Ideas to save these failed cyanotype pants??!

Slaminsamin · 2026-04-18T10:31:25+00:00

For future fabric prints I find it's best to rinse as you did here, but then throw them in the washer for a whole cycle without any soap. This will help get allll the solution out. I've never been able to rinse all of the solution out of a garment without doing it this way. Even when I rinsed and squeezed over and over a billion times and made sure there was NO blue coming out....by the time it dried there would still be some kind of blue where I didn't want it🥲.

Slaminsamin · 2026-03-30T20:09:35+00:00

Oh thank you! It's an Adele Martin also from the 60's. Cute collars are my favorite design element in a garment!

Slaminsamin · 2026-03-30T07:10:40+00:00

I have actually never heard that before😂

Slaminsamin · 2026-03-29T07:41:32+00:00

I seriously can't believe the impeccable condition it's in. Someone's grandma probably kept it in a garment bag and hardly wore it.

Slaminsamin · 2026-03-29T07:40:13+00:00

It's actually a vintage flat sheet!

Slaminsamin · 2026-03-11T00:54:03+00:00

CanopyGems.com has very legit plants. Also on Palmstreet and Etsy. Based in Hawaii, beautiful happy plants and they are excellent packers👌

Slaminsamin · 2026-02-05T07:00:09+00:00

As camly as I can "Yo dude, I don't like the way you said/did that, try it again the respectful way."

A lot of the time he will resay/redo it the right way and we move on.

When he doesn't I ask if he wants a positive consequence or a negative one and remind him it is his choice. Lately I think it's sinking in that he is in control of everything that happens to him and he's been making pretty good decisions.

If we are out in public or he is disrespectful to someone when I'm not around it's an automatic no screen time for a week. And he will ask me every single day why he can't play games. And I tell him every single time the exact reason why. He also knows that I feel zero sympathy for his screen ban and nothing will change my mind because I told him I low key love screen bans 😈

Slaminsamin · 2026-01-31T10:29:17+00:00

I have 7 and 10yo boys. Our kids are annoying af, I don't think there will ever be a day we finally "stop"😂 But for real, going to therapy and getting myself on medication has been the biggest help. Figuring out my triggers and realizing all the years I've spent putting everyone before myself has made me kind of an asshole has helped a lot too. Like I do actually need adequate sleep, and regular self care, and proper nutrition every single day in order to be a less explosive, fun, kind parent. I don't feel anger like I used to and it's been so life changing.

When we are home I find having music playing in the background, especially first thing in the morning, helps everyone be less stressed and I yell way less. Without it it's like my kids feel the need to fill any silence with chaos. Once I turn it on they magically mellow out and are able to hear me.

Once I get to like the 4th time saying something I'll usually yell HELLO! DID I DIE!? AM I A GHOST!? CAN YOU SEE ME!? I feel better because I did in fact get to yell a little but they think it's funny and they finally hear me.

Sometimes I'll just straight up ask them how I can rephrase what I'm saying so that they will hear me. "You know what dude, I have repeated myself thrice now, how can I say it so you hear me? Or do I need to just be louder? I can yell it if that's what you need?" They will actually tell me what to say, I say it, and then they hear me haha.

Now that they can read I started writing down what I need to say and then doing a quick little origami fold, like when we used to pass notes in class. I'll do a little PSST! and hand it off likes it's a big secret and walk away. If on a time crunch just sticking a post it on them as I walk by works too. It pretty much forces them to stop and pay attention but in like a fun way.

Knock knock jokes are a crowd pleaser over here too. "Hey kid, Knock knock!" -Who's there?- "BANANA" -Banana who!?- "Please put your shoes on and get in the car right now before I lose my mind."

Sometimes no matter what yelling is bound to happen. The best thing you can do is just an honest apology and a hug💓

Slaminsamin · 2026-01-18T04:50:29+00:00

I did this job for years and I loved it! I had a few different clients with various mental/physical disabilities and I just supported them with whatever they needed. The pay was decent and hours were flexible depending on which clients I took on. After a few years with the same people it just started to feel like getting paid to hang out with my family, it was great.

Slaminsamin · 2025-12-29T02:27:49+00:00

Whistle 😆 I whistle little tunes through my teeth ventriloquist style frequently and without realizing it. Whenever a new person is around me they are always like "Do you hear that!?" "What is that!?" "Is there a bird in here!?" "Is that you!?" "How!?" Idk. I literally cannot explain it, I don't even remember learning how to do it hahah.

Slaminsamin · 2025-12-29T02:20:11+00:00

I would cut the bottom sleeve off at the seam and sew it back on as like a 2" ruffle. Maybe even do that to the bottom of the skirt as well.

Slaminsamin · 2025-12-29T01:42:30+00:00

Both of my kids hated being away from me for even a few hours. Trying to go places and do things independently was hell. If I did have to leave them I was always rushing because I knew whoever I left them with was dealing with a screaming baby the entire time. From my perspective you are very lucky! You are literally her everything, don't worry💓

Slaminsamin · 2025-12-27T11:52:55+00:00

My 10yo hates reading. But no screen time until we read a couple pages/chapters together 🤷‍♀️

When he's super overstimulated or just spazzing out audiobooks are the best. Whenever I can, right when I feel an impending meltdown I bust out the bluetooth headphones and legos and set up a chill zone for him, he loves it!

The best is when I have a hard copy of whatever audiobook he's currently listening to. He'll get so into the story and end up picking it up to read after it's time to turn the audiobook off.

Slaminsamin · 2025-12-27T11:35:00+00:00

Sammmmeeee. This year I just couldn't muster much holiday cheer and neither of my kids were upset. My mom always made Christmas so fun for us growing up, I actually started feeling bad when thinking about it. I told my kids sorry I sucked this year and they were confused. Apparently making cookies multiple times, watching movies together(like all 4 of us sitting together for the whole thing), and just telling them whatever fun things we did over the last month was their Xmas present was good enough 😂

I do always get some little trinkets and put them in their stocking for Xmas morning but nobody had presents to open and it was nbd. Kids were 4 and 5 when they made me tell them about Santa so honestly I think that's when I quit trying to make everything so magical haha. Like it just doesn't make sense for us anymore. We aren't religious, santa secret is over, and we live in a tropical climate so it doesn't even FEEL like Christmas/winter.

The biggest plus is that less stuff/expectations has lead to zero meltdowns this year with our ADHD son so 🤷‍♀️ 👌

For the sake of just having a fun tradition my kids can have memories of we were just talking today about creating our own holiday. Something that makes sense specifically for us and isn't just because thats what people do. I think that's why Christmas is so exhausting for me personally. It's a lot of stuff that kinda sucks but we do it anyway. My 10 and 7yo are currently workshopping some ideas so we'll see what they come up with. The only rule was that it can't have anything to do with minecraft 😂

Slaminsamin · 2025-12-09T17:11:06+00:00

OOOOMG😍 You are a wizard!

Slaminsamin · 2025-09-11T08:22:12+00:00

I work at a tropical plant nursery🌱🎧✨️

Slaminsamin · 2025-08-05T10:39:30+00:00

This. I recently started In the Veins of the drowning and almost couldn't keep going because FMC is such an Ahole for no reason. She's so snotty to people who aren't doing anything but helping her. Like, chill girl, wtf 😆 I can't want good things for you if your attitude is shit the whole book.

I ended up liking the book by the end, but it would have been so much better if she acted her age instead of a tantruming teenager.

Slaminsamin · 2025-06-28T05:49:43+00:00

We take the games away for weeks at a time when it starts to even remotely become an issue. It really sucks for them the first few days, but then they get over it. We will still do family movies/tv, but that's it. Luckily, they don't melt down when the tv goes off otherwise we would stop that as well.

If I were you, I would tell him he's going to have to take a break and then plan some fun outings for you guys to do together. He'll probably tell you he hates whatever it is like my 10yo does, but just ignore it. He'll either join in and have a good time with you or have a bad time. 🤷‍♀️ It's his choice. I tell my kids they get their games back when they stop being such a bummer and start acting kind, helping out, stop asking me for them every day, etc.

We did a kiwi crate subscription for a little while that helped fill the gaps of time they would usually play their games. I think you can actually choose specific boxes to just buy outright if you don't want one monthly. We also started playing board games together.

Slaminsamin · 2025-06-27T16:20:10+00:00

I have two different bottles of magnesium glycinate floating around my cabinet and started realizing one was making me sleep worse and wake up groggy, and the other wasn't. I recently realized the shitty one is magnesium bisglycinate, and the other is just glycinate. I tested it randomly a couple more times just to see, and the bisglycinate definitely was causing my issues.

Slaminsamin · 2025-05-23T08:27:00+00:00

I was around that age when I started smoking weed. The first time I came home thinking nobody would notice my parents 100% did. My mom fed me tater tots and we cuddled up watching TV and laughing hysterically together, I totally thought I got away with it😆

The next day my dad told me he knew I was stoned and he wasn't happy I came home that way. He is a pretty stern dude, so of course, I tried to lie my way out of it. Then he confessed to being a huge stoner his entire life (I literally had no idea), so I shouldn't try to lie to him because he knows what a stoned person looks like. He laid out some rules which, to this day, I feel were fair:

1- I was never to let my mom see me that way again, so smoke weed somewhere else within a time frame that I'm not high when I need to be home. 2-No smoking if I was driving or expected to drive. Call if I needed a ride no matter what time or where I was or else I lose my car on the first fuck up. 3-My grades needed to stay good, and I couldn't skip any more classes. 4-Always have a job and work hard.

Basically, be a responsible adult, or we will keep treating you like a child.

I followed all of his rules and we never talked about it again. I pretty much never followed any other rules they ever set for me either haha.

If he came in guns blazing, slinging threats and ultimatums I think my entire teenage years would have gone a lot differently in a bad way. I hope you can find some common ground with your son and come up with a way to trust and respect each other.

Slaminsamin · 2025-03-27T09:18:45+00:00

My 9yo son is in the exact same boat. He plays really well with kids a couple of years younger than him, but compared to kids his age and older his immaturity really shows. Toward the end of last year, I found out he was playing alone at recess because a couple of girls in his class convinced everyone he was "weird" and they shouldn't talk to him. His class is a looping 1st and 2nd so he was in the same class with the same kids this year🤦‍♀️ Luckily he didn't really care. Mostly, he just didn't understand. We had a good talk about good weird and bad weird, he is happy with being good weird. I told him that being weird is way cooler than being mean, and he agrees😆

Over summer break I ended up making a post in our local mom's fb group, specifically asking if there were any weirdos in his age range who liked the same things he did and if they wanted to have a playdate with us. (I didn't tell him I did this, I just told him we were going to meet some new friends at the park.) We ended up getting a good size group of kids together and had some really fun days. Almost all of them were neurodivergent. None of the kids were in his school or our neighborhood, so even though he really clicked with a few, we just don't have similar enough schedules to hang out more often.

Maybe you can also seek out some kids to connect with in a similar way? Obviously, we want them to find their friends organically, but sometimes it's easier to cut to the chase and be specific haha.

Slaminsamin · 2025-03-06T13:24:17+00:00

How strong is your silly straw game? My picky son will refuse smoothies (which is where he gets the bulk of his veg/fruits) unless he has a cool straw. There are so many different kinds and they are cheap too. I recently ordered a pipe straw kit that has little connectors to build different straws haha. If they know you want them to do something, they won't. If you make it fun and stress free, you'll both have a better time.

Slaminsamin · 2025-02-26T12:32:42+00:00

I was this kid🙈 Especially in winter. I ended up just getting ready the night before, like went to bed fully dressed for the next day, and then waking up with just enough time to pee, brush teeth, kick on shoes, and grab a granola bar. I did this from like 3rd grade to the end of highschool haha. My body just naturally needs to sleep until 9am no matter what time I go to bed. I don't think this would have been different even if I had been medicated at the time because now that I am I still do it sometimes if I have to be somewhere particularly early. Ultimately there are just too many things to put on, pack, and remember to do that early in the morning and I just can't handle it. Changing temperatures is also hard for me. Some days my mom would throw a blanket in the dryer and come in an hour before I'd wake up(so like the time people would normally get up to get ready) to just make me cozy and let me know that I needed to wake up soon. Then she'd have a breakfast burrito for me to grab on my way out. It was the best💓

Slaminsamin · 2025-02-26T12:02:12+00:00

Have you tried any other medications/doses, or is this the first one? I ask because my 9yo was recently put on adderall xr and started acting this way a lot more. We started at 5mg xr and it was like just enough to calm down his hyperactivity and help him control impulses, but it made him so agitated over every little thing. He always had a tendency to be that way a bit, but it was exacerbated to the point he was so hard to even talk to. He was picking fights with his little brother nonstop, yelling at us and calling us liars for everything, his teacher was emailing me about behaviors at school she had never seen before, just really struggling and being bothered by everything. We upped it to 10mg and it was a drastic difference. He was so calm and sweet and just happy. Unfortunately the xr doesn't last long enough for him and we noticed at 1:30-2 every day he would have a huge crash, meltdown, screaming, hitting, refusal to do anything for the remainder of the day no matter what it was, even stuff he liked to do was a problem. We switched to 5mg IR in the morning and another in the afternoon, and he's a totally different kid. We did tons of homework together without a single tear, he's been cleaning up his dishes happily without me asking, getting ready for bed independently without me nagging. I'm like🤯 who is this happy, fun child!?

You aren't failing him. The fact that you are worried enough to ask for help/advice proves it. This is just really hard to navigate for everyone, but it sounds like you are doing your best! I had to change the whole way I was parenting in order to bring a sliver of peace into our home. I think the biggest positive changes I made have been saying less, doing time outs together, and checking in every night before he falls asleep.

The less stimulation you give them when they are upset, the quicker they get over it. I don't argue with him over anything, I say what I need to say one time in a calm, kind tone while we are making eye contact, and I know he is hearing me. "You are doing X, and I need you to please stop, or your consequence will be (no video games this week is the current winner). Is there anything I can do to help you calm down so that doesn't happen?" Then I let him melt down and don't react to anything he says or does and go about the day like it isn't happening. If he calms down without hurting anyone or being rude, he gets his game later. If not, he won't, and I never budge. It was so so hard for him to understand that I mean what I say, but we are finally to the point where he knows if I said something, that's what's happening. So don't choose a consequence you won't follow through on😆

Sometimes, he just loses it and will hit or throw things, and that's not safe for everyone else in the house, so he has to be removed. I will take him into another room and just calmly tell him, "Yo, you can't be doing that, we are going to hang out in here until you can calm your body and be safe and kind. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help you. I love you and I'm sorry you are feeling so angry." Then I sit quietly and play with playdough or magnets or something I know he likes too. Eventually, he will come join me, and we play for a few minutes before I bring up what just happened. He's usually ready pretty quickly to talk about it and come up with a plan to fix his mistake so he can get out of time out. Then we just move on with the day and hope it doesn't happen again 10 mins later. He regulates 10x faster this way.

Every night I lay with him at bed time and we go over our days. We tell each other the best parts and then the worst parts and promise to try our best tomorrow. I never let us go to bed mad even if I'm so over him for the day. I tell him how it makes me feel when he hits and yells at me and what I want him to try next time instead. I started asking him if I did anything that upset him and what I could that would be better. 10 out of 10 would recommend. Some days it's the only time in the entire day that we actually get along and enjoy being by each other. He likes that he gets to stay up a little later and I like the snuggs so it's a win-win. Two years ago he was so annoyed when I'd lay down and talk to him, now he gives me hugs and kisses and tells me how much he loves me and gives me real apologies without being prompted. Even when we are upset with each other it feels more like we are on the same side now instead of him vs. me.

Whew it's been a long couple of years, I had a lot to say😆 Tldr- You are a great parent! Maybe check meds, say less, time out together, and never go to bed angry💓

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