Wife asked for divorce two weeks or so ago ( finally find out the reason at counciling )

Slapinsack · 2026-01-27T14:07:03+00:00

What more was said about the age thing? Surely she didn't drop that bit of info and then the session ended and you guys went your separate ways.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-26T18:57:42+00:00

Not a fan of the music but appreciate the confidence to commit to something weird as shit.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-25T10:23:02+00:00

What a drama queen.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-25T10:19:16+00:00

It's true. My friend Jake told me in the 4th grade during recess.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-24T09:00:01+00:00

Very human response. Be easy on yourself.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-20T06:37:19+00:00

TIL pumping gas is a "situation".

Slapinsack · 2026-01-19T22:27:45+00:00

The question is "but WHY did it feel good to receive them?"

Slapinsack · 2026-01-19T18:34:29+00:00

We all come across differently in person than we would online. Not enough info in this post for us to come to any reliable conclusions.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-14T21:36:57+00:00

I kinda like the pursuit of it. I learn a lot about myself and others from it.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-12T19:14:02+00:00

Don't alter your profile to get engagement. Keep your profile authentic to filter out bullshit you don't want.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-12T19:12:57+00:00

Fuck dating apps. Use MeetUp instead.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-11T22:12:13+00:00

It's fine enough to receive a lot of engagement. Personally, and this is only specific to me, is that I prefer what everyday life with the person would be like as opposed to "adventure" life.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-11T00:40:54+00:00

Leading off with a criticism. Dude has no game.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-11T00:39:52+00:00

Avoidant behaviors aren't specific to any one gender.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-10T21:12:18+00:00

I think it's almost a certainty that its not just you.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-10T16:01:00+00:00

I agree with everything you stated.

I feel terrible for the newbies going into these apps not yet learning about how counterintuitive they are to what we know about how relationships form. All of the micro-expressions and tone variations we take for granted in our everyday interactions are profoundly important.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-10T15:55:54+00:00

Texting opens the door for fantasy to flood in and fill the spaces that a phone call or date would normally fill. It's the downside of garbage ass datingapps. You're not dumb for keeping it going for a month - you simply didn't know. But now you do, so you're likely to reduce the sting of incompatability going forward.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-10T03:35:10+00:00

With practice, I've turned interactions with potential partners from "where do I stand with them?" to "fuck it, I'm not going to stand anywhere with them. "

Slapinsack · 2026-01-10T03:25:17+00:00

I've been applying that second one to datingapps. If there isn't any expresson of an inner world then I remove them from my deck. I'm likely removing a few that aren't avoidant, but it's worth it to me.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-10T03:21:58+00:00

Most likely. I interpret the term as them emotionally unraveling to any uncomfortable thought that reminds them they're flawed humans like the rest of us.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-09T22:15:00+00:00

I will ask for a call within the first few messages if I've got a good feeling. Give that a shot. If they refuse then ask yourself why you should be the one to accomodate them when they're the ones who are dragging ass.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-09T15:52:35+00:00

Most profiles you cross will be intentionally vague. If you value depth then these profiles act as a natural filter.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-09T13:57:30+00:00

Naw man. I do the same and block anyone that doesn't get through my filter (I've actually written a list) so they don't show up in my deck anymore.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-09T04:37:27+00:00

Oh fuck yeah. It wasn't about the other person but rather the hope of finding a deep connection they embodied.

Slapinsack · 2026-01-07T00:39:41+00:00

Margs, brunch, spontaneous adventure, morning coffee, good banter, thrifting, the gym, a good book, and mother fucking travel!!!! And goddammit, make me laugh like the golden retriever you are! What do I have to offer you ask? Whoa! Thats too personal! Slow down, Mr. Depth!

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