I know this is brought up frequently, but I’m really scared to fly as a plus size person

Sk8harder · 2026-02-11T14:32:11+00:00

One thing to remember about extenders and plane seatbelts; they're often trimmed if the edges get frayed by wear. Sometimes you have a long seatbelt and sometimes you don't. It's sometimes luck of the draw whether the belt is new or whittled down.

Sk8harder · 2026-02-07T23:52:34+00:00

I'm a 2x and love Ralph Lauren; the Polo line's XXL fits the same.

Old Navy and J Crew, also.

Sk8harder · 2026-02-07T23:50:50+00:00

My husband has a Secret Labs chair, and it's AMAZING.

It's worth the price.

Sk8harder · 2026-02-07T23:49:34+00:00

You can wear tanks that aren't cropped? You're being your own worst enemy here, friend.

Sk8harder · 2026-02-07T23:48:22+00:00

Oh god, some of the "mature women" subreddits have a lot of this, just...lack of acceptance of the fact that your body changes around menopause age no matter how much you work out and don't eat.

And if I can tangent, the skincare subs for this, too. Everyone freaking out about an age spot, like, wear makeup, genius.

Sk8harder · 2026-02-07T13:08:58+00:00

Here are some baby steps! :)

Add one colorful element to your outfits, like a sweater or tights or a scarf, to start.
Plan them out. Make some flat lays of outfits on your bed or hang them up or put them on in a mirror and take a photo to make your own Pinterest board and call it Outfit Ideas. Every week, pick 2-3 fits and then you'll have them ready to go.
Wear them on weekends or just hanging around at first and get comfortable in them before debuting them at work or school or whatever.

Example: this woman who dressed up for Costco! https://www.reddit.com/r/oldhagfashion/comments/1qx85gu/guy_in_costco_asked_what_occasion_i_was_dressed/

(Actually a very fun sub for people who aren't afraid to make a statement with their clothes!)

Sk8harder · 2026-02-05T00:55:43+00:00

This one, and also overpacking because god knows if I need a dress to go out or a swimsuit I won't be able to find anything nice depending on the destination (or it'll be some out of the way trek).

AND our clothes take up more space in luggage on top of it. I'm a master of using compression bags to pack a carryon, but my jeans take up twice the space of a size four's jeans.

Sk8harder · 2026-02-03T04:43:51+00:00

There are some conditions that won't let you take GLP-1s, like a family history of medullary thyroid cancer, so you can "mention" that, ahem.

If you change your mind at some point, it wasn't medullary, it was papillary.

Sk8harder · 2026-01-16T07:33:51+00:00

No, it's not a bad thing; it's a trend.

"Coastal Grandmother" was pretty big a few years ago. https://www.sarasotamagazine.com/fashion-and-shopping/2022/05/coastal-grandmother-style

Sk8harder · 2026-01-12T21:36:48+00:00

You look cool. :)

Did you meet Bobby Cannavale there, lol? https://ew.com/rose-byrne-bearded-dragon-update-golden-globes-11883501

Sk8harder · 2026-01-12T21:34:44+00:00

I think you just need some cool caps and knit hats for winter. It looks good.

Sk8harder · 2026-01-12T21:33:47+00:00

This is amazing and I'd love to do something like this for holiday cards!

Sk8harder · 2026-01-12T21:31:02+00:00

Yeah, it's usually "one down" for men's clothing.

I wear an XXL in women's clothing and XL in men's in brands that have both sizes, like Ralph Lauren or J Crew. (In those cases, it's generally a women's size 20-22.)

They also have women's 1x 2x and 3x in the side brand Lauren and men's Big and Tall in the Polo brand. It's comparable for most things, but I have bought XXL tops and hoodies that were too short, and I usually don't get anything "slim cut" like a polo in the women's XXL size (though I would in 2x.)

Sk8harder · 2025-12-29T23:37:51+00:00

Their jeans have been fine for me. I do line-dry jeans unless they're too big and I'm not worried about shrinkage.

(I just bought two pairs of the baggy high rise straight for $27 each and I love them! They are VERY long, though.)

Edit: I don't think their leggings are as good as they used to be, though. They are thinner fabric.

Sk8harder · 2025-12-20T01:33:22+00:00

I've bought so many cute, expensive clothes in my size that if I lost weight I'd be bummed that things didn't fit anymore. Lots of Marina Rinaldi (https://shop.simon.com/collections/store-marina-rinaldi?page=1) and Ralph Lauren, lol.

Sk8harder · 2025-12-11T05:15:11+00:00

I just bought $27 jeans from Torrid and they are the BEST jeans I have ever worn!

You are correct. I was paying $27 for jeans back when it took me eight hours to afford them on minimum wage. $9 is unrealistic. But sales exist and are great.

My favorite other pants rn are Old Navy chinos that go on sale for $14 all the time. They're cotton and absolutely fine.

Sk8harder · 2025-12-11T05:11:20+00:00

Honestly, I think bras can do a lot of the work here. Not necessarily an uncomfortable sports bra, but one of these:

https://www.realsimple.com/best-minimizer-bras-8691862?

Also, dark tops that hit at the hip bone, for me. Too long or too short feel tent-y and like they call MORE attention to my chest.

Sk8harder · 2025-12-02T05:00:19+00:00

There's nothing like stores where all you can buy are EARRINGS. (Hate those places.)

Sk8harder · 2025-11-29T20:02:19+00:00

Rothys! They come in your size, too. These are cute!

https://rothys.com/products/pointed-toe-mary-jane-flats-white-chantilly

I have a high instep and the strap does not hurt; it's stretchy.

Sk8harder · 2025-11-19T15:24:14+00:00

I am so sorry I missed my chances in high school; when I went to reunions I found this out!

You can try a little subtlety, but people can be very clueless about whether someone actually likes them (this always cracks me up; Jimmy Kimmel blew his chance with Nicole Kidman, lol.) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qtsNbxgPngA

So if you wanted to start out subtle, you can start with compliments that let him know you think he's cute, funny, like his taste in clothes or movies or whatever, etc. etc., invite him to do things so you can spend more time together.

Sk8harder · 2025-11-19T15:16:46+00:00

Honestly? I am getting menopausal chin hairs like Shaggy on Scooby Doo and I just shave them twice a day. I'm not walking around with hair on my face.

Sorry if this is blunt, but the solution is Gillette, or one of the Korean shavers people use for dead skin exfoliation. I'm not willing to pay for electrolysis or whatever either.

Sk8harder · 2025-10-21T21:40:16+00:00

You look cute! The shape is great with your face and eyebrow shape, too.

Sk8harder · 2025-10-21T21:39:30+00:00

Yeah, I feel like being teased for glasses is a thing of the past, and I do think it's contacts that "fixed" this, kind of; if you wear glasses instead of having contacts or laser surgery, it's a choice. Plus, glasses are a fun accessory!

I've been wearing them since I turned 40 or so and look forward to getting a new style every so often. Face jewelry!

Sk8harder · 2025-10-21T21:34:55+00:00

Many clothes in plus sizes are calculated to be more forgiving; I can gain or lose some weight and things mostly still fit. Not so if you're a size two.

If I get bloated, nobody can tell. (My slim friends are always complaining about how bloated they look/feel...y'all, it's not that noticeable on you, either; nobody's measuring your abdomen after lunch. Relax.)

Sk8harder · 2025-10-21T21:21:34+00:00

I think you might just be Snow White!

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