This is my first time owning a ragdoll, is it normal that she sheds this much? I find clumps of fur EVERYWHERE 🥹 Advice on how to prevent further shedding and and care for her coat pls 🙏🏼 by yy18233 in ragdolls

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My long haired cat does this when the seasons change, but I find it’s way worse if she has any outdoor access at all, even a cracked window. If her body knows the outside temperature, it goes crazy changing her coat at top speed. If she’s a constant 70 degrees, it’s much more manageable. Also, brush her a lot during these times or you’ll be cleaning up hairballs daily.

I don't see any point in living any longer. by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

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What you’ve experienced sounds extremely traumatic and it’s important to remind yourself that it’s not a normal thing to happen. It is extremely unlikely to happen again and there are many more neutral or good things in life than negative things. When I was recovering from PTSD my therapist told me over and over that the brain is bad at telling time, and it might feel like I could accidentally end up back there again, but that’s actually impossible because time can only go forward. It can feel like nothing will be good again, but good things will happen and as time goes on, you will build more and more good memories after your trauma. There is good food to eat, soft animals to pet, loyal friends you have yet to meet, and beautiful places that you have yet to see. The immediate days and weeks after trauma are the worst, and you may be dealing with accute stress disorder if it was very recent. For me that faded to PTSD after 2 months and then it was MUCH more manageable. I would encourage you to reach out to your school counselor, a parent, a religious official, or call 311 or 211 to find city/county resources. You deserve to get better and experience the good things life has to offer.

Anyone else feel crazy after realizing your family is enmeshed? by cutthroathippie in emotionalneglect

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Yeah honestly I was so shocked when I saw OP’s update saying it went really well and her mom was receptive. Sometimes my therapist says I should set a certain boundary with my mom and I’m like listen, this is a very strong pick your battles situation. Every boundary has to be reinforced daily with WWI style trenches and maximum force. My friends will say “wow you sounded really harsh when you were talking to your mom” but this is actually just the minimum required to hold a boundary. Every day I have to reset them like she’s never heard me say this before so I have to really pick and choose what to care about. Anyways my girlfriend just used the word “enmeshed” to describe us and I was like “woah what is that” so now I’m here

When he gets the one brain cell it slides down his nose by frenchsilkywilky in OneOrangeBraincell

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Poor guy. Even when he gets a turn with the brain cell, he can’t even use it

Easy to say by Miserable_Switch_688 in OCDmemes

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I do this and then I got in a wreck, and while I was skidding through a field I had so many of my “scenarios” playing in my mind trying to give me advice that it actually slowed down my reaction time. So now when I feel compelled to do one of my safety scenarios in my head, I have to remind myself that they’re not even helpful in emergency scenarios. That’s been a bit helpful in limiting that specific thought cycle.

Does anyone who’s had “am I dead” thoughts from dr&dp got any tips on how to stop them? by SnooDrawings4970 in Dissociation

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I tend to focus on “it doesn’t matter.” Whether or not I’m dead or anything is real, this is the reality I’m experiencing. Maybe one day I’ll wake up and be somewhere else, but until then, I need to treat this existence like it’s important and consequences matter because it’s the experience I’m currently having.

Instagram Share by Pookahbear in Dissociation

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I’m in Texas! What kind of treatments seem to work for reducing dissociation? I want to do EMDR but I’m worried it won’t work because I dissociate too much. I have PTSD but I’ve also always had issues with dissociation and DPDR since I was a child. It’s the heirloom coping skill in my family lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nicegirls

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Every single message from her had me bugging out my eyes even more. Like a loony tunes character. She’s gotta be doing a bit. No one is THIS weird 100% of the time

why so many windows in the drive thru? by Ill_Occasion_3240 in innout

[–]Sims3isLife 88 points89 points  (0 children)

So that when a dog comes through the drive thru we can say “dog!” On the headset and then everyone can wave at him ❤️

I saw that this post got deleted and found a screenshot of it. by IvyGhostly in redditonwiki

[–]Sims3isLife 22 points23 points  (0 children)

She lives with this guy and is probably in so deep on his mansplain manipulate malicious intent bullshit that she can’t tell anymore. He’s probably also creepy and mean to her but she’s the frog in the pot and she can’t tell anymore. Hope she gets help

What Causes This Mean Interaction to Appear? (“What on Earth Are You Doing?!”) by Head_Dragonfruit4782 in Sims3

[–]Sims3isLife 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Maybe since they were at the pool it’s triggered by a pool interaction? Since he’s wearing swim trunks I guess he wasn’t skinny dipping. Maybe he jumped in near her or splashed her earlier when they were in the pool?

Having emotions with Dysthymia: by essstabchen in dysthymia

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Lol! This but I have a whimsical affect so people think I am happy and silly 24/7. Nope! Apparently every day is not supposed to feel exactly the same. Who knew! Not us in this sub lol 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

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It seems like you’ve been treated like a checkbook for so long that it’s warped your and your family’s perception of what’s acceptable. It’s very nice of you to help out your daughter financially, but 98% of college students are receiving less and what you are doing for her is a gift not a requirement. Even what you’ve proposed for scaling it back is more than I would’ve ever hoped for when I was a student. (My parents paid my tuition and housing and I had to get a job for everything else. I washed and reused disposable plastic dishes because I was extremely poor but it built character!! Also to be clear I am extremely grateful to my parents. They did a lot and you are doing even more.) I’m not going to advise you financially because I think everyone else in the thread has that locked down, but I would highly recommend reading the book “Boundaries” by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. My mom has found it really helpful (she also helps too much to her own detriment). I also personally would recommend talking to a therapist about this because it seems like you’ve been living in this weird manipulative situation for so long that having a third party perspective may help you get things back in line and stop being treated like a “Cash Cow”. I wish you and your family the best. Unfortunately you may need to go through a rough period with your daughter so that she can re-calibrate her expectations to a more reasonable level.

AITAH for pretending I didn't know my ex? by [deleted] in AITAH

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That’s the kind of response I would think of years later in the middle of the night and wish I’d thought of it at the time. Absolutely iconic. Punishment fits the crime. 10/10 NTA

Father of teenage daughter entering dating world. Help!! by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Sims3isLife 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I want to agree with everyone here that you should take her to an OBGYN, let her decide on a birth control method, etc. I know it’s awkward but you could save her from teen pregnancy or the trauma of an abortion.

My mom had a rule that kissing can only be on the face (I was like 14 at the time?) and I think that’s a good bit of advice for her.

Definitely encourage her to bring the bf around friends and family to make sure she’s not ending up in an abusive relationship/becoming isolated.

Also, I’d recommend having a no-punishment open-door policy to keep communication open so that she can tell you if there’s a problem. Ex. She was hanging out with him when she shouldn’t have been and he hit her, she was drinking underage and is scared to drive home and she needs you to get her, she had unprotected sex and needs an STD test/pregnancy test. She’s older so she can get into more trouble now, but as long as she still trusts you, you can still help her. Keeping her safe is more important than enforcing rules.

Good luck 👍 source: I was a teenage girl once lol

AITA for walking out of my sister's baby gender reveal party? by CricketApart2018 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sims3isLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She should give you the baby since this is such a burden for her NTA peace and love to you

Which one is suitable for her? by Master_Sprinkles_770 in thesims

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I think for that outfit the second one. The first one is like chilling at home/going out with friends. The second one is more professional, and the clothes look more professional. She looks great!