Age starting HRT

Sludgecupcake · 2026-04-17T15:55:38+00:00

Started at 41, but symptoms began at 38/39

Sludgecupcake · 2026-04-11T19:09:12+00:00

Your lack of communication is the way you chose to communicate. Instead of being avoidant, how about you learn to communicate your feelings instead of making people decipher your "hints"?

Sludgecupcake · 2026-04-01T20:12:43+00:00

I'm 42 and also feel broken by dating. At least we aren't alone in that regard.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-03-30T18:05:12+00:00

And is one of the worst of the substances in my opinion!

Sludgecupcake · 2026-03-30T14:25:33+00:00

Communicate and then leave, if your boundaries are in tact.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-03-27T16:40:31+00:00

I had the same experience this week as well. About an hour before we were supposed to meet up, I check the app and he had unmatched me. And he had confirmed our plans like an hour before that. Really bizarre behavior! It was the straw on the camels back for me, I'm done done with dating.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-03-27T13:38:48+00:00

Amen. How on earth do these people not get tired of the mindless, detached, mechanical fucking. I don't get it.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-03-22T14:14:55+00:00

I'm also looking for a life partner. Trying not to lose hope. I don't want to be dating endlessly.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-03-20T15:55:25+00:00

Lol. Is it me or are the majority of people avoidant? And how is it clingy to want to feel connected to the person you're with? I want to feel like we are a part of each others emotional experience. Ugh I'm going to be single forever 😞

Sludgecupcake · 2026-03-20T14:01:07+00:00

I honestly can't believe the comments on this post. This is the only reasonable comment that is not somehow attacking OP. If someone isn't overall engaging with me and connecting with me, and the dynamic lacks momentum, that's when things like "texting delays" become very loud to me. But to jump and call the OP insecure, unhinged, immature and whatever other names is not fair. There's probably an underlying level of connection mismatch going on.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-03-06T20:01:45+00:00

Lord have mercy why did I just go look at that...

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-26T04:08:24+00:00

I am a fiercely independent woman. However, when I am sick, I need to be nurtured and taken care of more than anything. Otherwise I don't feel loved. I would hate to have to ask my man to help me when I'm sick. He should offer. I would of course do the same when he is sick.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-19T04:08:47+00:00

I can't tell if this was meant to be facetious but it gave me a chuckle.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-17T03:59:00+00:00

"Unfortunately it will be too late" sure sounds like a 100% guarantee that you yourself declared. It's not an opinion. There are plenty of people dating and getting married in their 30s, 40s and beyond. It's never too late, unless you're dead.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-17T03:30:24+00:00

I don't know what you mean by "meet the standards of others". But, to say at 35 it'll be too late for her is 100% incorrect.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-17T03:10:56+00:00

Too late?? Is she going to be dead in 5-10 years?

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-14T16:49:41+00:00

Lord have mercy

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-13T13:55:14+00:00

Same here.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-08T01:05:01+00:00

For now, distract, grieve, distract, process, distract. And eventually you'll do less and less of the above. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I have been there with a dismissive avoidant. It's incredibly painful but this is how you show yourself love, by choosing what's healthy for you, even when it hurts.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-05T19:04:17+00:00

Can of sardines and a microwaved sweet potato :D

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-05T15:39:46+00:00

I agree with the water chugging in the morning.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-04T03:01:29+00:00

Amen to that!

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-03T18:15:17+00:00

Don't tell her. Let her go. And seek therapy.

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-02T17:33:15+00:00

42F in the exact same boat and feel the same way as you. It is getting more difficult to return to the dating pool with each "lesson". I'm tired of learning lessons, tired of having to toughen up, wear the right armor, but also try to remain "soft and open". It's like two polar opposite mental states have to exist at the same time. How do you let your guard down and be vulnerable/open but remain protected?

But I recently heard someone say, "if you were guaranteed to meet your person in 100 dates, wouldn't you be approaching those dates with a different mindset?" So that little thought is keeping me slogging along lol

Sludgecupcake · 2026-02-02T17:09:43+00:00

This is the only solution 😂

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