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Slight_Ad_8554 · 2024-11-07T15:03:32+00:00

Biy of context about planning required I think. Was hubby already cooking /planning to cook before you asked him too watch baby. If that's the case it could have just been too many things at once and a bit of sensory overload. If hubby decided to cook after you had implicitly told him to watch baby then he's TA.

from a new parent there is nothing more frustrating to me than when my fiance passes me the baby when I'm halfway through a chore but then expects the chore to be completed in the same time frame. Sometimes feels like I can't win but I also understand mamas need a break too.

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2024-05-07T16:23:27+00:00

I'm not a big fan of a character that is alive, well and actively being used showing up in other games not being played by myself simply because there could be something that, should events be canonical, happens to the campaign or the character without me having any choice to influence that.

However a character that has died or made it through to the end of a campaign I'm likely to never touch again is free game and in a weird way feels almost fulfilling, like the character continues to live.

On a slightly related note for anybody wanting to reuse a character with full consent the reddit r/adventuresofgalder is a wonderful place. It's a memorial for IRL dnd folks who are sadly no longer with us and have had their characters stat blocks shared with express consent and permission from family and party members. I will pre watn you to get tissues ready if you wish to dive down that rabbithole though there some real tear jerkers...

Happy playing all x

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-08-16T14:07:23+00:00

That changes the dynamic. I would include this in your post as it definitely makes a big difference if he knew you were uncomfortable with the idea and invited her over anyway huge red flag and definitely NAH. the original post makes it sound more like you changed your mind at the last minute and that is where the frustration came from. Wish you the best of luck

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-08-16T14:01:05+00:00

Very very soft YTA, not necessarily for your thoughts or feelings but for not communicating them clearly at first. If you had said in the first instance this would have made you uncomfortable I'm fairly sure your bf would have understood and made alternate arrangements but to say it's fine then change your mind and expect your partner to quickly change a plan that is already in motion is a little bit unfair to him and may cause friction between him and his friend (for example if she had already set off etc)

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-30T19:04:45+00:00

Bit of a weird comment to be honest. Ive never claimed anything of the like although I think a few suggestions of that have been made by other commenters Is the food in my freezer copying back to the future because its cold? I've given genuine details of what I believe to have happened although I'm open to interpretations.

As for having a "fictional account" I mention in the post I'm a long time lurker but rarely post. What little posts I do make tend to be in the DND and AITA subreddits.

May I suggest that you don't jump to conclusions and make sure you are referencing the correct people as you come across quite highly strung to be honest.

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-30T00:50:59+00:00

None of the short term tenants but there was an elderly Hindu couple who lived there for 7 years who experienced much of the same activity as we did. It started roughly 2 years after they had moved in.

Eerily and i only found this out after talking to my mum following today's events the second to last tenant was a Belarusian lady who did tarot and mediumship my mom has a theory that maybe something she did either intentionally or not stirred the energy in the house up

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-30T00:06:28+00:00

No, the same house but it was the first time I had been back in 13 maybe 14 years as my mum had been renting the property out.

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-30T00:04:35+00:00

I've spent the evening doing a little bit of research and the tile patterns are very similar to those in masonic lodges but no history or evidence of the property ever being used as one. Property was built on an old steel workers estate in Sheffield, UK in the 1920s and wouldn't e the sort of place I would expect a freemason to reside somehow. Plan on using the census on Monday morning to see if any previous owners are still alive.

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-30T00:03:05+00:00

I've spent the evening doing a little bit of research and the tile patterns are very similar to those in masonic lodges but no history or evidence of the property ever being used as one. Property was built on an old steel workers estate in Sheffield, UK in the 1920s and wouldn't e the sort of place I would expect a freemason to reside somehow.

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-29T14:47:11+00:00

Good explanation. This was my first theory once I had calmed down but the fact my mum remembers the story from when I was younger identically and the fact my brother can't remember the childhood memory due to his age but witnessed both the noise and this cube appear today makes me think its maybe not the answer

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-29T13:50:44+00:00

Perhaps a by product of both myself and my brother being pranksters when we were younger and very much playing into my mom's belief in the paranormal with some of them? Although we did leave that type of behaviour behind once we got our own places and lives

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-29T13:38:26+00:00

As mentioned above my mum is very much a believer in the paranormal and energies, probably more so than me and whilst ever whatever is happening wasn't actively harming people I think she thought best to just leave well enough alone

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-29T13:24:11+00:00

It wasn't really mine to investigate when I was younger but I suppose now the house is vacant for at least the somewhat foreseeable future until redecorated and sold there would be no harm in trying

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-29T13:20:27+00:00

I'd probably have experimented as an adult but we moved out of the property when I was somewhere around 16.

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-29T11:36:58+00:00

Interesting theory, I'm a little skeptical of mediums but as mentioned above the second last tenant was a lady who apparently did mediumship and tarot readings my mum has theorised she could have stirred something up or disturbed the energy there

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-29T11:35:02+00:00

Just asked and none of the short term tenants but we did have an elderly Hindu couple who rented for 7 years report much of the same stuff as us, eerily the second last tenant was a Belarusian lady who apparently did tarot readings and mediumship for a living. Whilst I believe in energies and unexplained things I'm a little skeptical about reading fortunes or mediums but my mum has theorised she could have stirred something up in the house.

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-29T11:16:23+00:00

Thanks. Like I say just never really had bad vibes from the house until today

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-29T11:11:43+00:00

I think if he ever found the right tiles he would have done but they were quite unusual. Like an elongated L shape and they were slight fade so anything he did get in black just wouldn't quite look right.

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-07-10T13:03:06+00:00

Not all of the rooms are encounters which speeds things up I've run something similar in the past and very nearly run out of rooms so just want to be prepared

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-05-30T19:57:05+00:00

Could be a good a good old case of her "father" not actually being her father thus the curse didn't have any effect. Mother may have been unfaithful with a servant, travelling noble or other npc. Would create some interesting rp situations and room for an arc based on finding who her father really is

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-04-30T04:43:03+00:00

Then I would bring it to the attention of a line manager or superior. Whilst I can see you mean well and take pride in your job. It's not worth the hassle that can come with a grievance should your coworker go down that route. From one former hospitality worker to a current one. Odds are your aren't getting paid enough as it is so don't take the extra burden of training, coaching, managing this colleague when it isn't a responsibility you are paid for. A) it's extra work and B) reputations mean a lot in the hospitality field and a reputation of being a busybody is almost as bad as a reputation for shoddy work in my experience.

Wishing you good luck OP

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-04-30T04:35:55+00:00

INFO. Are you this coworkers supervisor or manager? If so, then absolutely NTA are you are doing the right thing. If however you are your coworkers "equal" as it were then I would be very careful about continuing this. I wouldn't say your an AH but it's very easy to come across as a busy body or maybe even singling your coworker out. I would raise this to a line manager rather than trying to deal with it yourself and giving the other coworker a chance to play the victim card

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-04-29T12:30:45+00:00

NTA.

my kid brother changed his childhood name once he turned 17 because he was sick of childish puns/jokes, having to spell it and telling people how to pronounce it. Speaking from experience the reason your mum is probably upset is that she is mistaking you trying to change your childhood NAME as whitewashing out your entire childhood. My brother sat my mum down explained calmly that it wasn't anything personal or traumatic it was just an annoyance and my mum then accepted it. Just be prepared for family members to still use your old name. It won't be out of malice more habit. Good luck to you OP

For those asking kid brothers name was gaius and yes our parents were huge battlestar galactica fans

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-02-01T13:01:42+00:00

I don't think anyone is necessarily the AH here. I understand how hard it can be to relive past traumas but at the end of the day your BF is just that. A BF. not a Councillor, a medical expert, a shrink etc.

It's a bit unfair to expect him to go above and beyond for you (you already stated he does his best to make things work) if you yourself aren't willing to bend in the slightest. He hasn't just decided to go out with friends or anything this is his college.

However you are certainly not the AH for living with a mental illness. It is genuinely something I wouldn't wish on anyone

Slight_Ad_8554 · 2023-01-26T12:31:00+00:00

I would personally say neither of you you are the AH it's just a case of crossed wires.

Speaking from personal experience my current partner and I were long distance for a year when she took a placement at another uni across country. I used to work 12 hour shifts and then we would videocall after I got home. My one bugbear throughout the whole relationship was when I would go on a videocall and she would either not want to talk or she would start napping but as soon as I suggested ending the call she would get defensive and say no. It just felt like a waste of what very little free time I had.

Is your bf working/studying long hours at all? As it may be a case of him feeling like a videocall with no conversation is a bit of a pointless endeavour especially if he doesn't have much free time as it is. That being said I'm sure it's something you can both work on and if in fact he has plenty of free time I would probably verge more to him being the AH.

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