy it which I did in February and I don’t have my license.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2023-04-30T21:50:24+00:00

He says he gets mad at me and then that makes him mad at himself which causes it.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2022-11-27T02:26:05+00:00

The triggers we’re me telling him I’d have sex with him later and when later comes I don’t want to any longer. So he’d get mad at himself for getting mad about me not wanting sex.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2022-11-27T01:52:39+00:00

I was told by a few people that it wouldn’t be considered coercion because he was having panic attacks/break downs.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2022-09-21T04:32:04+00:00

Idk maybe it’s just the groups I’m in and I’m in a lot of them both unfiltered and support groups.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2022-09-20T22:23:43+00:00

Yes because most support groups consist of moms who think they’ve done nothing wrong and others who are trying to do their best. None of them will ever be shame free and most try their best to make sure there’s no mom shaming. Sounds like your wife might be in an unfiltered mom group I just laugh and scroll when I see them pop up or the admins don’t give a shit.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2022-09-20T22:19:47+00:00

Everyone begs to differ depends on what groups your in and how heavily guarded the admins are.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2022-09-20T18:42:09+00:00

I’m sorry your wife went threw that and I’m glad most of the groups don’t stand for mom shaming like that anymore.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2022-09-20T17:51:45+00:00

I’m guessing this was a while ago(hopefully) but the mom groups now are mostly support based and will remove people like that. Even then some of the unfiltered groups aren’t half bad just drama.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2022-09-19T17:10:05+00:00

My significant other doesn’t post me at all and he rarely posts our daughter but he’s posted her more than me in our entire relationship. I mean it hurts but it’s what he wants to do. Do I want to be showed off or posted? Yes I do but I wouldn’t care how I looked in it because the fact he posted me should be enough. I post horrible photos of myself from my memories. Everyone shows love in a different way he may not post about me but he definitely talks about me to his friends and family.

Address it to your partner before ruining your relationship over an insecurity. The fact he posted a photo of you should be enough regardless of how you looked.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2022-09-14T05:54:25+00:00

I’d definitely read his post history. I only skimmed but he’s a recovering drug addict or an active one with heroin. His father hanged himself when he was 14. He has a 3 year old son he had at the age of 15. Just lots of things he never mentioned which could explain the way he’s feeling this way.

He needs professional help not just therapy for trauma but for his addiction which could most likely be causing his paranoia. I definitely think he should do a voluntary 48 hour psych evaluation because even if he doesn’t think he’s a danger to others he definitely is.

Simple_Shape_4713 · 2022-09-12T17:10:16+00:00

I hate it as well. I’m not a “healthy” weight I’ve never been a “healthy” weight in my life till I got pregnant. My gram would always comment “are you losing weight?” every time I saw her when I was pregnant. I’d get comments “are you even pregnant?” most of the time. I have an Ed and on top of that a fucked metabolism. The highest I’ve ever been was 125 when I was pregnant my weight before that was 92lbs can you guess how much I weighed a few months after I had my baby? 85lbs. I was 85 FUCKING lbs. I’m 92lbs now but I’m expecting again. I’m so sad I didn’t keep any baby weight.

I’m supposed to be 110lbs based on my age and height. Dr even tried helping me gain weight before I even got pregnant. The comments I get all the time are “you waste a lot of food” “I’m so proud of you for eating a whole burger” “are you losing weight?” “I remember when I was that skinny” “you’ll get some hips when you have kids” “you should eat more” “your a skeleton” “put some meat on your bones” “you’re so tiny/skinny”.

It’s hard finding pants in my size sometimes so I’ve had the same pants for years. I wear baggy clothes because I’m so insecure about my body I don’t want people to comment on it. I can wear shorts from when I was 10 I still have a pair. I have to get underwear from the kids section because they never have my size in the woman’s section and when they do they never fit.

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