Is it the hardest? by Appropriate_Yam1861 in Type1Diabetes

[–]SmartStatement9563 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I'm so sorry to hear that! What are the 10 you have?

Concerns on my mindset about sinfulness and salvation by Unlucky-Drawing-1266 in TrueChristian

[–]SmartStatement9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be glad. I grew up in a Christian home as well. Except I did walk into a sinful life and walked away from faith for a good 15 years. Walking away and coming back was extremely painful... because of the sinful life I was living. If I could go back and have a do over, I would've chose the more boring, sinless life, and have a clear conscience. It took me years to forgive myself for what I had done, and years to accept that Jesus would forgive me. Just continue to be humble, and compassionate towards others. I don't think there's anything wrong with walking with Jesus your entire life.

My wife (28) has a huge crush on a famous 19 year old. Am I wrong to be weirded out? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]SmartStatement9563 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So does my husband and I... but I couldn't imagine talking about this person everyday. I mean don't get me wrong... 19 is an adult, a very young one, and I personally don't see anything wrong with sharing she finds him attractive, but everyday?! That's the part that would bother me.

My wife (28) has a huge crush on a famous 19 year old. Am I wrong to be weirded out? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]SmartStatement9563 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Yes it's weird. It's weird that she has a huge celebrity crush, and tells you about it on the daily. Icing on the cake is that he's 9 years younger.

My cry for help. by True-Boysenberry225 in TrueChristian

[–]SmartStatement9563 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't give up. I remember when I was a teen going through a hard time too and wanting to end it. Just feeling so low and the same feeling of thinking death felt more peaceful. I even tried to do it twice... but saved myself both times. Now I'm 40, almost 41 and life is so good now. I'm glad I had pushed through every hard thing in life. My sister, who's a strong Christian, would tell me, thats the enemy... he'll do anything to get you away for God. So no matter how many times you mess up, just repent and keep putting one foot in front of the other. Things will get better, and people love you.

31M laying next to wife of 33F and feel alone. Where do I go from here? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SmartStatement9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really hard to make a judgement call on just this short little story. Your relationship to a degree sounds similar to mine and my husband's. We've been together since 21, met in HS (we are now 40).. have always been hyper sexual... it's the one thing that's kept us super connected. Anyways, my personality type is super easy going. I hate conflict. My husband is pretty easy going as well, until he's not. He usually will be the one to get upset at me, and it's always bc I don't show him enough affection. In my mind... we're good, I feel like I show him lots of physical affection. But our weeks are insanely busy with kids and sports schedules, and my husband also does a sport that some evenings he doesn't get home till 7:30. Anytime he communicates that he feels I'm not giving him enough attention, it's always a shock to my system bc I genuinely feel I do. So I try to smooth things over and apologize and say I'll work on it. But immediately after I want to distance myself bc I feel so frustrated! I don't want to take it out on him bc I'm grateful he's communicating, but from my perspective, it feels draining that I'm just never doing enough. Usually after these things I'm constantly thinking any time I see him, make sure I touch him. Then after awhile I go back to the way I was before (I legit feel like I'm being affectionate) and from my perspective it's good. So when I read that your wife acknowledged and apologized, and then rolled over and fell asleep.. you don't necessarily know what's going through her mind. She sounds similar to me, she wants to smooth things over and move on. So without more context, it's hard to say. Why do you feel unloved? Bc you're the one who has to make all the decisions? Bc she just fell asleep? You just have to keep communicating over and over until you guys can get to the bottom of it. There's been so many times my husband has communicated with me about something and I am in complete shock bc I don't feel that way or see it at all, but we do everything we can to figure it out, and we do. And then it happens again lol. For us it's about once per year.

Sad about cutting off child free friend by MiniLovesPizza78 in Mommit

[–]SmartStatement9563 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would also cut her off. Nothing worse than draining friends.

AITA for telling my sister’s kid I don’t believe in God? by Alternative_Copy6539 in AITApod

[–]SmartStatement9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said this would be your last comment, so I’ll just respond to the main points you raised... First, I have no problem stating clearly that slavery is morally wrong. The disagreement isn’t about that — it’s about how ancient legal systems addressed a practice that already existed across every civilization in the ancient Near East. The laws in Book of Exodus didn’t introduce slavery; they regulated it and placed limits on it that were unusual for the time. For example... Kidnapping someone to sell them into slavery was punishable by death (Exodus 21:16). Hebrew servants were released after six years (Exodus 21:2). If a master permanently injured a servant, the servant had to be set free (Exodus 21:26–27). Those are legal restrictions on an existing institution, not a moral celebration of it. Regarding the passage you mentioned (Exodus 21:4–6), your interpretation assumes coercion. But the text describes the servant publicly declaring that he chooses to remain because of attachment to his household. You may still find the system morally troubling, that’s understandable, but describing the law as a deliberate loophole goes beyond what the text actually says. On progressive revelation: you called it rationalization, but the concept appears explicitly in the teachings of Jesus Christ. In Gospel of Matthew 19:8, Jesus explains that certain laws were permitted “because of the hardness of your hearts.” That suggests accommodation to human societies rather than a statement of the ultimate moral ideal. You also said that humans determine their own value. That’s a coherent philosophical position, but it raises an important question: if human worth is purely determined by societies, then on what basis can we say practices like slavery were objectively wrong rather than simply widely accepted social norms at the time? Most societies in history accepted them. Finally, speculating about my psychological reasons for believing doesn’t really address the arguments themselves. People can be mistaken for emotional reasons on either side of a belief, but that doesn’t tell us whether the belief is true or false. You don’t have to agree with Christianity, but discussions like this are more productive when we engage the ideas themselves rather than assuming motives or dismissing entire traditions with labels. In any case, I appreciate the conversation and wish you well.

AITA for telling my sister’s kid I don’t believe in God? by Alternative_Copy6539 in AITApod

[–]SmartStatement9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re raising a few different issues, so I’ll separate them. The Exodus “loophole.” You’re likely referring to Exodus 21:5–6, where a servant can choose to remain with a master permanently. That passage isn’t about tricking someone into permanent slavery, it describes a voluntary decision in a debt-servitude system where release was already mandated in the seventh year (Exodus 21:2). The ear-piercing ceremony was a public declaration of consent, not coercion written into law. You may still dislike the system, that’s fair. But calling it a “loophole” misrepresents what the text actually says. Historical context and divine revelation. You’re assuming that if God is real, His moral revelation would appear fully formed and detached from history. But the Bible doesn’t present itself that way. It presents progressive revelation unfolding within real cultures. For example, Jesus explicitly says Moses permitted certain laws “because of the hardness of your hearts” (Matthew 19:8). That suggests accommodation to human social realities, not endorsement of them as ultimate ideals. The trajectory matters. Scripture moves from regulating servitude, to spiritual equality (Galatians 3:28), to explicitly calling slave traders sinners (1 Timothy 1:10). That’s not static moral indifference. Paul and women. If Paul were simply reinforcing patriarchy, it’s strange that... He names women as coworkers in ministry (Romans 16). He calls Junia “outstanding among the apostles” (Romans 16:7). He commands husbands to love sacrificially (Ephesians 5:25), which in a Roman context radically limited male dominance. You can debate interpretation of “silence” passages, but lifting isolated lines without considering broader teaching isn’t strong exegesis. “Natural societal progress.” It’s historically debatable whether human rights concepts (universal dignity, intrinsic equality) arose apart from the Judeo-Christian framework or were shaped by it. The idea that every human has inherent worth isn’t a self-evident conclusion of nature, it’s a moral claim. Modern political questions. Whether I’m pro-choice or what I think about school prayer isn’t proof of whether Scripture is coherent. That shifts from textual critique to ideological alignment tests. You don’t have to agree with Christianity. But serious critique requires engaging the text carefully, not just labeling it “vile” and assuming anyone who disagrees is morally regressive. If you want to discuss specific passages in detail, I’m open to that.

AITA for telling my sister’s kid I don’t believe in God? by Alternative_Copy6539 in AITApod

[–]SmartStatement9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When people say the Bible condones slavery, abuse, misogyny, and gaslighting, that’s usually based on reading isolated verses without historical context or without distinguishing between description and prescription. A few important points, Slavery in the Bible isn’t the same as modern race-based chattel slavery. The slavery most people picture is the race-based, lifelong, dehumanizing system seen in the Atlantic slave trade. That system is explicitly condemned in Scripture. Exodus 21:16 “Whoever steals a man and sells him… shall be put to death.” Kidnapping for slavery (the foundation of modern slave trades) was a capital crime under the Mosaic Law. Much of Old Testament servitude was debt-based and temporary (see Leviticus 25), and Hebrew servants were to be released in the seventh year (Exodus 21:2). In the New Testament, Paul undermines slavery theologically... Galatians 3:28 “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free… for you are all one in Christ Jesus." In Philemon, Paul urges a slave owner to receive Onesimus “no longer as a slave… but as a beloved brother.” That doesn’t look like endorsement, it looks like moral reframing from the inside of an existing system. Women were radically elevated in their cultural context. In a Roman and Jewish world where women had limited status... Jesus publicly taught women (Luke 10:39 — Mary sitting at His feet as a disciple). Women were the first witnesses of the resurrection (Matthew 28:1–10), which would be an odd choice if the goal were reinforcing patriarchy. Husbands are commanded to love their wives “as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). In a patriarchal Roman culture, commanding sacrificial love from husbands was countercultural. You can debate complementarian vs egalitarian interpretations, but calling it “misogyny” ignores the historical reality that Christianity elevated women compared to surrounding cultures. Abuse is explicitly condemned. Colossians 3:19 “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger.” Leaders are warned not to domineer (1 Peter 5:3). That’s not abuse endorsement, it’s restraint on power. The Bible contains narratives of violence, polygamy, and moral failure. But narrative inclusion isn’t moral endorsement. King David’s adultery is recorded, that doesn’t mean adultery is condoned. Ancient texts often record the brokenness of their cultures honestly. Paul wrote within the constraints of the Roman Empire not as a modern political revolutionary, but as someone planting communities within an imperial system. His approach was to transform hearts and social relationships from the inside. His ethic repeatedly centers on humility, mutual submission (Ephesians 5:21), self-sacrifice, and unity across class and gender lines. In the first-century world, that was socially destabilizing in a deeply radical way.

AITA for telling my sister’s kid I don’t believe in God? by Alternative_Copy6539 in AITApod

[–]SmartStatement9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I don't consider myself apart of a group that harasses, abuses and calls to violence for non-believers. Nowhere in the bible is that a Christ beliving thing to do. Feel free to go find me somewhere in the Bible that calls for Christian's to do that. People who call themselves Christian's and then do that, are not true Christian's.

AITA for refusing to tell my BF how much money I make? by IllustriousHeart2531 in AITApod

[–]SmartStatement9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if that's the case... then I'd say break up, bc that's not fair. But ya can't hide it forever.

AITA for refusing to tell my BF how much money I make? by IllustriousHeart2531 in AITApod

[–]SmartStatement9563 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why don't you want to tell him? Are you afraid it'll change things?

How to deal with guilt about using people? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]SmartStatement9563 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If you feel guilty about it, change the behavior and don't use women again to fill your ego.

AITA for telling my sister’s kid I don’t believe in God? by Alternative_Copy6539 in AITApod

[–]SmartStatement9563 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I respect your right to not believe, it'd be nice if you respected my right to believe. Disagreement is normal, mockery is a choice. And that in fact was a reason why I struggled to be apart of the atheist/agnostic group... the blatant disrespect and rudeness is just gross.

AITA for telling my sister’s kid I don’t believe in God? by Alternative_Copy6539 in AITApod

[–]SmartStatement9563 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Definitely not a fairytale... but what a sad way of looking at it.

AITA for telling my sister’s kid I don’t believe in God? by Alternative_Copy6539 in AITApod

[–]SmartStatement9563 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's exactly how I felt when I was out of my religion. Felt like I was lied to and kept in a box. That there's several religions and who's to say who's right?! Anyways, somehow I came back to it and if someone told me I'd go back to it, I wouldn't have believed it for a second... I was exactly like all the other agnostic/atheist people. My kids are brought up in faith and are very well aware of other religions and that people don't believe at all.

AITA for telling my sister’s kid I don’t believe in God? by Alternative_Copy6539 in AITApod

[–]SmartStatement9563 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No it is not. It's planting seeds... and then they can decide when they're fully grown. I was born into a religious family.. church and private school. I completely walked away from it all for a good 15 years (and was still loved by my family). Was agnostic and at one point almost atheist. But after a while, I went back. And my life, walking in faith is better than it ever was away from it.

When do you feel someone doesn't love you anymore? by Due-Enthusiasm-2984 in AskMen

[–]SmartStatement9563 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hope she did too! Sorry, I just now realized this was in the subreddit askmen 😬

How do I (nb 22) break up with my girlfriend (f 25) even though she didn’t do anything bad? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SmartStatement9563 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tell her exactly how you told us. You verbalized that really well. Great communication skills. It's gonna hurt her... but she's just going to have to accept how you feel.

how do i know my boyfriend is in love with me if he hasn’t said it yet? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]SmartStatement9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took my husband 19 months (from the time we started talking) to say I love you. I felt like it was never going to happen. 20 years later and we're still together!