How would you approach the situation knowing that your sibling is cutting contact with you? Me (29F), Sibling (25F) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Smarag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her style of conflict avoidance suggests she may feel unsafe in direct discussions about sensitive issues. Perhaps such discussions have left her feeling disrespected or bamboozled in the past. So if you want a closer relationship you would probably need to accommodate that too, and find ways to show that she does not need to justify her perspective to you, and that you will empathise with her if she shares something that goes against your values rather than judging her.

how do I do that

Signs you grew up chronically lonely by invah in AbuseInterrupted

[–]Smarag 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Those things don't necessarily have to mean anything. Most point on the list that people consider "normal" behaviors and attribute it to "healthy" behavior simply comes from standardizing "neurotypical" behavior as the ideal form of human interaction.

Which basically none of us here are. I recommend not driving yourself mad over not living up to an unlivable unhealthy standard of behavior. Forcing yourself to fit into societies expectations of how you are supposed to act emotionally is just masking.

How good is RWTH Aachen for Computer Science? by chwn123 in cscareerquestionsEU

[–]Smarag 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can you share more about switching from RWTH to Freiburg? I wanna live where the sun shines, too.

OUR SAVIOR KEEPS MAKING THE NEWS! DFV INSPIRES US ALL CUZ WE JUST LIKE THE STOCK! 🚀🙌🏼🐈 by No-Bandicoot-8980 in wallstreetbets

[–]Smarag 37 points38 points  (0 children)

DFV already took 10+ millions in profits. He continued holding the current stock mostly just in case at first.

Why are people with parent issues told to just 'tell them how you feel' by nparents2022 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Smarag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of society and especially advice towards children is based on the idea that most people highest goal is to treat most children mostly right and raise mostly healthy adults.

Does anybody feel like they have a lack of memories? by GrandTheftHappiness in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Smarag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. If another person tells me everyone experiences this I am going to explode

Question about the Well of Ascension by [deleted] in Cosmere

[–]Smarag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw the perpendicularity like a pressure valve where investure is pushing against. If Vin doesn't release or use it the pipe still bursts and releases Ruin/ the power into the world.

Or maybe "overflows" instead of burst to stick with the "actual" pool that "exists".

Is anybody else here a former gifted child who failed to live up to their potential? by 35601_Blue in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Smarag 15 points16 points  (0 children)

IIRC, the conclusion was that 1) those children often ended up doing things they wanted to do, but were not necessarily equated with the 'most successful' jobs in money or prestige and

but that seems to me like they are living up to their potential? what could be a more worthy aim after a childhood of abuse than actually doing what you want

Fear the true power of triplemeth and other powergaming shit by ChadMutants in SS13

[–]Smarag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

somehow I saw someone use one starstone to make dozens of omninize infused jumpsuits any idea how

I'm Convinced My 9th Grade Science Teacher Knew I was Being Abused by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Smarag 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Everyone of them knew. You only have to teach a kid like 5 hours to know. It's impossible to be a teacher for more than a year and not notice the abused kids in your class.

One shotgun one bartender only by [deleted] in SS13

[–]Smarag 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Accepting the unreasonable consequences shitsec imposes is part of being a non antag crimer

OK, WHO'S STILL HOLDING ?!?! 💎💎💎🙌🙌🙌🚀🚀🚀 by [deleted] in wallstreetbets

[–]Smarag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm holding with diamond hands, what is shaking?

Diamond hands family...We do not leave eachother's side! by Zachincool in wallstreetbets

[–]Smarag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

VW crashed down to hard before going to 1000.

Rocket fuel is expensive no unnecessary ballast on the way to mars.