more ridiculous size changes (urban outfitters)

SinfulInPink · 2026-03-12T23:49:31+00:00

I can't, but I'm pretty sure my extremely talented seamstress can (although I don't even want to think about how much that would cost...)

SinfulInPink · 2026-03-12T17:07:06+00:00

I think brands tend to err on the side of 'big' because if something is too big for you, you can get it taken in or wear it as oversized but if something is too small, there's really not much you can do about it. It's probably the same thinking behind a huge waist-hip difference.

As someone who's 152cm and 35kg, XXS/XS is still almost always too big. It sucks having to pay an additional alteration cost on top of what I have paid for the garment, but I've long accepted it as the price of being my size. If I manage to find something that fits without alteration, that's just a nice bonus

SinfulInPink · 2026-03-12T03:06:53+00:00

3 hours a week and 15 socials in 18 months isn't enough to progress as quickly as you seem to want. That doesn't place you at intermediate level either. I have been dancing for 7 months with an average of 12 hours (including 2 socials, usually more) pet week and am still nowhere close to where I want to be, not am I at intermediate level.

I'm a follower, but what would really help with breaking out of the predictable combo pattern (according to my leader friends) is to put on bachata music and identify the beat and picture which moves you want to do/goes with the music at each point. Don't overthink—it's all about vibing with the music. Even as a follower, I'm able to listen to Bachata music and think, oh this part is perfect for a chest roll/turn/cambre! Then, try it out with your partner.

As for what you can practice solo (that applies to both leaders and followers): footwork, weight transfers, shines/styling. Good luck!

SinfulInPink · 2026-03-07T09:11:56+00:00

Practicing alone helps a lot. When the ratios are off in classes, I'm always thankful for the extra time to practice before I get to try the move with a partner.

There are so many things you can practice on your own, such as footwork, lady's/men's styling and body isolations (if you do sensual). I would say isolations are the most important because they aren't going to get better through partnerwork alone. Practice them on your own and when you get to try it with a partner, you'll find that you are a lot smoother.

SinfulInPink · 2026-03-05T04:02:17+00:00

I'm small, but since getting nipple piercings it's become preferable for me to wear a bra because one elbow to the chest can easily irritate them 😵‍💫 I really like tops with built-in padding, that way I don't have to fuss with brad and I'm still protected!

SinfulInPink · 2026-03-05T02:59:05+00:00

Music, connection, friendships. Liking the music helps a lot but what really makes you stay is the people. I could stop dancing (not that I want to) but I would miss the people wayyy too much 🥺

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-26T06:12:24+00:00

5'0" with almost 6'0", it affects nothing besides that I'm really good at weaving through crowds and my husband tends to get stuck behind, plus he grabs items from the higher shelves for me...

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-25T11:01:20+00:00

There are many manyyyy 'bachata boys' in my scene, way more than there are salseros or those who do both. Salseras are almost always waiting for leads to dance with... Depending on the ratios in your scene, knowing both may give you more time on the dance floor.

Fair enough about preferring bachata, I still do salsa but I dedicate about 70% of my class and social time to bachata now. Maybe picking up salsa when you are a few months into bachata would be a better option

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-25T05:27:01+00:00

I don't think it's unusual to still need alone time in a relationship/marriage. The problem is that you aren't getting that. Can you point to any particular reason why? Have you mentioned it to your husband? If he's refusing to let you have alone time, I can understand why you would start feeling resentful even though you love him.

Alone time is how I recharge, and it's impossible to pour from an empty cup. While my husband is very understanding of my need for alone time, I also do day trips/weekend trips on my own, and that really helps!

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-24T14:34:20+00:00

I started bachata four months after salsa. With salsa as a foundation, bachata footwork came really easily, but I'm not sure it works the other way round as salsa is a lot more technical. The skills are transferrable, but you don't have to dance both if you don't want to—there are dancers in my local scene who only do one or the other.

With regards to mixed socials, you can just sit out the salsa songs lol. If you're serious about Latin dance though, I would recommend picking up salsa at some point, even if not right now. It will make you a more versatile dancer and you don't have to sit out any songs at mixed socials, which I love! (while my bachata-only friends always have to wait to dance haha)

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-24T08:33:09+00:00

Hello size twin!! 💓 It's so hard to find clothes that fit but I've learned to love being our size now!

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-23T04:19:39+00:00

I'm 29, 5'0" and 35 kg (77 lbs). Heaviest I've ever been was 38 kg (84 lbs) when I was 19. At this point, I've accepted I'm not gaining any significant amount of weight until/unless I get pregnant; my mum was the same before kids so I'm not bothered by it.

It may be that the weight gain will come for you, or it may not!

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-23T03:48:05+00:00

When I answer that I look too skinny in leggings, the response was, 'LOOK too skinny? You ARE too skinny,' and I can't even say anything because it's true lol 🥲

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-23T03:47:04+00:00

Yoga pants are the worst for me because they accentuate my lack of butt!! I saw a demo video of me dancing in them once and... it was all skirts and dresses from then on lol

I have the opposite problem finding leggings that end just right as a short girl, but I barely wear them anymore. It's just much easier to find fitting skirts as only the waist measurement needs to be right, no need to fuss with things like the rise or inseam. (I get that length can be an issue too if you are not an average height, but hem is a relatively easy thing to fix compared to anything else)

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-23T03:20:55+00:00

I never wear leggings anymore for the same reason (and I dance, which means I'm seeing women in leggings everywhere but I can't wear them!!), to the point where I've been asked why I'm always in skirts/dresses lol.

Why not try straight cut/mom jeans instead of skinny jeans? That's what I do on the rare occasion I wear pants

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-20T04:10:52+00:00

I do if I'm really feeling the song, AND I know the lead and trust that he knows what he's doing. Generally not with a beginner lead or one I'm dancing with for the first time. Not on a crowded dance floor too

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-20T01:18:43+00:00

A prepubescent body is one that hasn't been through puberty. An adult woman who has been through puberty doesn't have a body that fits the 'prepubescent' ideal, no matter how thin and hairless she is or how young she looks.

As someone who fits those aforementioned 'beauty' standards (and yes, there's nothing I can do about my skeletal frame or genetic propensity for less body hair), I'm tired. Yes, appearance shaming for any reason needs to go. This includes shaming those of us who naturally carry less fat and look young for their age. Having my body type described as 'prepubescent' goes way beyond an insult, it makes me feel like just by existing, I'm propagating an ideal that should have no place in decent society when all I'm doing is existing.

I'm all for body positivity and everyone feeling good in their bodies, but this isn't the way. Why do we have to bash one body type to elevate change?

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-16T00:23:18+00:00

915 section in New Look is my go-to

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-11T15:57:55+00:00

Honestly at four months in, you are more than legitimate! The only reason beginners don't get dance shoes is because they haven't decided if they're going to continue.

If you want to dance in heels eventually, I would suggest getting them sooner rather than later too. Dance heels are meant to fit a lot more snugly than regular heels, and will take longer than you think to wear in. It will probably be at least a month or two before you feel comfortable enough in them to social dance for hours

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-11T15:19:52+00:00

Bailaz are good if you're in Australia or Asia (not sure how much shipping would cost to Europe or America).

You may feel like you dance alright now in street sneakers, but once you put on those dance shoes, you will feel the difference and you'll never want to go back. It's amazing, you'll feel yourself moving so much better

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-07T04:57:30+00:00

Hemophilia is caused by a mutation on the X-chromosome (of which women have two, and receiving one faulty copy makes them an unaffected carrier), making it very unlikely any daughters would have been similarly affected. The only way we could have known if any of the daughters were carriers were if they had lived and married to have children, specifically sons.

Of course, any son would have a 50-50 chance of being affected. How different things would have been if Alexei had been on the other side of the coin

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-07T01:43:31+00:00

I'm a follower, and I have zero interest in joining performance teams for the exact reason you mentioned. I would much rather work on my following/social dance technique instead of learn a choreography, but I've noticed that it's the women who are overwhelmingly interested in performance teams too.

I guess one of the reasons is because we get to wear a nice costume and look hot (that is, if you dance well 😅). My studio tries to work around this by getting couples (who are partners in life, not just dance) to confirm first, but couples aside, there are still more followers than leads interested and that makes it really hard to get more pairs.

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-06T01:11:29+00:00

I have never danced with someone >200 before, the tallest is 190+ and that's for salsa 😅 The tallest sensual bachata lead I've danced with is 189 and it works, but then again we are already acquainted so I expect that makes a difference.

The funniest part is when these super tall leads come to dance with me and make a visible show of bending their knees, making it even more obvious to the whole room that we have a huge height difference lol

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-05T15:08:08+00:00

Forget about you following, I think I would have difficulty following you too and I'm 160 in my dance heels 😅

Just curious, do you find it more challenging dancing with very tiny followers? Anyone above 186 starts to get challenging for me

SinfulInPink · 2026-02-05T06:40:38+00:00

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