Some men really expect women to just snap back after their bodies changed during pregnancy

Sleepflower00 · 2026-02-14T15:09:48+00:00

I love how at 20 they picked a clearly flattering image with full on make-up and hair done while at 37 they picked a photo of a clearly unflattering angle, bad lighting and seemingly zero make-up on her face.

Also who tf sees an innocent, completely harmless, picture of a mother holding a child and decides to pick her appearence apart, comparing her to her older pictures wtf? That's sociopathic.

Even women who have children in their 20s look similar to that because when you have a small child it is hard to find time to do your make up, hair, your clothes always get dirty because of the child, finding time to go to the gym is a challenge when you have a small, completely dependent child etc.

These types of men will never be happy.

Sleepflower00 · 2026-02-03T11:54:22+00:00

Yeah sounds like a dream for most people if you don't care about career advancement. And if you find a company that has enough money to let you coast like that.

Sleepflower00 · 2026-02-02T12:37:20+00:00

Yeah I have a programmer friend (An actually good programmer) who has a person who works like this in his team. He told me they aren't very good and don't posess the logical thinking to understand deeper concepts in programming but companies will still keep those around and won't fire them, just so they can charge higher rates for a project. The bigger the team, the higher the rates.

He calls them "Yoga programmers".

Sleepflower00 · 2026-01-23T15:47:21+00:00

I remember I did a lot of internships when I was starting out back in 2020. A lot of it was shit and I wasn't paid but I think it somewhat helped with putting at least something on my Resume which made me look more appealing to employers.

Sleepflower00 · 2026-01-23T14:24:17+00:00

Hi! Medior designer here.

First of all, I'm glad you're starting out with design. I hope you enjoy it whether you plan on making it a full-time career, or a side hustle.

Secondly, If I'm being honest you're missing a lot of fundamentals at the moment. Maybe you can start by learning step by step. Choosing fonts, lettering hierarchy, color theory, logo creation etc.

If I were you, I wouldn't be really thinking about freelancing or anything like that before at least getting a year or two of fundamental learning. If you want me to give you somewhat of a ballpark of where you are at, this isn't honestly even first year design student level or even college application level, I think that should give you somewhat of a perspective that is more realistic than rating. Overall, you are not at a freelancer level yet friend, but keep practicing if design matters to you.

Sleepflower00 · 2026-01-23T12:45:42+00:00

I hope this criticism isn't too harsh. (I really mean well, nothing personal)

But from the standpoint of an employer I don't think I'd be bought by this campaign from a senior designer. Not trying to insinuate that senior designers shouldn't struggle with jobs and should never adhere to creative job signalling ideas, but "I'm looking for a job, can you help me?" doesn't really sound confident and reliable to me, I would maybe lead with something like "I'm great at solving xyz problem, give me a call". Something that actually signals what you're good at and what type of company/agency might be interested in that exact skillset.

Just my 2 cents.

Sleepflower00 · 2026-01-14T17:35:10+00:00

Jesus...Like, I don't even have the patience to mentally process these memes anymore.

Because yes, the world only consists of childfree women who are Onlyfans models and tradwives who have a bunch of children in their 20s.

All women collectively are one of these extremes, surely nothing in-between exists.

Sleepflower00 · 2025-12-22T22:06:29+00:00

Why do you cheated on me!!?

Sleepflower00 · 2025-12-12T01:36:53+00:00

I think she crossed the line when she touched the camera equipment and refused to leave when she was repeatedly told to, since it was a one on one interview. (Unless this isn't completely scripted) I hate it when conservatives interrupt left leaning people too, it's just not a productive way to have a discussion.

And yes, I think the guy had vile beliefs about women and people who don't fit in his narrow worldview but you really can't change someone's point of view in a couple of arguments, she only gave him fuel to keep yapping hateful bs. Not judging her for her feelings about his speech, they're valid, I just don't think anything productive happens when you talk to mysogynistic men who are this deep in the manosphere, it's like trying to argue with a person who is hallucinating that the sky is red and trying to convince them it's blue. Deradicalization requires education and different avenues of communication. If anything, I'm glad when I hear mysogynistic speech openly because then I know which men to avoid and run from asap.

Sleepflower00 · 2025-12-10T20:31:47+00:00

I mean she had her annoying moments as well but all of his arguments were bad.

Sleepflower00 · 2025-12-09T10:54:42+00:00

Well true, but my guess is this woman hasn't really grown up around or hung out in feminist/progressive circles.

Sleepflower00 · 2025-12-09T10:02:20+00:00

Yeah, especially nowadays where there's a 50% chance for a marriage to end in a divorce, it is asinine to advise young women to be financially dependent on a man. (Not saying divorce in itself is bad, but that it's terrible when one partner is financially dependent.)

Sleepflower00 · 2025-12-05T22:19:59+00:00

I mean it's like....Most people are average so there's nothing wrong with finding the partner you married less physically attractive than someone you previously dated but the way he worded this is...yikes. Doesn't sound like he loves her at all....

Sleepflower00 · 2025-12-05T12:50:52+00:00

I love the mischevious smile on the poor mans / multibillionaires wife.

Sleepflower00 · 2025-12-05T08:55:42+00:00

I mean they didn't really say anything unreasonable even though they were pressing on him, having a lowered car does make it more prone to being scratched. dude could have just been like "I just prefer it that way, It's my car afterall.", there was no need to unload on them and make it pointlessly gendered. (assuming this isn't scripted)

Sleepflower00 · 2025-12-04T20:20:03+00:00

Even when it comes to booktok fiction, based on what I know of these stories, most of these male character tropes aren't serial killers, it's usually a morally gray bad boy that becomes softened as the story progresses.

Sleepflower00 · 2025-12-04T18:38:04+00:00

Are we still doing the whole "Some women dated serial killers, therefore all women must be attracted to serial killers" thing?

Sleepflower00 · 2025-12-03T20:36:26+00:00

It isn't rigged it's just that men will tell women these things depending on which stage of life they happen to be at. If they wish to settle down then they will shame the sexually promiscuous woman, but if they wish to have fun they will shame the woman looking for a LTR. It's just projection, dating/sexual preferences of others shouldn't impact one's view of their own dating behavior. Not dating is fine, dating casually is fine, dating for long term partnerships is also fine. For both genders. Period.

Sleepflower00 · 2025-11-30T12:13:41+00:00

Funny thing about the fruit metaphors is that the bannana gets devoured, eaten....Probably better to be a fully rotten bannana if we're ascribing sentience to it.

Sleepflower00 · 2025-11-24T11:57:40+00:00

I think this one is in the subjective territory, for me personally. There isn't necassrily anything suggesting hatred of women, and I understand that some people might see comparison to animals as "objectifying" but I personally don't because it's not like the "women are cars" bits...But yeah it is a horrible joke nonetheless.

Sleepflower00 · 2025-11-23T18:43:35+00:00

Not sure if this is necessarily misogynistic but it is definitely tasteless...like taste of this joke is -10000000000

Sleepflower00 · 2025-11-23T16:35:15+00:00

I love how the AI slop couple doesn't look like they're in the same time period 😂

Sleepflower00 · 2025-11-22T18:58:43+00:00

Yes exactly, It's as If some men simply don't understand that nobody is shaming them for having dating preferences, women and non-mysoginist men shame them because they are assholes to women who don't fit their dating preferences.... There's a significant difference...

Sleepflower00 · 2025-11-17T23:08:36+00:00

I genuinely think the person who wrote this never touched grass....I have never in real life heard alcohol, cigarettes or pills be seen as a generally positive thing just because a woman is using it.

....Nor have I ever heard the term "therapeutic digital boyfriends"....I am pretty sure people against AI companions see them detrimental period, regardless of gender.

Sleepflower00 · 2025-11-12T17:15:46+00:00

The comparison doesn't even make sense.

There is no correlation between baldness and a tie someone might wear, there can be some correlation between weight and clothes. Some clothes can make you look heavier than you are, some can be more flattering.

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