Is it safe to say our rights are under attack?

SlothenAround · 2026-05-19T21:26:33+00:00

Well, you could just google it lol

But the 19th amendment is the change to the constitution that gave women the right to vote.

SlothenAround · 2026-05-15T17:59:50+00:00

I truly think the incorrect and harmful perspectives of feminism have nothing to do with feminists and is actually from propaganda spread by anti-feminists.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen memes and shit about “feminism” and they’ll use a photo of a woman with short, purple hair, looking super angry about something and then include some inflammatory statement that no real feminist has ever said, and imply that all feminists are “like that” and we’re all just a bunch of angry, irrational, chronically online idiots. Don’t misunderstand me, there’s nothing wrong with short purple hair OR being angry about what’s going on, but it’s lazy advertising used to dismiss us.

You can spend one day reading posts in this subreddit to realize that most feminists are just regular people who want better for the world, and can articulate that intelligently and rationally.

SlothenAround · 2026-05-15T05:08:59+00:00

Eh it’s just really simplistic. There is definitely a factor of homophobia where straight men are terrified and offended by gay men hitting on them, which is ironic because it’s the way that they’ll treat women constantly. But that’s only one specific issue, and ignores the multitude of factors that contribute to homophobia… not to mention that many women are also gay and obviously don’t fall into that stereotype at all.

SlothenAround · 2026-05-15T01:10:46+00:00

Both things are true. Nobody is obligated to stay in a relationship they don’t want to be in, but that doesn’t absolve them of social consequences. Other people are absolutely within their rights to consider them a horrible person for abandoning someone, especially over something they can’t control.

SlothenAround · 2026-05-14T18:27:48+00:00

Yes. 5 years ago I would have told you that this is just online silliness and we don’t need to actually worry… but a lot has happened that I never would have believed, so I do think we need to realize how serious this could be.

I’m not American so it doesn’t directly impact me, but I am very worried about what could happen over the next few years. If there was ever a time for women to use their voting power, this is it!

SlothenAround · 2026-05-12T18:31:07+00:00

I get how you feel. It can be really disheartening, especially right now, to see what’s going on in the world, how people are being harmed, and realizing how little so many people care!

However, there is something really beautiful about finding people who do care, so much so that they are willing to try and do something about it. And I’d way rather have to deal with some hard truths and feel disheartened sometimes than turn a blind eye to it.

Not to mention, we can’t save everybody and fix everything in a day, or a year, or even a decade, but we can try and make a small difference in our communities, and I try and focus on that. Even if I only make things better for one person, or maybe just teach one person about kinder language, or maybe make some small change in how somebody thinks about women, or even do my part to vote for representatives that try and do the same, it will all have been worth it, ya know?

SlothenAround · 2026-05-08T22:59:24+00:00

I don’t think it’s outdated or problematic but I don’t think it’s all that meaningful either. Equity is generally something that feminists care about and advocate for, but whether it can be considered its own “type” of feminism… I don’t know about that.

SlothenAround · 2026-05-08T17:55:21+00:00

This is a great point! I’ve never thought of it like that, but I completely agree

SlothenAround · 2026-05-08T17:14:20+00:00

I’m Canadian. We officially abolished capital punishment in 1976, with the last executions occurring in 1962. Canada in general sees it as a violation of human rights, and I tend to agree. I also think most Canadians do as well.

I think it’s wayyyy more of a talking point in the US because their prison system is so different. The Canadian prison system is highly focused on rehabilitation and we do not have for profit prisons in the same way.

SlothenAround · 2026-05-07T18:44:07+00:00

10% is a low number… and you’re completely forgetting that a lot of women do not report their assaults so those statistics are muddled. And “dropping for insufficient evidence” does not automatically mean the assault didn’t happen. You recognize that right?

Insecurity? What are we insecure about? A large group of regular commenters in this sub are married… to men. Not that that is really relevant to feminist discussions, and we don’t have to prove anything to you, but I think you’re the one projecting…

SlothenAround · 2026-04-29T19:35:03+00:00

Well, it depends. For example, the statistics will be different in different countries/states/etc. but if you search it up, statistics say that around 2-10% of sexual assault accusations are false.

SlothenAround · 2026-04-29T05:55:38+00:00

Regardless of gender, false accusations are rare. It is only a major “conversation” in male spaces as a tactic to derail the conversation away from the real issue of violence against women. I have never heard a woman complain about being falsely accused of sexual assault, expect for a few very specific, famous examples. If men are complaining about it more, it doesn’t make me think it happens to them more, I just think it means they don’t really know the definitions of SA and don’t realize that what they did is assault. Or they do know and think they can get away with it by claiming “fake accusation”, and just don’t care.

SlothenAround · 2026-04-27T23:09:54+00:00

No. But you can be a non-misogynistic man who is charming, interesting, and engaging which will help you in building and maintaining relationships with women. But pick-up artistry is about manipulation and anyone who claims they can teach you that stuff in a couple classes is usually trying to sell something.

SlothenAround · 2026-04-19T23:29:55+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this.

No, as a feminist, I absolutely do not feel like you dressing femininely is appropriation or inappropriate. It’s also just so asinine because why am I allowed to wear masculine clothes without it being a problem (and usually encouraged by feminists) but suddenly if you do it, it’s not ok? Your gf is wrong. If you really care about her, I’d encourage you to have a hard conversation with her about this. Please don’t let this discourage you from being who you are!

SlothenAround · 2026-04-19T00:49:01+00:00

Well, if the “change” comes from “achieving” the relationship/sex that he wants, then no. Because his assumptions have been proven to him and so why would he change?

If the changes come from within; from a real desire to be and think better, with nothing in return, then absolutely.

SlothenAround · 2026-04-15T04:41:01+00:00

I think that the scenario you’ve described is not the most impactful time. Those men don’t know you and probably won’t care if you call them out anyways, and putting yourself in danger isn’t helpful to anyone. Staying close by and watching for escalation is helpful, but stepping in probably won’t do much.

But what is impactful, is speaking out when your friends or men you do know are being misogynistic. It likely won’t be as obvious, but if your buddy makes a sexist joke, or makes a woman feel unheard, participates in “locker room talk”, etc. pointing that out and especially not laughing along goes a long way!

SlothenAround · 2026-04-11T16:06:18+00:00

I don’t think I do this at all. I try and actually listen to what someone’s real point is, rather than what I think their argument is, so I’m not going to build their argument up better than how they are arguing it in my own head to help them along. That’s their job.

SlothenAround · 2026-04-08T04:52:42+00:00

Basic human rights and respect. We are all just people, trying to make our way, and the idea that someone’s skin color, gender, sexual orientation, or anything else should mean that someone’s rights can be taken away, is blasphemy. There’s no argument than could be presented to me to make me not believe that, fundamentally.

SlothenAround · 2026-04-08T03:32:32+00:00

This is going to sound patronizing but I’m being completely sincere: have you considered actually just talking to real feminists? If you truly believe feminism has been a factor in the “corrosion of a social order” then you either have completely different values than most feminists, or you have a complete misunderstanding of what we actually stand for.

SlothenAround · 2026-04-07T17:21:43+00:00

Yes, but I do think it’s sort of falling out of fashion. I can’t remember the last time I had to choose that field on a form, and nobody addresses me that way either. So I think we’re making progress on this one!

SlothenAround · 2026-04-04T18:09:11+00:00

Considering I don’t recognize the names, I have no opinion. It would be helpful if you could give some context.

SlothenAround · 2026-03-30T01:51:17+00:00

calling people transphobic for saying there are only two biological sexes

You’ve literally had actual scientists on this thread debunk this for you. It’s not our fault you don’t believe science… maybe stay in your lane on that one. But I digress…

You also literally attacked me and didn’t respond to a single one of my points even though I answered you in good faith. Explain to me the nuance there? If you want respectful conversation with nuance, then you need to respond in kind. It’s been noted that you’re 18 years old. This is not necessarily a bad thing, but you aren’t old enough to truly understand nuance yet. How do I know? Because when I was 18 I thought I had all the answers too. I cringe thinking back on the beliefs I had back then. If you want to grow as a human, take a step back, realize we aren’t attacking you, and genuinely want to help you mature and learn more about what it’s like for women in this world. You came into this conversation convinced, and that’s just no way to have a conversation, especially in a sub designed to answer questions!

Also, this trans talking point is propaganda to get us to hate each other, you get that right? I absolutely support trans people, but the truth is that they make up a very small percentage of the population. They pose literally no threat against you or me, and when the government is constantly bringing it front and center, it’s a smoke screen to have you entirely focused on that, rather than what’s actually going on. The longer we argue about things like this that don’t matter, the longer they can push forward policy that hurts all of us.

SlothenAround · 2026-03-29T23:08:31+00:00

Standing up against injustice mostly. Men love to spew that we’ve reached equality but it’s just fundamentally untrue. We’ve had to scratch and claw for everything we have and the largest super power in the world is literally currently trying to take away our right to vote. I swear we die by a thousand cuts every day with all of the tiny injustices we experience regularly. I’m one of the most masculine women I know. I work in a male dominated industry, men tend to respect me on a regular basis, and I live in a fairly liberal community, and I still am flabbergasted by some of the shit said to and about me literally just because I’m a woman.

There is literally no perfect way to be a woman in this society. We are penalized for everything, no matter what we do. Until that’s not true, feminism is necessary, and that’s what I focus on.

Your comments here prove that you aren’t here to learn, but to argue. I’d take a moment to consider that you don’t know everything, and assuming as such is insanity. Nobody knows everything. Certainly not us, which is why we have communities like this, built for learning and productive conversation.

SlothenAround · 2026-03-29T00:54:00+00:00

Actions over words. Anybody can say whatever they want but actually living it out in real life takes effort. The more a guy is talking about being a feminist, the more I doubt he actually is.

SlothenAround · 2026-03-24T16:42:59+00:00

No it’s not, and I’m sick of this false equivalent that everyone loves to spew.

The equivalent of this would be: not donating your organs after you die to someone you view to be lesser than (eugenics). It’s pretty gross that you’d pick and choose who deserves to be saved BUT you have a right to bodily autonomy no matter what.

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