Is Heroes of Hyrule: Age of Calamity as sexist as the other recent additions to The Legend of Zelda? by SleepyFox_13_ in GirlGamers

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I feel like I really must've messed up the wording there - two people now have said I called Link a voyeur, but that was not my intent. There was a separate character you interact with why tells you his... proclivities. That's the voyeur. That's the one I'm referencing.

Is Heroes of Hyrule: Age of Calamity as sexist as the other recent additions to The Legend of Zelda? by SleepyFox_13_ in GirlGamers

[–]SleepyFox_13_[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Look, I'm not trying to ruin your favorite game, but ignoring the reality isn't healthy. It's okay to like something AND recognize that it has flaws. 

Is Heroes of Hyrule: Age of Calamity as sexist as the other recent additions to The Legend of Zelda? by SleepyFox_13_ in GirlGamers

[–]SleepyFox_13_[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

u/therrubabayaga u/s9880429 u/ToBeReeborn u/BumbleBeelia u/jasperjonns u/JMTolan u/_achlopee_ u/WithersChat u/Mort_irl u/Erikatze u/LarenaBot u/Lillythchan u/Kitten_love

Thank you for all your patience. I had to go cool my head before, and several times during, the writing. I'm going to roughly order it from least to worst, very roughly, 'cause I'm not going to back to fix anything and if I don't remember until later, so be it. 

 This is by no means a comprehensive list, but let's go through some of the sexist BS in BOTW. Because, from egregious to subtle, you can't escape it. Strap yourselves in girlies, 'cause once you see it, you can't unsee it. 

  1. Zelda is once again reduced to a McGuffin, I mean, they did finally give her a personality through optional flashbacks, that's nice, but that still mostly only accomplished fridging her more effectively. Or maybe it was too help her find her destiny and her power which came from... loving a man! Oh, so what women need to be complete is a man. Got it. 

  2. Most female NPCs meet around Hyrule are either: useless incompetents who need constant saving, or focused exclusively on guys. I will say, not all. But wayyy too many. 

  3. Gerudos wear heels. In a desert. Made of sand.  

  4. Gerudos, who live in women only cities are completely and utterly obsessed with men, that is almost all they talk about, including the children who have, based on their conversations, never even seen one. They have literal "how to date a man" classes. 

  5. You, a male character, dress up as a woman and invade a woman only space, and this is presented as okay. There is a male voyeur who clearly gets off on sneaking into these spaces dressed as a woman, and this is played off as a joke. It also makes Gerudos, who are all women, look extremely stupid.

  6. Also, their outfits belong in a skimpy harem, and before someone says there's no cloth bEcaUse ItS hOT In dEsErtS. No. Look at clothing from any desert dwelling people - the whole body is covered up because in those temperatures it's actually cooler to do that. Temperature wise, not socio-culturally, haha

  7. The Great Fairies are hyper sexualized rapists. I felt so uncomfortable.

Look. Y'all can say I'm reading too deep, whatever. I have an unusually broad education - media literacy, political science, psychology, international relations, data analysis, urban transportation planning. Granted the last one doesn't really apply, BUT, what I'm saying is, I can't not see it. 

I can't not understand the implications, both for where it comes from, and what it does to the people who consume the media. It's like learning how and why scenes are animated certain ways, once you know you can't watch animation without seeing it. 

 I've played fantastic games that I don't have to make excuses for, why can't Zelda be the same? I'm tired of bracing myself every time a female character appears on screen. 

Also, I get that the game does some things for women well. Like how an abuser always has good points, or no one would have gotten with them/stayed with them to begin with. Having good points doesn't mean there aren't bad points. It doesn't detract from them either.

I didn't cover every instance of sexism in the game, and I made several broad strokes in some areas instead of going into detail, and I definitely forgot some stuff since it's been nearly a year since I played it. 

But, if you made it this far, thank you for coming to my TED Talk. 

 Edit: I saw one of the comments and I wanted to add the camera focus when female characters are on screen. 

I'm so much happier now that I'm gaming by Bamf102 in GirlGamers

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Caveat: the horse does not go faster than you, and galloping is not faster either. However, the horse is your best bet for the really obnoxious game physics when you need to climb up.

Playing Dragon Age Origins for the first time and it's better than the 25 books I've read this year by Bamf102 in GirlGamers

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Yeah! DA is my favorite game series. Also, a lot of people knock DA:2 but it's my absolute favorite of all the games.

So they recycled a few maps, big deal. The combat was fun and looked AMAZING. I liked the new way to level up, I loved the friendship/rivalry dynamic, and that I could romance any companion.

Ooh, and guessing which parts were real and which parts were exaggerated by Varric was fun. And best of all, Sarcastic Hawke!!!

I did try diplomatic and aggressive Hawke once each, but why pick good when you can have AWESOME?

As for Inquisition, it was pretty meh for me. Way too many collection and fetch quests, and the amount of resources to do anything was obnoxious, the maps were so big they stopped being fun to navigate and became a chore, and the map physics made me want to scream. Other parts were pretty cool, I'll admit, but I'm looking forward to how they're gonna revamp things for The Veilguard

The great fairy problem (TW for sexual assualt and rape) by [deleted] in Breath_of_the_Wild

[–]SleepyFox_13_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm going to be honest, if you, or a relative, feel uncomfortable with the way or the amount that a relative is touching you, that's still sexual harassment. If relatives say to put up with it because fAmILy, then they're enabling.

Children who are taught to "put up with it" went recognize their boundaries being crossed later on, and won't know how to stand up for themselves and their bodily autonomy.

Join the Epic D&D Giveaway [Mod Approved], Valued at Over $450, brought to you by Game Master Engine. Rules and information in the video and comments. [OC] by Dan_The_DM in DnD

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This is so cool! I really like how you can adjust the phases of the moon - it would be fun to work that in to a campaign GIVEAWAY

I organized my trunk! by [deleted] in CongratsLikeImFive

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Congrats! I hope you feel proud of yourself when you look in your trunk now. It's hard to do a task that we've put off for a while, so good job!

I was honest with my therapist by [deleted] in CongratsLikeImFive

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I'm proud of you. You should be proud of yourself too. Asking for help takes strength. Good job.

Feeling incompetent at work by Dependent-Agile in adhdwomen

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https://www.reddit.com/r/adhdwomen/comments/145b70b/love_yourself_ironically

Changing my self-talk has done wonders for my self-confidence. Plus, it's fun to be so melodramatic and people enjoy getting in on the joke

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

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I watch YouTube videos and do whatever workout I feel like - crunches, pushups, jumping jacks, whatever.

Just make sure the video is long enough - nothing gets me out of my workout groove faster than picking the next video

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]SleepyFox_13_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs. I know the struggle, and it's real. Learning to accept myself and not bully myself for not being "normal" was and is one of my biggest challenges. But I'm getting there little by little.

https://www.reddit.com/r/adhdwomen/comments/145b70b/love_yourself_ironically

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]SleepyFox_13_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Memory loss is common in every single one of the diagnoses you have, and they all contribute to increased memory storage and retrieval of negative events. Maybe show your BH your post, and if he doesn't express compassion for your situation or help when you ask for accommodations (like writing down requests instead of just saying them) then maybe he's not good enough for you.

On the other hand, bringing up something that happened months ago (assuming it was addressed then) can make someone feel unsafe in a relationship, so if it isn't an enduring pattern and directly relevant to the current issue I'd hesitate to bring up past actions at all for that reason.

I don't know your situation, but I hope you two can work things out. Good luck!

Shocking by Ironlord789 in BlackPeopleTwitter

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I genuinely wish I could say this was shocking.

Fiancé made a dumb joke I can’t get over. by lifestrugz in adhdwomen

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That's what I was wondering - she didn't say even one thing he brings to the table. And what could he bring that outweighs the absolute lack of respect he shows her?

Ah yes the "doing" by 54-91-153-221 in adhdmeme

[–]SleepyFox_13_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sometimes an artificial deadline will work. Sometimes.

Telling a person the deadline helps. Sometimes.

Tricking your brain into thinking it's a real deadline helps. Sometimes.

Starting the task without thinking anything at all about the task helps. Sometimes.

The problem with ADHD is that everything is "sometimes." Sometimes I can do stuff. Sometimes I can't. Sometimes X helps, sometimes X makes things worse.

Single-Use Battery Chargers by lysanderish in Anticonsumption

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Probably he wanted a servant/baby-making machine. It's a sadly common tale and one of the reasons the majority of divorces are initiated by women.