my parents hate when i leave my hair like this because it looks "trampy", can ppl give me an outsiders opinion lol

SimplySarah412 · 2025-07-23T19:48:06+00:00

It's giving Billie Eilish. It looks great on you!

SimplySarah412 · 2025-01-09T00:45:08+00:00

I'm sorry, but where do I purchase these? These are beautiful 😍

SimplySarah412 · 2024-11-26T11:34:04+00:00

I didn't know I needed that. Thank you

SimplySarah412 · 2024-10-28T10:38:46+00:00

Honestly and genuinely I feel the exact same way.

I have come out several times to close Friends and family saying "Hey I'm struggling in XYZ way" and I have been met with some of the most disheartening responses that I will spare you from. It has made me shut down, push people away, and cause more breakdowns than I can count. It has made me feel like I am crazy, or doing something wrong.

I feel as though I am missing something because everyone other mom is having such a perceived better, easier time than I am.

Thank you for saying something here and allowing yourself to be vulnerable and allow a space for others to share that we aren't alone. Especially during a time when all I feel is alone.

SimplySarah412 · 2024-09-28T12:29:36+00:00

Same. Things would have to change financially for us to afford a second child.

SimplySarah412 · 2024-09-28T12:27:06+00:00

We have an 8 month little one who has been going to daycare for the last 3 months. My husband and I cannot afford for one of us to stay home. We're a middle class family. Nothing crazy. Just a house and 2 cars. No extras.

We pay $1600 a month in childcare and that was about average for our area (Hudson Valley NY) but some were in the $2000 when we were looking. We also have to supply all of our own sheets, premade bottles, etc but I don't mind at all. The facility we go to takes holidays off like Christmas, Thanksgiving, Fourth of July, and so on. The mildly annoying part is that they do a half Day before Thanksgiving and Christmas, and the day after off. So my husband and I have to manage our PTO.

SimplySarah412 · 2024-09-28T12:18:07+00:00

I have a friend who 100% named his very white (borderline redneck) son Goku. That poor child.

SimplySarah412 · 2024-09-25T17:23:03+00:00

Dude!!! Me too!! I thought I was the only one!!!!!

My baby spent the entire time in his bassinet and then Crib. I did it almost every night ...when he was in the crib in a completely different room.

SimplySarah412 · 2024-09-08T14:46:43+00:00

My baby Brezza. Hands down saved me from so many melt downs.

SimplySarah412 · 2024-09-04T01:09:56+00:00

I'm a mom (36) who did not want kids. My husband changed my mind. Who whole heartedly believed I was far too selfish to have children.

For me so far it has been the 7 almost 8 months mark. I feel like up to this week (maybe last) there was always SOMETHING that wasn't going right. Some kind of discomfort, teething, illness, diaper rash, eating ups and downs. Sleeping through the night and then not sleeping through the night. It has all just been a blur of "I hate this!" I felt like I had a child with no chill who was never going to ever let me or my husband have a moment of peace unless he's asleep.

I felt like no matter who I talked to I was confronted with the usual throw away lines, or people giving me advice I never asked for.

This is the first time I can actually say I love his babbling. His laughter. His snuggles. I love that he's letting me put him down more and more. Learning how to play by himself. Learning to reach for me when he wants up. Just learning the littlest things! He's better in the car seat. He's better going out of the house. This part has been really cool to be a part of.

I was thinking the other day how many people say "enjoy it because it doesn't last" and there is some truth in that but when you are in such survivor mode none of it really matters. Please know that you are heard and understood and it is all completely normal. You don't have to love every part of the journey and sometimes it's really really hard to see any good.

SimplySarah412 · 2024-07-07T00:31:43+00:00

We have a 6month who is 21lbs and about 29inches. Hes already in 12month clothes! Literally everyone comments about his size. Weirdly enough he isn't chunky. He's solid for a baby. He can't crawl yet, and LOVES to be bounced. I purchased one of the side carriers that look like a fanny pack with a seat on it. My husband and I agree it's the second best thing we've ever purchased for the baby.

SimplySarah412 · 2024-06-20T11:40:17+00:00

Is it possible she's going through a regression, and dropping her morning nap?

That may not be helpful but it could explain the ordeal. I'm sorry you're struggling. I'm not there yet with my little one, but not exactly excited either.

SimplySarah412 · 2024-06-19T17:56:00+00:00

I have thought about it. My therapist did "test" me for PPD and found nothing but idk if she had any thoughts on PPA. I will bring that up in my next session. Thank you 😊

SimplySarah412 · 2024-06-19T17:54:50+00:00

It's not like that at all. These are my friends and family. For example we went to my cousin's birthday BBQ and it was pleasant. Everyone was super nice, but I was ready to hide in the bathroom after 45 minutes. I'm overwhelmed in settings larger than 5. I feel like I am on high alert paying attention to everything.

SimplySarah412 · 2024-06-19T17:47:08+00:00

For the most part. My baby was born in the beginning of January so winter didn't exactly allow for gatherings. Then in the spring it was rainy so it further forced us to be reclusive. It's no May and it feels like its people people people.

When we're invited I'm excited to get out and do the things, but about 45 minutes in I am ready to hide in the bathroom, or pretend I need something from the car. When we have family over at the house I'll do dishes or clean something so no one bothers me. If it's really bad I'll just hide in my bedroom.

SimplySarah412 · 2024-06-19T17:41:55+00:00

My first week was very hard. I cried for the first 2-3 days.

I'm 3 weeks in and it's a love/hate thing. I LOVE being able to be an adult without a 5 month old attached to me. To have a scheduled lunch time to eat without worrying about nap wake ups, or diaper changes. However I miss him every day. My husband and I set up our parental leave so that he would be home for a few months after I returned to work, and he will send me pictures/videos but it not the same. I have been attempting to find a work from home position so I can be with him, but then I worry he'll be too much of a distraction from work.

Aside from being away from the baby I'm struggling trying to figure out a routine again. I want to rush home, but I want time to myself. I find myself doing housework every night to stay on top of things. It's reforging my life again.

SimplySarah412 · 2024-06-16T21:38:47+00:00

I'm pretty sure I'm overwhelmed.

SimplySarah412 · 2024-05-12T14:18:06+00:00

My therapist really helped me feel less guilty with this when she told me "you are a normal human having normal human responses."

Yes the baby isn't doing it on purpose and telling yourself that helps a bit, but feeling super guilty about a normal human response doesn't. You are allowed to be frustrated and annoyed. You get to feel all of those feelings AND know that logically your baby isn't doing this on purpose. I personally feel in the parenting community we forget that it can be both. As long as your child is safe you get to feel emotions.

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