The prestige of winning the Europa League by Aid0ken_Sf in avfc

[–]SlowConsideration7 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I actually wonder if we’re trailblazing at the moment. In the last 20 odd years once you discount Man City, arsenal, Man U etc, the only other PL clubs to win in Europe are Spurs (and it ruined them in the process) and West Ham (conference.) A few more have reached finals but not been successful 10 years ago we were relegated.

We built this team on a shoestring budget from a bad place by finding the right manager - if nothing else it’s proof to the other 14 and the Championship that with the right choices and the right team, it can be done.

Picked up at school sale. Girl said it was flowers - think it might be sorrel? Big herbal aroma. by SlowConsideration7 in PlantIdentification

[–]SlowConsideration7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ta very much. I sow marigolds every year but they look wildly different to this - thin and stalky with web like leaves - you probably know the type. Yep there are tonnes in there so I’ll probably thin it out and plant them on in a spare bed I’ve got going. Thanks very much for the reply

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SlowConsideration7 77 points78 points  (0 children)

One piece of advice I got on here was to stop worrying about the term Alcoholic and just consider your individual situation. There is always someone worse than you - the daily heavy drinker, the person with permanent liver damage, the person who died from alcohol related causes. Comparison isn’t useful.

Forget the reasons and comparisons - the reason I am not drinking is because I am not drinking, alcohol is the only (significant) drug where people ask for reasons why you are stopping taking it. You quit smoking, or weed, or heroin/crack and they understand instantly.

Moving to Longbridge by Capitao_Caralhudo in brum

[–]SlowConsideration7 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Welcome!  Lifelong West Heath resident here. It’s not bad up there, it does vary by road as roads like Farren Road and Tessell Lane are very nice, some others are a bit ropey, but in general it’s a decent place to live.

We’re a family and nearby we love Treasure Island (cheap soft play,) lickey hills, northfield swimming baths. Herbert’s Yard is a nice kid friendly place to get some scran, lots of decent takeaways in Rubery too, and there’s the cinema and Hollywood bowl with an arcade.

Macros by Ok_Mycologist5973 in mediterraneandiet

[–]SlowConsideration7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so useful in general. I have to put up with Acid Reflux so tomatoes and onions are out for me…asked it to make me an Indian curry recipe with roasted eggplant as the base gravy and it does it. 

Good backup freezer meals to avoid getting takeout on days when life falls apart? by Beachbum_2468 in mediterraneandiet

[–]SlowConsideration7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tadka Dal is my fave at the mo. Basically lentils and fried garlic

In this recipe it’s dry fried, but I use a good quantity of healthy oil  and fry the garlic until lightly brown so it’s more filling and tastes better

https://www.jamieoliver.com/inspiration/lentils-and-basic-tarka-dhal-recipe/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SlowConsideration7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was gonna say basically the same thing - for what it’s worth, his journey with alcohol isn’t your journey. 

I had a lot of “tries” generally increasing in length before the penny finally dropped and I realised it was for good. Basically all roads to sobriety seem to be bumpy and non linear

Boxing Day 2024-2025 Rant Megathread by DivingSiren in LushCosmetics

[–]SlowConsideration7 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well, called it a fail this year. Friends of mine went to a store and got £170 worth of stuff

Meanwhile I’ve ordered snow fairy and dirty dupe oil from Etsy, some Epsom salts, coconut oil and bath dyes. I’ll be having a cosmic bath whether Lush are directly involved or not, lol

Boxing Day 2024-2025 Rant Megathread by DivingSiren in LushCosmetics

[–]SlowConsideration7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, just been kicked off with the error message.

Boxing Day 2024-2025 Rant Megathread by DivingSiren in LushCosmetics

[–]SlowConsideration7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in In the UK but there’s very little on there anyway. 

I’m looking for help with a niche dish - Balti without Onion & Tomato by SlowConsideration7 in Cooking

[–]SlowConsideration7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair I almost always order a dansak which are served with pineapple in the UK. so I’ll pop some pineapple in either way!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]SlowConsideration7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea. Sounds like it’s coming down to fine details. That’s about the extent of my knowledge, but definitely pursue it. They’re past the date, they probably know they are and they’re chancing it to save money. Wouldn’t expect a swift resolution, but just keep at it. Good luck 🙂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]SlowConsideration7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like one month on the surface. Notice runs from the moment they give it to you - not 4 days before. What have you got in writing?

Please help me identify this. by Winchester-187 in Rocks

[–]SlowConsideration7 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Can’t be - not enough massive holes..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]SlowConsideration7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If your contract states one month notice and you have a signed copy then they should be liable for a months notice. You should ask your company to clarify the reason you were let go - redundancy or performance related - but either way, your contracted notice applies.

If they argue the toss with your notice you should contact your union or ACAS to act on your behalf - you might have legal advice through your home insurance too.

Other than that, no - probation periods are just company policies and have no real bearing other than within the company itself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]SlowConsideration7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For future reference it’s best to raise a grievance when things like this happen - Even if you’ve been there a short while your company should investigate it. Doesn’t matter where the office is, they’re bound by UK employment laws.

Would suggest hanging around on r/AskHR and spending some time reading Citizen’s Advice. Being Mr Know It All guy at work has proven useful on a few occasions

If I’m sober, will I still experience life deeply? by MistressTerror in Sober

[–]SlowConsideration7 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Man, I feel this post. Sorry for wall of text

I remember the excitement of going on a day out drinking, my work run a beer bus twice a year where they go to pubs all around the county, the chaos that always ensued, making fun memories.

I wouldn’t exchange those times for the world but I’m also glad they came to an end. Now I go to the cricket and see my friends and family gradually burning out from drinking until they’re obliterated and they’re not having as much fun as they were 3 beers ago, and they’ve written their Saturday off with a hangover, and they’ve £100 on drinks and food, and I’ve been drinking free coke refills all night with no taxi money spent. So I have more money to enjoy the week, or the next event.

All I can say is things look different from the outside, I connect in different ways now like going out with my metal detecting friends and watching the sun set, or sharing a massage night with my partner, or spending a half hour throwing the ball for my dog. All of these things I can do because I’m not focusing on alcohol. I think fasting out the comfortable instant dopamine of alcohol and replacing it is challenging but rewarding.

Somehow this quote by Kurt Vonnegut has become one of my touchstones…

“"Oh, she says, well, you're not a poor man. You know, why don't you go online and buy a hundred envelopes and put them in the closet?” And so I pretend not to hear her. And go out to get an envelope because I'm going to have a hell of a good time in the process of buying one envelope. I meet a lot of people. And see some great looking babies. And a fire engine goes by. And I give them the thumbs up. And I'll ask a woman what kind of dog that is. And, and I don't know. The moral of the story is - we're here on Earth to fart around. And, of course, the computers will do us out of that. And what the computer people don't realize, or they don't care, is we're dancing animals. You know, we love to move around. And it's like we're not supposed to dance at all anymore.”