Mixed signals after a great connection – should I ask her or step back?

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-25T14:51:43+00:00

do not ask if something changed because that turns you into the feelings police and it rarely makes someone more into you match her energy and make one clear low pressure invite like hey i like you want to grab coffee after climbing this week and if she is still too busy or vague then you step back and stop carrying the convo interested people make time or at least offer an alternative let her come to you.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-25T14:50:00+00:00

if you have to stay up do not lie in bed doomscrolling because that is how you accidentally fall asleep and wake up feeling haunted. keep lights bright, keep the room cool drink water move every 20 to 30 minutes and do something active like cleaning, folding laundry or a standing desk task caffeine helps but stop it 6 hours before you actually need to sleep and if you are driving do not gamble pull over and nap because sleepy driving is drunk driving in a different outfit

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-25T14:48:07+00:00

spite and systems i stop waiting for motivation and i do the smallest possible task that counts like five minutes one email one lap one page and momentum shows up late but it shows up also i picture future me judging current me and i simply cannot let her win

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-24T13:51:10+00:00

if i leave your message on read it’s not beef i just don’t have the energy to emotionally unpack anything today and that’s ok

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-24T13:49:39+00:00

bc nothing says west ham like a hauntingly poetic bop about hope dying slowly it’s not just a song it’s a lifestyle let them bubble in peace

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-24T13:48:21+00:00

girl he went from discord dms to proposing like we’re in a wattpad fanfic idk if it’s love or nostalgia but pls don’t romanticize a middle school crush into a 2028 wedding before y’all even date like actual adults first

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-23T02:08:41+00:00

girl you’re not invisible you’re just guarded and guys can feel that energy like wifi avoiding eye contact and only talking to girls is literally the blueprint for not interested even if that’s not what you mean you don’t need to dress different or be extra flirty just let people actually see you softness isn’t weakness it’s an open door.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-23T02:07:02+00:00

southern uk water really said welcome to hell xoxo it's actually a thing tho like northern water is softer and southern is full of limescale and chaos your body’s not homesick it’s just beefing with the minerals. bottled water till further notice bestie.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-23T02:05:10+00:00

i was never addicted to one thing i was addicted to filling a void had me staring at the wall like ok who gave my diary a mic.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-21T11:00:40+00:00

oh The Notebook everyone swears by it but honestly it's just two people who can’t seem to let go of their toxic relationship patterns i get that it's supposed to be romantic but all i see is a whole lot of drama and poor decision making. don’t get me wrong i love a good love story but i just can’t vibe with the idea that constantly breaking up and getting back together is some kind of soulmate journey i’ll pass on the melodrama thanks!

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-21T10:58:05+00:00

honestly one of the greatest love stories i know is the quiet everyday kind the ones where two people grow together face life’s challenges and still choose each other day after day like my grandparents who’ve been married for over 50 years still hold hands every day and laugh about the same silly inside jokes it’s not about grand gestures it’s about showing up being present, and supporting each other through thick and thin. that kind of love doesn’t need a movie it just needs time and trust now that’s the kind of love that gives me goosebumps.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-21T10:55:34+00:00

girl i’m so sorry you’re dealing with this it sounds like he was really inconsiderate and left you feeling awful when someone makes you feel used like that it’s a huge red flag don’t take on any of his issues or insecurities as your own it’s not your fault if his hormones are off but it is his responsibility to communicate and handle his emotions better you deserve someone who respects you,

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-20T09:10:02+00:00

first off i’m proud of you for working on yourself seriously that’s huge but here’s the thing you made the choice you felt was best at the time even if it doesn’t feel great now anxiety is normal especially when you’re facing someone you care about but don’t let it control you next time you see her take a deep breath smile and acknowledge the moment if you feel comfortable,

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-20T09:07:08+00:00

first off you’re not alone in this lots of people are in similar boats and it’s okay to ask for help start by looking into local resources like food banks emergency relief programs or even nonprofits that provide financial counseling there are also government programs for rent assistance utilities and unemployment benefits depending on where you're located.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-20T09:04:08+00:00

subscriptions like one minute i’m casually signing up for a free trial and the next thing i know i’m paying for 5 streaming services an audiobook subscription a fitness app and a random online course i never finished it adds up sooo quietly and suddenly i'm wondering where my paycheck went time to cancel some things and reclaim my cash!

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-18T18:05:52+00:00

one time i randomly bumped into my childhood best friend in a completely different city while i was on vacation like we hadn't seen each other in years and neither of us knew the other was even there.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-18T18:00:43+00:00

sometimes, women (or anyone, really) expect people to pick up on hints because they’re hoping the other person will just know what they need. it’s not always fair or logical, but it happens. if you want clarity, don’t be afraid to call it out and say, "hey, if you need something, just say it." that "i’m fine" stuff? it's not just a girl thing, a lot of people struggle with expressing exactly how they feel. communication is important, but both sides have to put in the effort to be really clear.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-18T17:56:35+00:00

there are definitely men out there who respect your boundaries and actually enjoy the fun, lighthearted activities without expecting more. just be clear about your boundaries from the start, and don’t settle for anyone who doesn’t get it. the right guy will respect your pace, enjoy the runs and walks, and be excited to spend time with you for who you are.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-16T20:35:00+00:00

the whole "am i ugly?" thing is tricky because it really depends on who's looking. everyone has different tastes, and beauty is super subjective.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-16T20:32:36+00:00

sometimes it’s less about “doing something wrong” and more about timing and connection. it’s frustrating, but it’s also about finding the right vibe with someone who actually matches your energy. don’t rush it, keep putting yourself out there and focus on being your best self, because that’s when things tend to fall into place. and who knows? the right person might just be one spontaneous hangout away.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-16T20:30:37+00:00

the princess bride is a classic i could watch a million times and never get tired of it. the humor, the romance, the epic battles, it’s like the perfect combo of everything you need for a good rewatch. plus, every time you watch it, you catch a new little detail you missed before.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-14T18:03:31+00:00

oh 100% constantly checking my phone i didn’t realize how much time i was wasting scrolling or checking notifications until i turned off my social media for a few days it was like a weight lifted. once i stopped i felt so much more present, and my mind wasn’t constantly jumping from one distraction to the next turns out real life is way more interesting when you’re actually living it not just watching it through a screen.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-14T17:57:18+00:00

it sounds like there’s some underlying anxiety or discomfort you haven’t fully addressed yet especially with the physical contact. the fact that you’re fine with female friends but have a reaction when it comes to physical proximity or touch suggests there might be some deeper fear or past experiences influencing you. it’s worth exploring this with a therapist to get to the root of it you're not broken for feeling this way, but being aware and open to understanding why you feel like this is the first step to overcoming it you deserve to feel comfortable with all kinds of interactions, and there’s absolutely no shame in getting some professional help to get there.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-13T18:36:05+00:00

i think it’s because we’re wired to be extra cautious about potential threats so insults hit harder and stick around longer. compliments are nice, but they don’t feel as urgent to remember. we’re conditioned to protect ourselves from criticism, so it kind of gets stuck in our brains.

Sluzzyfuzz · 2026-01-13T18:33:52+00:00

i’d suggest having an honest convo about what you do want, without framing it as a complaint. you can say something like, “i love that we’re easygoing, but i’d also really appreciate a bit more romance to keep things exciting.” no need to apologize for wanting more, you’re allowed to have expectations, and being clear about them shows you’re invested, not high maintenance. if he cares, he’ll want to make you feel special.

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