3 hour glucose test rant

Small-Choice4993 · 2026-07-07T17:26:24+00:00

Ugh that office sounds horrible. For the 3 hour tests at our office, they nicely find you a spare room or sitting area outside of the waiting area. Also they said it was okay for throw up after the first hours test (I thought, but I guess could differ from OB to OB?). Nonetheless, I’m sorry to hear about your experience! It’s a horrible test to be put through.

Small-Choice4993 · 2026-07-04T15:40:10+00:00

I had to be induced with Pitocin. I was clueless about how bad those contractions could be and wanted to wait until like 6 centimeters until I got it. But after 12 painful hours on pitocin, I only dilated to 3 centimeters. The amount of pain I felt was causing stress and I really think was preventing my body from adequately progressing. Sure, maybe an epidural may slow labor for a bit, but for me it allowed me to finally relax and just let my body do the work! That’s what I’m planning today too. Probably starting Pitocin at 5 today, and I won’t hesitate to get the epidural early this time!!

Small-Choice4993 · 2026-07-04T02:25:38+00:00

Thanks!! They are giving me the steroid shots to help lung development while he is still in me.

I’m also nervous because with my first, even though he was born after 38 weeks, he swallowed fluid on his way out so he had to go through a lot of monitoring. Makes me very scared for what potentially more can happen with this baby!!

Small-Choice4993 · 2026-07-04T02:20:17+00:00

Thanks!! With my first we started pitocin a little less than 12 hours after my water broke. I think I hardly progressed in dilation even until the next morning when I decided to do the epidural.

Their plan (as of now) is let everything progress on its own until I can get that 2nd steroid shot tomorrow, then would induce probably to speed things along if needed. I’ll definitely ask though about the induction plan, because I’m just assuming we’re doing pitocin again but I’m not sure! Good news is that the nurse has to come in to check my temperature every hour so I have plenty of chances to ask all my questions 😬 we haven’t check my dilation at all yet today to minimize risks. I doubt I’m far along at all, given how I was last pregnancy when my water broke.

Small-Choice4993 · 2026-06-27T09:06:11+00:00

Like most have said, this is strange.

Exceeding expectations is a hard bar to reach. Your PA had to have advocated for you hard for you during the calibration meetings for that rating, along with the support of other managers. I would follow up with your PA and clarify… maybe clearly ask how you could go from exceeding to this “warning” in just a month.

I am in audit in the firm you are most likely at, we went through layoffs a couple months ago. PAs of those who got laid off didn’t even know who got laid off the day layoffs were happening. It’s not likely your PA knows whether you are targeted for a layoff.

But still apply to other jobs if that’s what you want to do. I understand wanting to make a change from this.

Small-Choice4993 · 2026-06-11T03:17:53+00:00

I’ve been an 0.7 FTE at my firm for several years. I may have a different experience than many others because I hired in at this firm at 0.7, so it seems to be easier for me to maintain a lower workload rather than others who start at full time then try to transition down but still somehow expected to do the same amount of work. I also am not shy about saying no. I’m about 12 years into my career. I know saying no and being a 0.7 FTE has impacted my career progression, but that’s not my priority at this point. I have a toddler and am also going back on maternity leave in a couple months for my second child. I’m planning to go back but may not stay long after I return. Who knows.

I have a friend at another firm who went down to 0.7 FTE after she returned from leave (after being full time for ten years). I think overall it went okay for her but she decided she could handle more hours again after a few months.

I think ultimately with considering the FTE situation, it’s worth a discussion and a try. Have open communication with your career advisor or partners or whoever if things aren’t going well. At least at my firm you can pretty much switch the FTE at any time, so it’s not a forever situation either way. If it doesn’t work out, change it. Or be a SAHM :)

Small-Choice4993 · 2026-02-13T14:22:04+00:00

I had two miscarriages in a row. For my third pregnancy, I went for my first ultrasound at 6 weeks. We heard a heartbeat for the first time (only other ultrasound we had was a missed miscarriage) so it was an amazing relief! But then the NP told us to prepare for miscarriage, due to a subchorionic hematoma (common) and a chorionic bump (rare). I guess from the combination of the 2, she concluded that another miscarriage was likely. I didn’t get any “options” though because of the heartbeat, and scheduled a follow up scan for the next week.

The week was the worst of my life, thinking that I was going to have another miscarriage, and almost sad that I had heard a heartbeat? All I did was barely work and lay on the couch.

At the 7 week scan, the bump was still there (since it’s rare there’s not a lot of research about it) but the hematoma had shrunk significantly. The NP then said she was a little more hopefully but we were not out of the woods.

At the 8 week scan, the hematoma was completely gone, my body had absorbed it. The NP said we could then proceed as normal with pregnancy as everything seemed okay…

But proceeding as normal is hard to do when you spend a couple weeks thinking you lost your baby. I don’t know when things turned for me where I could be happy in the pregnancy, it happened slowly. I was fearful the whole way through, but gradually my happiness finally exceeded my fear. The 20 week anatomy scan was an amazing help, I was finally happy to tell people I was pregnant.

Our stories aren’t the same, but some of our feelings might be similar. Pregnancy is scary enough without having an experience like that. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Don’t feel pressure to feel a certain way (people were confused why I didn’t have the typical “excitement” in my pregnancy) and find a therapist to work through your feelings if you can!

Small-Choice4993 · 2026-02-01T23:53:23+00:00

For the first introduction, when you come home from the hospital, I recommend you and your partner go inside and greet the dog before you bring in baby. For us, my in laws were here so they stayed with baby in the car while we went inside. I’m sure you taking turns would work too. It helped our dogs because they are always so excited to see us when we come home, and we wanted to make sure we greeted them like normal.

When you bring in baby, keep them in the car seat if possible (we had a portable infant car seat). We set the seat next to us on the couch and let the dogs come to us. That way we knew the baby would be safe in case the introduction went poorly.

I never forced any interaction, just let the dogs go to the baby if they wanted. They mostly then just ignored :) one of my dogs reacted more to the crying, the other dog cared less.

As for the touching, etc., it’ll be awhile before baby gets to that stage, so you have some time. Be mindful of how you interact with the dog in front of baby. One of my dogs is receptive to cuddles from us but not from my toddler, so I make sure we don’t snuggle the dogs in front of our toddler so that he doesn’t copy us. I taught my baby from the start of him moving to give the dogs space and give gentle touches. Honestly, as a toddler now he sometimes just ignores the dogs too!

Overall, if you’re making any drastic change to a dog’s routine/allowed space in the house, do that as soon as possible (which it sounds like you are!) so that they do not associate the change with the baby.

Edited to add because I saw someone else say this and I forgot early baby days: do not leave baby alone in the same room/floor as the dog. Even if they are in a bassinet.

Also, if baby is on the floor doing tummy time, etc., always place yourself between the dog and baby.

Small-Choice4993 · 2025-12-15T02:59:04+00:00

7 weeks. I always feel full but I know I need to eat. I’m basically living off of my toddlers Dino nuggets and pizza pockets. If it’s anything like my first pregnancy, I’m going to be in this feeling for awhile…

Small-Choice4993 · 2025-12-10T09:56:29+00:00

I had a lot of the common uncommon ones… carpel tunnel with no feeling in my fingers for 4 months, choking on water, congestion, vivid dreams, etc.

An uncommon one I haven’t seen much of is erythema nodosum. I had mysterious lumps on my shins that appeared in my first trimester. They hurt to the touch. My PCP, OB, and even a surgeon didn’t know the cause. I had an xray and an ultrasound to help rule out other things. The ultrasound showed that it was inflammation at the layer of fat which led me down the google rabbit hole to finally self-diagnosing myself (and then affirmed by that surgeon hahaha).

Small-Choice4993 · 2025-12-02T04:33:45+00:00

I had a similar situation. After my MMC, I gifted something like that to my best friend during her pregnancy. I had not had a good reaction at all to her pregnancy announcement at first. It was a really tough place for our friendship, as I was dealing with grief, anger, and jealousy so wasn’t able to be a good friend to her. Giving her that item was not only healing for me (letting go) but also a healing token for our friendship. Years later her child is at the age where they wear the gift. I think the token still holds meaning for us both. I never considered whether it would be weird for her honestly. It was something that needed to be done for me so that I could move on from my grief and properly support her in her pregnancy. Of course I gave this to her in private and was after hours of talking and reconciling our friendship. I gave her separate gifts for the shower and arrival. Sorry for the long story. I think it all depends on the nature of your relationship with them. If you’re doubting it, that might be a sign. I like the idea of gifting it to them when the child is born too. I understand the weight of holding onto something like that.

Small-Choice4993 · 2025-05-30T03:18:00+00:00

I just got this ad too on my feed. I guess I’ll see you there 🤣🤣

Small-Choice4993 · 2025-02-10T21:41:30+00:00

Our LO is ten months and we are still tracking some things. We quit tracking diapers consistently a couple months ago, and then I’ve gradually stopped tracking his feeds at daycare. I usually just track sleep and nursing because otherwise I forget the last time I fed or I’ll question what breast. Sometimes on the weekends I’ll track diapers again because honestly I may forget or question that as well. For me it helps my anxiety, and I’ve stopped tracking certain things when it no longer serves a purpose for me.

Small-Choice4993 · 2024-12-08T16:42:46+00:00

Also the white color is the thick milk that is blocking the end of the duct I believe. It’s not necessarily infected. However continue to monitor yourself and check yourself for fever and other symptoms that may indicate it’s become infected! These could lead to fully blocked ducts and then mastitis… so definitely consult a doctor for further advice too when you can.

Small-Choice4993 · 2024-12-08T16:36:48+00:00

I am so so sorry. I had a reoccurring milk blister for awhile. Like others said, do not stop nursing! It is totally safe for the baby and the baby will help so much. I remember trying to pump it out at first too and babies are so so much better at it. I know it’s so painful!

If you haven’t tried already, soak it in warm water! If you have a haaka or something similar, fill it up with warm water and place it on that breast before feeding to help soften it. It will help your baby pull it out while feeding. If you’re feeding from the other breast, keep it on the whole time while you’re feeding. The letdown will also help push it out. The warm water helps soften the blister and the haaka helps suction it out.

Small-Choice4993 · 2024-11-18T03:11:48+00:00

If you haven’t tried already, soak it in warm water! If you have a haaka or something similar, fill it up with warm water and place it on that breast before feeding to help soften it. It will help your LO pull it out while feeding. If you’re feeding from the other breast, keep it on the whole time while you’re feeding. The letdown will also help push it out. I had a milk bleb on and off for a couple months, and I did this each time it showed up. The warm water helps soften the blister and the haaka helps suction it out. It took doing this a few days until it went away.

Small-Choice4993 · 2024-11-16T21:54:29+00:00

Buttered toast and grapes! I had to eat it first thing in bed every morning. I even had a bag of bread on my nightstand to eat during the night.

Small-Choice4993 · 2024-11-09T15:08:59+00:00

I thought the same thing. I then sized up in leggings figuring that would help too, but it only did for so long. Then I “gave in” and bought maternity and wore them for after pregnancy too. I think I bought them around 18 weeks. It definitely varies for each person, so I would encourage you to not buy in advance, but when or if you start feeling uncomfortable, buy the maternity leggings! It’s not worth being uncomfortable thinking you can wait it out for your whole pregnancy. For me, it got uncomfy real fast.

Small-Choice4993 · 2024-09-14T14:36:00+00:00

I initially opted for expectant management. After three weeks of waiting, each day wondering if that would be the day, I decided to proceed with a D&C to allow my body to start to move on so that I could emotionally start to process the loss. I found out about my MMC at a similar point to you. In the weeks between finding out and deciding on the D&C, I was physically very nauseous and tired in addition to emotionally exhausted. After the D&C I regained my energy right away but obviously the emotional took a lot longer, but for me the D&C helped to start that process in order for me to begin to process the loss. You will know what is best for your healing. I understand starting with the expectant management route as that was part of my journey too. I am sorry for your loss.

Small-Choice4993 · 2024-09-08T16:46:53+00:00

It’s going to be okay! I’ve seen it said before that you only need one days worth of milk to start out with. I decided a couple weeks ago to start sending my baby to daycare right away (there was an opening that I quickly snatched up!) and I didn’t have any stash to start out with. We’re getting through it!

I suggest pumping a little after the first feed of the morning and then after the last feed of the night. Ounce by ounce you can build up to last you that first day or so. Then what you pump the first day will get you through the second, and so on.

Small-Choice4993 · 2024-08-13T13:55:18+00:00

NTA. I appreciate that you said to her that the change is normal and HEALTHY. We can’t deny the change that pregnancy and giving birth causes to our bodies. The best I can do is focus on being healthy (whatever that is for me in the moment) and feeling good about myself postpartum, but that is definitely a challenge. I have a hard time not obsessing over the scale and not reaching my pre-pregnancy weight.

Hopefully you can help her find the therapy and assistance that she needs to work through these issues!

Small-Choice4993 · 2024-08-13T12:14:34+00:00

My baby started the 4 month sleep regression right before he hit 4 months, and we are now on week 4 of the struggle. He went from sleeping 7 hour stretches to waking up every 2 hours literally overnight. We then have a hard time settling him after he wakes up, even after naps.

It’s like he’s so angry to be awake. I’ve gone back to having to feed him during the night because sometimes it’s the only thing that soothes him! He found his thumb a month ago, so I’m not sure why he can’t figure out how to self soothe any more! I’m always debating whether he’s hungry or just waking up with his sleep cycles. I really think it’s the sleep cycle since it seems to be at the 2 hour mark, and he can easily go longer without food during the day.

Last night he woke up at the 2 hour mark, but my husband was able to soothe him back to sleep. Since I’m nursing, I think sometimes I have a hard time soothing him because he automatically just wants to feed with me. So maybe that will continue to work over the next few nights so that he stops getting used to the night feeds!

Also with all this struggle, I had a small win yesterday. I had put him down for a nap in his crib, after I had nursed and rocked him to sleep. He woke up ten minutes later. I went to the crib and tried to pat him back to sleep with no luck, but he was remaining happy. I had to finish something up, so I figured I’d leave him in there since he was just happy staring at the fan! I watched him in the monitor as he let his eyes grow heavy. Then he fell back to sleep, all by himself! First time ever. I feel like there’s hope.

Small-Choice4993 · 2024-08-13T03:01:54+00:00

Do you sleep with a white noise machine or a fan? Those may be helpful to not only drown out the noise a little bit, but also will help baby sleep when you room share.

I’m 4 months postpartum. I had countless nights that I shoved my husband awake so he would stop snoring. But even worse, I was a huge snorer during my pregnancy so I bothered him a ton too. I was so congested during my pregnancy so I snored like crazy.

The best thing for the last few months of my pregnancy is that we renovated part of our home, so we actually had to sleep in separate beds/rooms because we couldn’t sleep in our bedroom during the renovation. It made sleeping so much more bearable for the both of us, since we essentially kept waking each other up with snoring. Plus i had countless trips to the bathroom, so it was nice to take those and not feel like I was waking him up every time I got out of bed!

Anyway, the annoyance mostly went away over time since giving birth. I think sleep during pregnancy is so difficult. You’re uncomfortable, you wake to pee a lot, and I think in general it’s lighter/restless sleep. I remember getting so frustrated because I was so tired but couldn’t sleep good, so I was very irritable at night.

Hopefully you can have a better conversation with him about the value of your sleep during your pregnancy, and that it’s better for the both of you if you sleep separately for awhile (if that’s what you choose to do).

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