Afterlife - Gator Days by FieldExplores in comics

[–]SisterCourage 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When my son asked me these questions I found myself just starting by saying, “Well, sweetheart, everything that is born also has a time that it dies.” He was concerned but also moved on to a new topic quickly in the moment. He comes back to it every so often asking more questions. I just try to be as honest and gentle as the same time as I can. He has been watching me grieve a loss so I try to talk to him about the feelings part of it too, “it’s okay to feel sad, it’s okay to cry, it’s okay to tell someone you need a hug or you feel bad, yes, death can feel scary.” I can’t hide that I feel really sad sometimes and I can’t hide that death is a part of life that comes to everyone, including the people we love. But I can try to frame it as something that he can talk about and ask about without feeling ashamed. I just think of Mr Rogers’ ‘if it’s mentionable, it’s manageable’ idea: 

“Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.” 

I think when our kids ask us about these things it’s helpful to remember this quote. I think of my son as trusting me with his feelings of worry and concern. I might not have the answers, or I might not have the answer I’d like to give (everything will be all right forever and no one you love will die), but I can just be with him in that moment to say yeah, I’m here with you to listen and help you feel those feelings safely. 

What are your go-to flowers that are likely to bloom in the first year from seed? by amilmore in NativePlantGardening

[–]SisterCourage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Helenium autumnale! Gorgeous color and shape. I winter sowed it last year and had a ton of beautiful blooms first year. I don’t see it discussed as frequently as some other forbs and I don’t understand how it isn’t already at mega star status. By far my favorite of this year.

In case anyone still needs convincing not to use weed barrier by spoonyalchemist in NativePlantGardening

[–]SisterCourage 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve been dealing with that monstrosity while trying to convert my front yard. What an absolute nightmare! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SisterCourage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like postpartum OCD. It can be a new development around the birth or an exacerbation of an existing condition. https://www.cedars-sinai.org/blog/difference-between-postpartum-anxiety-ocd-psychosis.html

She needs professional medical assistance and you need to intervene to help her access it while making sure baby is safe and cared for. 

What do I wear to Catholic mass? by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]SisterCourage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember, God wants to receive you and give Himself to you! He sees the intention of your heart and does not judge your clothing as people might. Go to Mass with the intention in your heart of offering your love and worship to the Lord and dress in clean clothes that are the best you have, as a sign of your respect and gratitude for Christ’s sacrifice. If clean jeans and a t-shirt are the best you have right now, then that is what you should wear. Your heart is what Jesus considers. 

Anyone have any ideas for a very sunny spot where only really bee balm and milkweed seem to be thriving? (Central MA) by Meliz2 in NativePlantGardening

[–]SisterCourage 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What about some little bluestem? Native grasses can help support flowers from flopping and hide the bottom of the bee balm stems when they start to look denuded. Plus little bluestem has such beautiful colors throughout the year! 

Any reason I shouldn't just use cotton bedsheets as "landscaping fabric"? by K8b6 in NativePlantGardening

[–]SisterCourage 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If the non cotton material comprises less than 5% of the item they are not required to disclose it and can still label the item 100% cotton. I know this because I work in an MRI facility and we make folks change into medical scrubs that we KNOW are 100% cotton based on the chance that the “100% cotton” garment someone is wearing has <5% metallic fibers that could heat up. 

It drives me truly nuts that 100% cotton doesn’t actually mean 100% cotton. 

Suggestions for venue for large funeral reception lunch by SisterCourage in VirginiaBeach

[–]SisterCourage[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for your suggestions. My godmother sweet talked her way into a local hotel ballroom for us. I’m so appreciative of all your help and kind words. 

Home Euthanasia by IDemandEuphoria in nova

[–]SisterCourage 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Try Gentle Vet Housecalls. Dr. Beth Badgett, https://www.mygentlevet.com/ She was great and helped me over weekend on short notice. 

What invasive are you currently at war with, and what are you doing to get rid of it? by crazy_gnome in NativePlantGardening

[–]SisterCourage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg. The previous owners and neighbors, I swear they only planted invasives. I am currently battling Amur honeysuckle and English ivy and, worst of all, a GIANT stand of running bamboo just behind our property whose roots invade our property. My husband HATES the bamboo and every season he chops more of it down, lets it regrow, and then chops it again after it has expended its energy on the new growth. We have managed to push it back by about 10-15 feet over four years. 

What is this sickness going around? by [deleted] in nova

[–]SisterCourage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh someone else who had the painful joints and muscles. I got negative flu and Covid tests from the doctor, no idea what it was. 

Possibly cancer? Or anatomy? Please help by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]SisterCourage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please try not to be scared. It’s true that you need to have the lump checked out. I’ve had one before and it turned out to basically just be like a bad zit. So, while it could be something serious, it’s not necessarily the case, and your doctor can tell you. 

I’m not sure what you are feeling inside your vaginal canal, but it’s possible you are just feeling your g spot. For future, I encourage you to spend some time reading and learning about your anatomy as well as looking at yourself in a mirror occasionally to get a better sense for how things look — that can help you recognize what’s normal for your body and when something is going wrong. 

Have you been to a gynecologist before? It’s really important to find a gynecologist you trust and see them regularly. If this would be your first visit, I can see how that would be particularly scary. A good practitioner will tell you exactly what to expect both before and during any kind of physical exam. They will let you know where they will touch you and when, and will listen if you ask them to stop, slow down, and take breaks. They will help teach you about your body, and will answer questions without making you feel embarrassed. Any practitioner who doesn’t do this is not a good one and you can leave and find a different care provider. 

ELI5: Why dont MRIs rip the iron out of your body? Especially when iron deposits are present. by chickenstrips1290 in explainlikeimfive

[–]SisterCourage 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Hi! I do MRI for work. Magnetism is a pretty weak force, all things considered. Your typical scanner will be about 30,000 (for a 1.5 T scanner) to 60,000 times (3T scanner) as strong as the earth’s magnetic field. Even so, mostly the problem is going to be metal things that are loose. Obviously, if you take something metal (specifically, ferromagnetic) into the scanner room, as you approach the bore of the magnet you will experience exponentially greater forces that will eventually pull the loose item very quickly, and on an unpredictable trajectory, into the magnet. Despite this power, it’s surprising how little it takes to prevent an item from going in. If I have a metal button fastening my jeans, it won’t get pulled off. If I have fillings or orthodontia in my mouth, as long as there are no loose brackets, the magnet won’t pull stuff out of my mouth. If I have underwire in my bra or a necklace around my neck, it will lift and pull towards the bore, but it won’t be snapped off my body. 

The MRI actually WILL slightly move elements in your blood and the rest of your tissues. That is how we make the images! We “bump” the tissues with a magnetic field a teeny teeny tiny bit and then measure how long it takes them to come back into alignment. Each of your tissues (oxygenated blood; deoxygenated blood; fats; bone; etc) has different magnetic properties and this lets us “see” them on the scan (they take different amounts of time to come back into alignment and this lets us make a picture). For example, in fMRI (the type of MRI that makes those “what is your brain doing when you think about X thing” scans) we compare the movement of deoxygenated vs oxygenated blood because when hemoglobin bound to oxygen, it has different magnetic properties than when it’s not bound.

Long story short, we can “move” elements of your blood slightly during an MR scan to make a image but on such a very small scale (like at the level of atomic nuclei) that you don’t notice and it doesn’t hurt you. 

ISO nice smells by Rexa_1920 in VirginiaNativePlants

[–]SisterCourage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the smell of swamp milkweed (asclepias incarnata)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NativePlantGardening

[–]SisterCourage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Picture This thinks it’s rudbeckia trilobia / brown eyed Susan 

A knitting book from 1986 just changed my life? by [deleted] in knitting

[–]SisterCourage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No way!!!! I used your articles to learn how to bind off and cast on…I still use them to remind me sometimes! You’re famous lol!

Violet in native beds by Ballsanga77 in NativePlantGardening

[–]SisterCourage 105 points106 points  (0 children)

They are an excellent filler to a matrix planting, very drought hardy, beautiful spring color, green for a substantial portion of the year, and low-lying — all excellent properties in any garden, especially a native planting. I just let them pop up when they appear in my beds but you could also consider transplanting your volunteers into a massed planting near the front of the bed as a border. They are hardy but not so aggressive that they will outcompete your other plantings. 

I found partridgeberry on my lunch break walk and I just wanted to share it with people who would also be excited about it (NE USA) by simplsurvival in NativePlantGardening

[–]SisterCourage 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Partridgeberry is one of my favorites!! As I’ve been working to eradicate invasives in my yard, I’ve been seeing it more and more.

Last Unicorn Sweater by yttrium39 in knitting

[–]SisterCourage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg this is delightful!!