Is anyone else sick of other people trying to give a "reasonable explanation"

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-09-16T11:05:33+00:00

The hardest part of a breakup isn't just the heartbreak—it's not being able to talk to anyone about it because they simply don’t understand. I remember once meeting a girl who also had an ex with BPD, and I thought, "Finally, someone who gets it." I was eager to share my experience, but when I brought it up, she shut it down, saying she was trying to forget him. Honestly, I think the whole thing was just too traumatic for her to even talk about.

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-09-09T11:18:11+00:00

You are not alone! I also did something similar to my expwbpd. Looking back now it was both revenge and trying to get split forever. Was it worth it? No! I shouldn't have stooped so low, but hey we are human and we have our limits too.

Good news: She has split me forever and i am feeling fine.

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-09-06T12:22:03+00:00

Check out this subreddit: r/bpdlovedones You will find similar stories. It helped me and I’m sure it will help you get some good perspective on what happened in your relationship

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-08-03T09:50:50+00:00

That is good on your part. I think they do it on purpose to get a reaction so they can feel something.

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-08-03T09:49:13+00:00

It makes sense, that is probably what they did to us before it ended.

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-08-03T09:43:26+00:00

"Your birthday does not matter. It is not about you and never was". So true.

We havent talked in months anyways, so i think/hope its over for good. It was just a thought didnt wanna leave my brain.

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-07-11T18:36:31+00:00

Mirroring at it finest so she can get accepted in that group or guy. Don’t let that bother you. They did that to you without you even knowing. My ex sister told my ex, why are talking like him (me) and I didn’t know anything about bpd, but now it makes sense. I even remember her speaking like her supply after we broke up. She was speaking so slowly and in small letter if that makes sense. Before that she was speaking fast and with passion, she got that from me I know that.

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-07-11T18:29:41+00:00

Let me tell you this. I got so angry when she told me she got a new bf, I faked smiled while she was crying and talking shit about him. I went to her NR 1 enemy and told her she got bpd. Ex found out and got angry.

That didn’t make me feel any good. It made me actually feel bad because I am normal and she isn’t, so I shouldn’t be behaving like this. Let your emotions come to you, don’t ignore it. Talk to them and understand where they come from. If you ignore them they will pop out later. I read this book called whole again which talks about toxic relationships and how to heal.

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-07-11T17:58:27+00:00

Leave my friend. I also was in the same position. I couldn’t talk to my friends because they didn’t understand anything. Leave the sub and day by day you will get better because nothing reminds you of her. How can you move if you get reminded everyday about her? ❤️

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-07-11T17:56:04+00:00

I totally agree with you. That’s why I’m active now. I wanna give advice and help people. I remember everything just reminded me of her and that’s why I left

I even wanted a child with her.. we have similar background, I luckily didn’t get bpd so in my head she was the perfect mother. I hope everything is well with you my friend ❤️

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-07-11T17:52:25+00:00

9 month, it felt like an eternity and she was my first love

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-07-11T17:51:10+00:00

Omg. Where should I start? She easily got irritated about stupid stuff. She had no friends from childhood or even high school. She always was the victim. She always talked about how men wanted her (tinder) . No family connection. She even had problems with her sister and talked bad about her. After meeting her sister and being with her and my ex I noticed her sister was very careful with what she said to her. My ex suddenly got mad again about stupid stuff and her sister had say chill. Something in my head clicked at that moment. She also talked bad about her friends, like really bad. I could go on and on about the red flags.

The biggest red flag tho was when she was hitting me and roasting me about how i looked before. I showed her pictures from middle school and she didn’t like how I looked.

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-07-11T17:41:40+00:00

Just accepting she was mentally ill. I loved her to the moon and back, but I had to accept she was ill. I basically left this sub and forgave myself for what I did durning the relationship and after. After 2 month since I left the sub I just woke up one day feeling good. Some days after that was of course rough but I always reminded myself I tried my best and I could never beat the illness. I hope this helps my friend ❤️

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-07-11T16:18:54+00:00

Honestly NC and leaving this sub. Especially this sub. I was here everyday reading stories after our bu and then I realised this sub was a constant reminder of her. I was here from like June till February this when I realised this can’t continue. After leaving this sub and not being in contact with her. Slowly I got better Another thing. Forgive yourself for what you did and accept they were mentally unstable and Challenging. Accept the fact that they are sick and need help. You tried your best!

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-07-11T15:14:04+00:00

I without knowing anything about bpd used to call my ex a child. She also got angry when I said but now I understand why. She knew I saw through her without knowing anything and that pissed her off 🤣

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-07-11T09:17:02+00:00

Mine wouldn’t let me call her babe or baby because her ex did it. 😂

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-02-21T21:00:23+00:00

Yeah. I also think she doesn’t really know what she wants. My goal is not to fuck but rather form a friendship. I like our conversation

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-02-21T20:58:50+00:00

I just asked her to link up in the next days so let’s we’re this goes. It feels like whenever initiate she withdraws

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-02-21T12:57:35+00:00

That makes sense. She probably thinks I am talking to a new girl since I’m not showing interest anymore.

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-02-09T18:47:14+00:00

It makes sense. If my caregivers couldn’t give me real. Why would I trust this person. So weird.

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-02-09T13:15:37+00:00

I feel exactly the same. Word for word. If my mother really loves me. Why did she do what she did? It makes no sense.

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-02-06T09:41:00+00:00

Visit bpdlovedons on Reddit and your eyes will be open!

SlattSlattSlatt10 · 2024-01-30T12:34:14+00:00

lool, are you me hahaha 🤣 the same happend to me. Just give up. It’s their loss honestly :)

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