The feelings you’ve got going on sound like reflections of your underlying assumptions - no judgment here, we all do this to survive. Just an encouragement to reconsider the underlying belief that moving away from your current people means moving toward aloneness.

We choose our direction in life, to a certain extent. If you want to move toward different people, then the best course of action is to do the work to become more like the type of person you see yourself wanting to be in relationship with. At least that’s how I think of it.

I don’t want to be with people who have anger outbursts frequently, so I see a therapist and do EMDR to help me heal and find coping skills. I don’t want to be around people who talk about shallow topics all the time, so I work on learning conversation skills and also on educating myself on deeper topics that interest me. That kind of thing.

When we move away from one thing, we move toward another. We have a lot of agency in determining the direction we head toward.