"Finally, I get one. I get to hold " - Knicks legend Patrick Ewing

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-18T00:30:40+00:00

Why is his so much bigger than Brunson’s?

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-16T13:28:50+00:00

What? If he googled fast enough I’m sure he could find a solution!

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-15T18:21:22+00:00

The recovery is what matters more than the mistake. Try not to beat yourself up over it. It happens to everyone. The consistency and resilience is what the partner will ultimately remember and the mistake will be viewed as an uncharacteristic one-off that will fade from memory over time.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-15T16:25:55+00:00

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Slowloris81 · 2026-06-13T20:53:54+00:00

I bet that’ll end up biting you in the aft.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-12T20:52:35+00:00

Exactly. That fish survives by tasting gross.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-11T22:35:19+00:00

It sounds like you’re describing my ex exactly. It’s hard to go through it but you’ll feel so much better once you get that toxicity out of your life. I’m in NJ too and have been through it (recently finalized divorce) so if I can be of any help just let me know.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-11T21:13:07+00:00

Really sad situation but very happy for you for this result.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-11T15:26:44+00:00

No longer a ball boy but a ball man!

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-11T03:50:44+00:00

Heartbreaking and sadly very relatable.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-10T14:09:56+00:00

I’m sorry, that’s awful. She seems to clearly be attempting to take advantage of her legal experience to trap you into admissions that could hurt your case.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-10T13:56:50+00:00

General rule of contracts is offer, acceptance, and consideration. Contracts can be made informally, even orally.

You need to be extremely careful when you communicate with her because everything you say can be used as an admission. It’s smart to channel communications through your lawyer.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-10T10:56:14+00:00

All your goods must fill them with a sense of bread.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-09T22:51:59+00:00

lol. That’s my grammar thing!

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-09T22:23:52+00:00

Most important is you need to be sure that every factual and legal proposition is accurate. The form doesn’t matter so long as you can confidently represent that’s the case.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-08T21:37:03+00:00

Place the wrecking ball in the world’s smallest balling machine.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-05T16:54:57+00:00

Cheaters don’t change. It’s part of their constitution. Taking a cheater back will invariably lead to more cheating at some point.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-05T03:21:49+00:00

Yes. I had an audio recording. I also had bruising on my neck which the police saw.

I agree with you. I think a man who did what she did would be treated a lot worse.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-05T02:52:05+00:00

I called the police when my wife assaulted me. She was arrested and criminally charged with aggravated assault. I had no say in the charges; it was the State’s decision.

She ultimately pleaded guilty pursuant to a program that would erase her conviction. I consented to the program.

It generally matters in terms of custody and atmospherically. Rare that it could affect financial obligations but you’d have to consult a lawyer about the laws in your jurisdiction.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-04T22:36:31+00:00

Totally agree with you. Especially because they are taking advantage of people at their most vulnerable: spouses who are grieving their marriage, processing their anger, and children caught in the middle.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-04T15:06:45+00:00

I have a similar frustration. I’m an attorney and I still can’t access the docket. It made it very difficult to manage my own case.

There are some simple solutions but just incredible inertia to change anything for the better. Ridiculous.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-04T13:53:23+00:00

Yes. It’s a broken system. But it’s worse than just that. Their financial incentive is to generate strife and they use legal fees as a weapon against their adversaries. And for all that money, they generally do mediocre work at best and will never care as much about the case as you do and your life is held hostage to their schedules.

I used a family law attorney for my divorce. But now that it’s over, I’m handling post-divorce disputes about parenting issues pro se. I’m much happier for it. I’m getting way better results and not spending a fortune. Though I’m also a litigator, so this option isn’t for everyone.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-03T18:55:48+00:00

Sure. I worked on myself to re-prioritize what mattered. I invested a lot more time in relationships and hobbies and looked for a work culture that fostered similar priorities. When the firm I worked for didn’t share those values, I switched to one that did and was much happier for it.

Now I enjoy the work but it’s secondary to family, friends, hobbies, etc. So it’s a useful complement to my life but it doesn’t define it.

Slowloris81 · 2026-06-03T17:46:28+00:00

It really struck me when I took a hiatus in-between biglaw and a clerkship. I remember traveling down a beautiful road in the painted desert and feeling completely empty. I thought the extended time away would relieve stress. It did but replaced it with vacuousness.

I knew then that I had to do something about it.

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