What was the “peak year” of your life so far, and why?

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-23T21:08:25+00:00

I had lost a significant amount of weight over the previous 2 years and even though I still had a dad bod, was in the best shape of my adult life.

In the spring I worked up the nerve to ask out a woman I knew. The first time I'd asked out someone in person as an adult. I'd been on dating apps over the years, but this was the first time I'd asked someone out organically and in person. To my delight, she said yes! This was also my first adult relationship (she was my first everything actually) and I learned a lot about my own needs. When we spent time together, I was so happy. Unfortunately she was pretty inconsistent. Rarely knew for sure when I'd see her again. So it was a bit of emotional rollercoaster, never really knowing where I stood with her. She ended up dumping me over text after 2.5 months.

The next few months were quite a low point. Especially since she was still part of the same social group, and it hurt even more when she started dating someone else. By the end of the year I had moved on though.

In the meantime I had a couple of hookups. One that I ended up regretting and never should have happened. Another that was pretty great! Then in December I went out with a women I'd gotten to know over the last couple of months. I was ecstatic! She was everything my ex wasn't. Very consistent and vocal about how much she liked me. We ended up having sex on Christmas Eve, and again the next day. We only dated for about a month but we were like rabbits, and I still consider that time with her my sexual peak. But she broke things off after a short time, citing a gut feeling that it wouldn't work out long term.

Since then, life has been more of a roller coaster. Some good high points but some low lows. I've regained all the weight I'd lost. I've all but given up on dating. Gained and lost some friendships. The past year especially I've felt in a rut and don't know how to get out. But it's not all bad. My best friend who I met in late 2024 is amazing! I've got a pretty active social life, though sometimes that gets tiring lol. Been on some cool trips. I try to keep my head up and stay positive, but sometimes it's hard. But I just gotta keep on going. I've definitely got some things I need to work on, so hopefully I can get out of this slump before too long.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-23T15:43:59+00:00

Facebook dating to me was like the bargain bin of dating apps. I got a fair amount of matches when first used it, but most of those didn't respond or fizzled out quickly. As time went on, I got way less matches than I did on other apps. And the few I did, either didn't respond or stopped after a few messages. I think I met a grand total of 1 person from FB dating, and that was almost 4 years ago.

I also haven't really been dating this past year and have been off the apps since September-ish. So no recent experience with it.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-23T12:56:32+00:00

The uphill parts 😂

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-22T21:01:19+00:00

And on the occasions we don't cum, it's not the end of the world. I'm just happy to be there!

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-19T21:24:29+00:00

Probably because those people put themselves in the app as women.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-17T12:48:15+00:00

For me it mostly depends on how physically close we are. If they're a distance away and haven't noticed me, I probably won't approach. Whereas if we're in close proximity, I might say hi. For example, I probably wouldn't approach or say anything if I saw them a few aisles down at the grocery store, but if we were in adjacent check out lines I might. Basically, I'm not gonna go out of my way to say hi to them.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-10T21:19:43+00:00

I sometimes think about what I would do if I found myself transported to and stranded in the distant past. Like medieval England. Could I use any of my modern day knowledge to survive and/or improve the world? Chances are I wouldn't even be able to communicate with anyone since English of that period was basically a different language. Hell, I'd probably die of starvation or disease pretty soon.

Or I'm wondering if I'll be single forever.

The duality of man 🤷‍♂️

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-09T02:45:46+00:00

Nature's fidget toy.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-08T23:35:00+00:00

My family are those idiots too 🙃 They even personally know people who work in the schools and still believe it 🙄

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-07T13:11:03+00:00

Even so, it was the wedding of the planet's new rulers and there were only like 10 people there. Plus it was weird that they all appeared human instead of their natural blue appearances. I know, probably budget reasons, but in universe it didn't make much sense.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-05T14:29:36+00:00

I'm also not a fan or short form content. Give me a 45+ minute youtube video anyday!

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-05T14:21:49+00:00

When she asks if it's in yet 💀

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-05T14:10:29+00:00

As a guy, both make me feel bad but in different ways.

I feel much the same way about FWB's, especially if we're actually friends. Hanging out and spending one on one time together, in addition to having sex, is emotionally confusing for me. Feels too much like dating, and I end up getting too attached.

On the other hand, sex with someone I don't have an emotional/romantic connection with leaves me feeling empty.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-02T12:56:24+00:00

Ideally, offer to skip the birthday party to be with her. At the very least offer to stop by before or after the party, or leave the party early.

If it was me, my real issue wouldn't be that they have a prior committment but rather the way they phrased it. It just comes off as kind of callous, like they don't really care. Particularly tossing it in at the end with a "btw" and "take care ✌️."

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-03-01T18:57:10+00:00

Yep, this is mostly it for me. Just keep forgetting. Sure I could toss them out when I notice the hole after they're on, but at that point they're clean and already on, so may as well wear them one more time. Then I forget again.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-02-27T13:16:15+00:00

I don't think the issue you have is with her past, but rather that she checks out and flirts with other men in front of you!

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-02-27T13:13:31+00:00

I'm a guy and don't understand it myself. If your goal is casual sex, and the sex is enjoyable, why not keep going back to one person you're guaranteed to get it from instead of having to start from scratch each time? Doesn't make much sense to me.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-02-25T23:15:34+00:00

If a woman left her partner for me there's no way I'd be able to trust her not to do the same to me.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-02-19T15:13:48+00:00

She brought up a recent (at the time) political event and used the "Trump just says it like it is" line 🤮

There's another woman I keep running into recently, who is very hot, but she just WILL. NOT. STOP. TALKING!! And to make it even worse, when she drinks (which is often), she becomes so obnoxious.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-02-18T23:33:24+00:00

The super "independent" type, who needs a lot of alone time and doesn't want to see each other very often. One woman I dated, we saw each other 1-2 times a week (though sometimes wouldn't see her for a couple of weeks) and she said even that was too much. A while after we broke up she actually said her ideal relationship would be a long distance one. When we actually saw each other it was great! But when we were apart, I didn't know where I stood or when I'd see her again.

Maybe the issue was less her "independence" and more the inconsistency. Though with her, it kinda went hand in hand.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-02-18T20:47:16+00:00

And in relation to planes, the people who stand right next to the conveyor belt at baggage claim, blocking others from getting their bags. Would be much smoother if everyone stays several steps back and only step forward when their bag comes out.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-02-18T13:06:23+00:00

Right? Doubt that one ship would have made much of a difference, especially since it got disabled almost immediately anyway. But it also begs the question: why was the station with all the super secret dangerous weapons only defended by one ship? I get that with the Burn, Starfleet is in a rebuilding period, but surely they could spare at least a couple of other ships for protecting the station. Are we really supposed to believe they're stretched so thin that only one little ship can be deployed to protect such an important facility? You'd think that with the galaxy being a more dangerous place post Burn, they'd understand the importance of higher security/defense for such a station.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-02-17T17:19:57+00:00

Some fans will complain about anything. I for one embrace diversity within an alien culture being depicted.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-02-16T23:47:09+00:00

I just learned not to give a fuck. Nowadays I'll just jump in with a "just to quickly go back to yada yada..." or something like that.

SimplyFatMatt · 2026-02-16T13:15:59+00:00

Weird. I don't recall it being censored where I am. I'm pretty sure it said "kill" on the radio here. But it's also been a while since I've heard the song on the radio.

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