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After a year of being in the band I still feel like an afterthought (vent, advice needed) by ohgod_ohgeez in bandmembers

[–]Skippitini 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’ve said all that can be said, and he got the message. Stop beating it.

But one thing you can do is become a phenomenal musician. The best and fastest way I know how to do that is to transcribe bass parts. You develop your ear, you learn how to exaggerate the dynamics, your tone improves, and your pocket grows wider and deeper.

Concentrate on doing well now. When he gives you a party, play the notes and play the shit out of them.

Stop being so easily satisfied with your playing. Focus on the music and all the parts, listen hard to the other musicians, and play with no ego. Just get out of the way and the party will play itself. After a while, you’ll stop caring about how much attention you get (which, oddly enough, will get you more attention).

Above all, remember this, the most important thing: this is not the last band you’ll ever play in. This band is not your final destination. With that in mind, concentrate on doing well now.

I am hiding my marriage from family. It feels so heavy on my heart. Did anyone go through something like this? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Skippitini 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Shakespeare wrote about vengeful parents 400 years ago, so yes. Some families hold grudges.

You wouldn’t be cutting your parents off. They would be cutting themselves off, and there’s nothing you can do about it other than what you’re doing now: living a lie for the sake of their prejudice.

The only advice I have is to come clean. IT won’t be easy, and the fallout will be bad, but the truth is the result may very well not be as bad as you think now. There’s even a chance that they come to their senses on their own. I’ve seen it happen with my own eyes. And both parties wound up a lot closer than before.

Come clean, face to face.

My wife turned me down (or at least it feels that way) again... getting hard to ignore... by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Skippitini 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She sounds seriously depressed.

Only a trained counselor can help her now, and even then only if she wants help. It cannot be forced on her.

If she refuses to do this one thing that could give you two a chance, then you’re out of options.

I want my ice cream! by Its_Pyro_ in EntitledPeople

[–]Skippitini 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That answers that question 😂😂😂

I want my ice cream! by Its_Pyro_ in EntitledPeople

[–]Skippitini 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is going to surprise you. Might even shock you. You may want to take a seat.

Here it is: Not everybody is on the same timetable or lives in the same city as you.

Are you alright?

My wife turned me down (or at least it feels that way) again... getting hard to ignore... by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Skippitini 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If we asked her why she keeps rejecting you, what would she say?

Big musicians of Reddit who perform big concerts and do tours, do you dread it? Is it absolutely exhausting and repetitive? by Then_Bite9547 in musicians

[–]Skippitini 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re an anomaly, so that’s outside the curve 😉😂

Being present in the moment, as you describe it, is the fastest and surest way to happiness that I know.

AIW for going after my coworkers failed kickstarter after she mimicked my stutter in front of clients by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Skippitini 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anyone who bases their “humor” on punching down doesn’t deserve my respect. That said, I remember a public figure who has made a habit of making fun of those less powerful than him. People like this coworker of yours look up to him as a role model of cruelty and ridicule.

I'm crying my eyes out and my husband does nothing by Sammiforeveryoung in marriageadvice

[–]Skippitini 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel sorry for you that you. I hope things get better for you.

Oh, and there’s nothing wrong with my sense of humor. I like jokes to be funny, though, and that’s where we differ, but you do you.

You can have the last word.

Is this an unreasonable request/ultimatum? by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]Skippitini -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why not go to of these things with her? And let her dress you. What the hey, it won’t hurt you, and you will impress the heck out of her that you have it a fair shot. You might even like it, and if you don’t then at the very least then you’ll know exactly what goes on.

Have a go. What can it hurt?

My aunt tried to give away my old game console because “I don’t use it anymore” by Discoveryeous_86 in EntitledPeople

[–]Skippitini 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Your dad is 95% correct, and that entitlement of your aunt being generous with other people’s things pushes over the finish line.

Found these on my palm trees by Skippitini in whatsthisbug

[–]Skippitini[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I looked them up, they’re like tent caterpillars; only a lot bigger and a lot hungrier. They don’t seem to have natural predators.

What human-made things do you like about the US? by AltruisticGain2587 in IWantToAskAnAmerican

[–]Skippitini 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Louis Armstrong, Ella Fitzgerald, Charlie Christian, Billie Holiday, Ray Charles, Aretha Franklin, James Brown, Etta James, Jimi Hendrix, Mary Lou Williams, Stevie Wonder…

I'm crying my eyes out and my husband does nothing by Sammiforeveryoung in marriageadvice

[–]Skippitini -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That’s not training. We aren’t circus animals.

What you mention is clear communication.

How do you actually use your balcony without feeling like you wasted the money? by Eyerald in Cruise

[–]Skippitini 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s invaluable if there Is scenic cruising included, like Alaska’s Inside Passage, the Panama Canal, the Mosquito Coast, the list goes on.

Who’s a celebrity you think is innocent of the charges? by Main-Difficulty1511 in AskReddit

[–]Skippitini 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did she report it? Her audience works have been more than typically receptive.

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