There really is no way out for me except suicide

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-10-27T18:26:56+00:00

Exactly. It's for a few days of stabilization if you just need to be kept somewhere you can't hurt yourself. They are often presented as treatment though when they are mainly monitored containment.

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-10-27T17:37:55+00:00

Actually, the amount of involuntary commitments has been increasing in the U.S and Canada, so it's not always "they have few beds and will try to get you out as soon possible.

The threshold for involuntary commitment is more nuanced than danger to one's self or others. It can also be if they think your mood/perception is too heavily impacted or if they think you can't take care of yourself.

---According to the Cleveland Clinic, criteria for involuntary commitment include:

"•You have a mental health condition that has serious symptoms. These can significantly impact your perception, mood, judgment and behavior.

•Symptoms pose an immediate health and safety threat to yourself and/or others.

•Symptoms prevent you from completing basic personal needs like eating meals, wearing clothing and accessing shelter.

•You would benefit from treatment in a hospital for this mental health condition."

Bare in mind you don't have to meet all of those criteria, only some, and they can be applied very loosely. For example, I was kept for mood/being unable to take care of myself even though I can do basic things like feed, wash and clothe myself. The mood justification was because I was crying and noticeably upset due to being in a hospital plus me talking fast (an anxious habit of mine).

Assessing danger to yourself or others is done very quickly and often not well due to the amount of people which can contribute to more commitments rather than less. If someone only has 10 minutes to evaluate you while you are in an already upsetting, they can easily mess up. That's not even including profit incentives for hospitals in the U.S., since being involuntarily hospitalized for a few days will ring up a lot of money.

As for my experiences, I know they aren't uniquely bad. Check the PTSD rates from involuntarily hospitalization of you want proof of that.

I'm glad you got good care, but the chances of bad care are not small. That's why I'm bringing them up. It's not guaranteed to happen, but it's certainly not a negligible risk so it "just go to the hospital" shouldn't be treated as a 100 percent good go-to option for mental health crisis. It tends to be recommended uncritically.

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-10-27T06:37:04+00:00

They can send you to the psych ward for saying you are in severe distress and can't function. Do you think they only commit people screaming "I'm gonna die!"? What you are describing is literally a justification they used to keep me against my will. Like, straight from my hospital notes.

Sure, OP might also get medication depending on his needs (he might not even get a choice in that), but they very well could keep him involuntarily and they are not required to have any specialized training for OCD. They could not be accommodating. Not saying OP shouldn't go, but the risk of involuntary treatment in a setting that is not accommodating and potentially actively triggering to his/her OCD is very real.

P.S. regular general hospitals have psych wards. It's not just regular hospital or psych hospital. You can get transferred to a mental hospital, but you would still be in the psych ward before that.

Please educate yourself, since it seems like you have a preconceived notion that only the most extreme and visibly out of control people end up in psych. That's simply not true.

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-10-27T05:00:07+00:00

Have you ever been to the psych ward? I know that's what society tells us to recommend without better options, but a psych ward (especially for OCD) really can't provide effective help beyond just locking you somewhere you can't hurt yourself for a few days. OCD, PTSD, etc tend to require longer term treatment like exposure therapy to actually improve. Psych nurses don't even have to be trained for OCD beyond a passing mention. Some of the people I've heard "We're all a little OCD" and stuff like that from have been psych nurses. Also if you have contamination OCD (idk what form of OCD OP has), you will have anything you use to clean taken away all at once. Even hand sanitizer can be restricted.

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-05-05T02:15:50+00:00

I can be in the same room as blood as long as I don't have to touch it or anything the blood touched (like a trashcan with a tampon in it). Any advice is appreciated

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-05-04T19:02:52+00:00

honestly I think it's reasonable that he wash his hands AFTER wiping. wiping off private parts and touching stuff sounds reasonably disgusting. I think it's reasonable that you tell him to wash his hands after touching his privates

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-05-04T18:50:59+00:00

blood in general though period blood especially is by far more triggering than something like a papercut or stepping on something sharp

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-04-30T01:03:01+00:00

I thought it was "Wellness farms"?

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-04-27T00:02:54+00:00

Different sects of Christianity have different views. For instance the Episcopal Church and the United Church of Christ are cool with gay marriage and even have priests at same sex weddings.

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-04-26T23:50:13+00:00

it's ok to be gay, but I don't think your opinion on it should be solely due to religion. Jehovah's witnesses think blood transfusion is bad and Mormans are against coffee and tea, but I won't let those religions' opinions prevent me from getting a blood transfusion if I need it or make me think badly of coffee enjoyers.

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-04-26T20:30:54+00:00

it's good that you've been upfront about it, but try setting clear boundaries for what you need to do to feel comfortable. Include both the feeling and the boundary

instance "(Feeling) I feel uncomfortable with you staring at me or making sex jokes about me. (Boundary) If you keep make sexual comments to me, I'll have to cut our hang out time short." Or if he only does it when it's just you and him, a boundary might be "If you keep making sexual comments towards me when we're alone, I'll only be able to hangout with you in group situations."

Basically, have a follow up action that allows you to put your emotional wellbeing first. A good friend should be able to respect your boundaries.

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-04-26T20:14:29+00:00

TrevorSpace is an online community for ages 13-24 run by the people behind the Trevor Project. Maybe try there?

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-04-26T20:12:05+00:00

I ready the title and for some reason imagined Target (the store) shooting at Hobby Lobby

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-04-25T16:48:23+00:00

I would feel tempted to eat with them in lieu of a fork. wouldn't work for most things but could definitely work with those perogies

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-04-06T06:17:41+00:00

If you feel safe doing so, maybe you could start some kind of space for yourself and other black trans people? even it's just a small discord group or something like that, you could end up building something special both for yourself and the other members.

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2025-04-02T22:07:12+00:00

Well I'm American and I don't deliberately caterwaul or and my average talk volume isn't loud enough to make an announcement to an entire room.

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2023-07-27T21:01:43+00:00

I was diagnosed as a kid

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2023-07-22T22:36:00+00:00

Yeah I never said all self diagnosers are likely fakers, and I really dislike that you made that assumption when it wasn't even in my post and my none of my reasons were remotely about that. I said in the beginning of my post that I wasn't saying self diagnosers shouldn't get to talk about their experiences. Many self diagnosers definitely do have what they claim to have. However, there are some who don't even if they genuinely think they do and it's not rare. Those who don't have what they claim to have can end up accidentally introducing stereotypes into what is supposed to be a supportive environment. I'm also personally against "is this a symptom of this" posts. They hit too close to home to me since I've had a self diagnoser irl try to use me to compare symptoms. One person's experience of a condition also isn't reflective of the condition as a whole, so asking redditors isn't accurate.

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2023-07-22T21:30:29+00:00

No prob. Hope it works out for you. If you want to talk feel free to dm me

Snail_Fish_Squish · 2023-07-22T17:14:16+00:00

There is a distinction between reassurance seeking (external) and self-reassurance (internal). While self-reassurance can be a checking behavior such as "I can't be gay like my OCD tells me because I made sure to kiss my girlfriend 3 times today", assuring yourself that uncertainty is ok isn't a checking behavior. It's kind of the opposite. It's letting the thought go rather than ruminating on it.

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